How to handle a Kiss Cam

Le Chateau correctly observes that public Kiss Cams are BETA bait.

A private friendzoning is a punch to the nuts, but a public friendzoning….well that’s just a drawing and quartering of a man’s soul. Unnecessary cruelty. A day-spa visit to the Chateau imbibing the lessons herein could’ve saved this man such a public humiliation. Not to mention spared him the time and energy he’s obviously wasted chasing a phantom pussy.

There is only one correct way to handle a Kiss Cam, regardless of whether you are a Stone Cold Alpha or a delusional Gamma out with your Dream Girl Who Cries On Your Shoulder.

1. Make a confused face.
2. Point at her with your rear hand, i.e. the one on the side away from her.
3. Look at her. Then look back at the camera.
4. Clearly say "who is that?" or "she's my sister". 

You're welcome.

Stupid white girls

One would think they come equipped with death wishes standard

The man suspected of murdering a British backpacker in Goa has been escorted to a police station with a bag over his head, as authorities confirmed the 28-year-old was raped before her death. Danielle McLaughlin was found in a pool of blood on Tuesday morning after she had attended Holi celebrations at Palolem beach. Her killer reportedly sexually assaulted her and 'disfigured' her face with a beer bottle.

A local man, 23-year-old Vikat Bhagat, who police said was a known thief, has been arrested on suspicion of murder and is said to have made a confession.

Witnesses who were with Danielle the night before she was found dead have since revealed she was pulled away from them by five locals she said she knew who told her: 'You're with us, remember?'

White women simply don't understand that foreign cultures don't play "beta orbiter" game very well. And anytime a young woman says "I know what I'm doing", you can be damned sure that she has no idea what she has gotten herself into.

SSH in the workplace

I'd posted this at VP, but it occurred to me that it belonged here, for the record. SSH = Socio-Sexual Hierarchy.

One of the challenges of running any organization, be it professional or volunteer, is dealing with the quirks of its various members, most of which are based on their socio-sexual status. Alphas are going to have inappropriate affairs, Betas are going to get promoted over their heads, Lambdas are going to talk relentlessly, and inappropriately, about their personal predilections and social lives, Gammas are going to preen, posture, pout, and occasionally sabotage projects and people, Sigmas are going to create the occasional intra-organizational upheaval, for good or ill, and Omegas are going to get themselves accused of sexual harassment.

That's all normal. You have to expect it as long as you're going to work with human beings. The key is learning to anticipate the problems and head them off at the pass.

Don't let the Alpha hire a hot secretary, or at the very least, be sure she isn't a married woman. Keep the Beta in a well-paid supporting position and give him a young subordinate Alpha to help him make decisions and don't promote him over his head.

Put the Lambda near the women where he'll entertain them. Try to steer the Sigma's idiosyncracies in a direction where he'll help the organization rather than harm it; they make great leaders of skunk works and horrendously bad middle managers. Give the Gammas tasks that flatter their egos, shield them from any criticism that isn't absolutely necessary, and keep them far away from any managerial responsibilities. Stash the Omegas where they can't creep out the women.

Most importantly, keep everyone out of the way of the Deltas who actually do most of the meaningful work. Remember, if they're not actively assisting the Deltas, they're obstructing them. This goes for the women too.

Sowing wild oats never ends

The idea that promiscuous individuals will "get it out of their system" turns out to be generally untrue:

Your partner’s relationship history also plays a part: if they’ve cheated on other partners, it’s more likely they will cheat on you.

One recent study found every person you sleep with before marriage increases your likelihood of cheating by one per cent. The ‘sow your wild oats’ theory turns out to be rubbish. Far from getting it out of your system, the more your partner slept around before you settled down, the more likely they are to have an affair.

While I can testify that this is not always the case, it is in general true that the more an individual gets around prior to marriage, the more likely they are to do so during marriage. This is particularly true if they have not significantly altered their lifestyle in any way.

Alpha Mail: is this how it's done?

A reader wants to know if this is how it is done:

I would appreciate your score on this.  I'm yet to see it through to fruition but it seems promising.  I would appreciate criticisms.  Bear in mind that I would deliberately go out for a cigarette and leave about 7 minutes between most posts.
It was a joy to meet you tonight.  You are a fascinating and beautiful woman.  Hope to see you again some time. With a great sense of humour, I should add...

Hi X, thanks so much for your compliments. I'm really glad I got to meet you.

You're leaving soon? That's a shame.  I'm not interested in breaking up marriages but I would have enjoyed flirting with you. Flirting with an unavailable 9 is good practice.

 yes A 9 only??😳😃 ok I guess that's pretty good.

It's the game.  You twig their insecurity by calling them less than a 10, while also observing their desire to be seen as perfect.  Had I not brought you in on the strategy, I would be more attractive to you now than I was 24 hours ago, simply because you now want to be seen as a 10 in my eyes.
It's all psychology...

The sexy lesbian look does suit you, but overall the long blonde hair in your photos does you the best justice.  Although I cannot fault the figure.

Yes indeed on the psych stuff. Interesting what you think about the blonde. There were only one or two people in my world that shared your opinion. I just had to find out if blondes have more fun.

The hair colour isn't the issue, so much as the length.  There's a rule of thumb among unattached men that short haired women are damaged.  Girls that have been in bad breakups and are angry at the male gender in general, often cut off all their hair.  Women know that men prefer generally, long hair, so cutting it off is an act of hostility, masked as self empowerment.  It's a red flag.  Mind you in your case, the short hair drew attention your other assets, which were ample.

I would not have guessed you are a mother, twice over.

Yes. It was a very tough decision to go short. In my case it was not related to any of what you had mentioned but I can most certainly see how it may have been reasons for others who have gone short. 

Thank you for the compliment!

No, that is not how it is done. I'd give it a score of three, and that only because the "9" comment provoked a reaction, but "7" would have been better. First, way too flowery and complimentary. Second, way, way, WAY too wordy. This guy is turning Roissy's 1-3 ratio on its head and multiplying it by two.

The shaking-my-head aspect is that he thinks he's doing great because she's thanking him for the compliments, not realizing that he's being openly blown out. She's graciously accepting his homage, she knows she has no need to qualify herself to him nor any interest in him.

Look, talking about Game to women is not indicative of being a masterful player who is an expert on the fair sex, it simply informs them that you're a sperg who doesn't understand what he's read. That's like a woman telling a man, "you like my big breasts? Well, they're really just a push-up bra. And see, look how under my makeup I've actually got a really awful complexion."

Now, the guy showed the courage to put himself out there, he clearly attempted to outkick his coverage, he did (subsequently) push for a get-together, and he is seeking to improve via feedback. Hence the three. We're not talking hopeless here, but we are talking about Gamma based on the pedestalization and excessive floweriness. This means that the route to improvement and eventual success will begin with the self rather than the mechanics.

Care to predict how this will turn out?

If she's a little TOO eager

It's probably because there is something very wrong:

If she’s acting desperate, it’s because there is something about her that’s broken. If you aren’t escalating and she already wants sex, it’s a cloak and dagger. Even if you don’t see anything, you aren’t safe. Herpes and other diseases often can’t be seen, but can still be caught. Condoms can protect you, but the risk still exceeds the reward. There are seven billion people on earth. You can find one that isn’t afflicted with a lifelong condition. She wants you to become what she is. That way it cuts your options down from everything, to almost nothing. That almost nothing of course includes her.

Pay attention to red flags. And above all, pay attention to your instincts. If something is telling you to eject, don't hesitate. Get out, and get out fast. You can figure out why later.

Men overestimate themselves too

When they don't go out and experience rejection:

Perhaps you are new to the game, or maybe you’ve been out of it for a long while, due to a long-term relationship or marriage. Either way, even if you’re the world’s most insecure guy, the chances are you will overestimate your SMV (sexual market value) – by five points.

Yes, that’s right. Most guys new to game think they are a whole five points higher than the women they approach rate them.... It is only by going out into the real world, approaching real-life women, hitting on them (and making it obvious that you’re doing so) that you will get feedback that is worth anything.

And the chances are, unless you’re a natural, that feedback is going to say ‘sorry, you’re not good enough.’

Rejection stings everyone. It hurts, initially. But like working out, you soon adapt to the pain and the results soon make that initial pain worthwhile.

No pain, no gain is as true of Game as it is of the gym. Go out. Fail. Fail faster. Because, as Aerosmith pointed out several decades ago, you've got to lose to know how to win.

If you think about it, the reason men overestimate their SMV is the same reason women overestimate it: lack of rejection.

500k pageviews

Thanks to all of you who made this milestone possible.  Today marks the first time Alpha Game has exceeded half a million pageviews in a month, and it would not have happened were it not for the many contributions made by Delta Man and other contributors and commenters.

The Theory of Game is changing the world through changing each individual man's perspective on both intersexual relations and his place in the socio-sexual hierarchy. The better we can understand the world around us and our place in it, the more effectively we can act to change it for the better.

That's not bad for a "shitty little Game blog" that now has more daily traffic than the site that once dismissed it.

Mindset programming

I'm a big believer in mindset programming of the sort Mike Cernovich teaches in his bestselling Gorilla Mindset. I've noticed that when I'm in a good mood, I tend to gravitate towards upbeat techno music, which then tends to enhance and underline that mood. Consider, for example, the lyrics of this club hit from the early 1990s by The Shamen:

I will not fail nor falter, I shall succeed
My perception is altered I do believe
Faith is so strong now nothing shall bar my way
From conviction, no fiction, this is my day

I can move move move any mountain
I can move move move any mountain
I can move move move any mountain

I walk so tall, ascending, I stand so high
Earth below me we both meet above the sky
I feel no fear to be here is oh so fine
Shining brightly like sunlight inside my mind

You literally cannot get more mentally positive than that. Throw in some catchy electronic riffs, a good programmed beat, and some unconscionably cheesy early 90s quasi-raps, and it's no surprise that it was a hit.

But put the cheese aside for the time being and try listening to it when you're going to an important meeting or heading into a difficult situation. I guarantee you'll walk in there feeling as if you unexpectedly find yourself meeting with a tiger, you'll just rip its balls off and stuff them down its throat.

Mood is momentary, but mindset is a choice. Learn to program the latter and you'll soon find yourself able to alter the former. And notice how the message is the direct opposite of the despairing, discouraging one that so many people have on autoplay in their minds. And the key to it all is the first part of the third line of the second verse: I feel no fear.

Alpha Mail: the end of online dating

A fifty-something gentleman gives Plenty of Fish a try.

A friend told me for a good laugh to check out Plenty of Fish. It is a free introduction/dating site. I put in an age range and zip code for search purposes and voila!

It is incredible!

1. You have the land whales showing way too much flesh and often hideous tattoos. Why it is land whale wear big rimmed glasses.

2. The females who have to make a "funny" face on the picture. A favorite seems to be a squeezing of the lips from both sides (pursing) to create a jutting, more vertical mouth. That one I don't get.

3. The psychopaths with the disturbing gaze into the camera. Their eyes are saying "Helter Skelter!"

4. I am convinced a few are actually men claiming to be women.

5. In general bad pictures. If I were on a dating site, I would be in my most appealing clothes, have a new haircut, some make up on. If I were overweight, I would probably try and work out for a month or two to tone up.

6. "I am a single mother with five children." As if that is a lure?

7. The profile titles as "I am tired of games," "No games, no drama," "This site sucks" etc. The anger is right out there for all to see.

8. Here and there, you do see a female who appears normal. They are outliers due to their scarcity. If the profiles are truthful, they are generally nurses or some sort of management. The scarcity of normalcy makes them stick out.

It is not a surprise that most take no pride in their appearance and make no effort to make a good impression. The nature of our slovenly society. I am of the view if someone does not take pride in their appearance, they don't take pride in anything else in their life either.

I did a search on age 36-52 out of morbid curiosity. I am 52, will be 53 in October. I was shocked at how aged from in their mid and late 40s looked. Probably a combination of cigarettes and too much sun exposure. Ridden hard and out wet.

There may be plenty of fish, but they're not the sort of much appeal to the average fisherman.

Finding your mission

I spoke with a reader yesterday who was wondering how he can concentrate on his mission when he doesn't have one and doesn't even know what he wants it to be.

My advice was to begin by assisting the missions of others you respect, admire, or whose missions you find worthy of support. Most men are not leaders; most men cannot be leaders of other men anyhow since if everyone was a leader, there would be no one to lead. The social hierarchy is a pyramid, with fewer captains than lieutenants, and fewer lieutenants than soldiers.

So, find your mission by becoming a soldier. Over time, if you prove yourself useful, capable, and interested, you will become a lieutenant. Most men will be content in either role; only gammas and alphas naturally seek leadership and no good leader truly enjoys it due to the burden of responsibility for others it imposes upon him.

This is particularly true of sigmas, who don't seek leadership, but often find it being thrust upon them regardless of what they want. Gammas, of course, inevitably turn out to be a disaster whenever they manage to thrust themselves into a leadership position since they don't even accept responsibility for themselves, let alone for anyone else.

Anyhow, if you're not sure about your mission, go find someone who has one and offer them your assistance. Not me; I have no shortage of high-quality lieutenants and soldiers. But there are many good men out there who are in need of your help in moving their missions forward. Help yourself by helping them.

Of media and mudshark murder

Burn de coal, pay de toll:

A missing person report submitted Sunday afternoon in Red Lion, Pennsylvania, led authorities to check on Rebekah Jea Strausbaugh at a house where she lived with her boyfriend, Michael Anthony Morant, police said.

A relative of Strausbaugh reported her missing Sunday, two days after she failed to return from a trip to Baltimore.

Investigators said Morant, 48, went to Baltimore on Saturday to look for Strausbaugh, 30, and found her at the Shake Shack on Pratt Street. Police said the two got into an argument while driving north on Interstate 83.

Police said the couple stopped near Ensor Mill and Belfast roads in the Sparks area, where the argument turned physical. According to a court charging document, Morant admitted to pushing Strausbaugh to the ground, causing her to hit her head.

Police said Strausbaugh suffered injuries that left her unresponsive.

"Her boyfriend took her body, drug her into the woods and covered her body with a blanket, and left her there to die," Baltimore County police Cpl. John Wachter said.

I find it interesting that increasingly, in the case of these mudshark murders, the media is beginning to avoid showing pictures of the black murderer with the white victim. I suppose it puts a rather negative capstone on all those happy multiracial commercials they are showing these days.

A cop explains why not-rape is not prosecuted

It's not exactly a mystery why the police aren't aggressively pursuing cases that can't possibly be prosecuted successfully:

What gets reported is “Well, me and my girlfriends met at Lisa’s apartment to pre- game. I had a beer and a shot there. Then we went to This Bar and That Bar and I had three shots at the first place and an Appletini at the second place plus this guy gave me half his beer. So, we were dancing and then Lisa and Cindy left. So the guy who gave me half his beer said we should go to This Other Bar to meet his friend and we did. And I had two shots and then he bought me this mixed drink… I don’t remember what it was called or what was in it. And then I had another beer and we danced and I remember we were making out at one point in the bathroom and I gave him a blow job. Then I remember we left This Other bar-”

Needle scratch. Wait a minute. You gave him oral sex?

“Well, yeah…”

So, back to our narrative, our victim and the guy she just met “hook up” consensually and close down the bar and now its 2 AM and she can’t really remember much after that, just bits and pieces, until she woke up in a strange place next to a strange man.

And there’s your other big piece of the reported sexual assault puzzle: Hook up culture. Everything up to PIV is on the table when you’re hitting the bar scene. It’s almost a given.

The twist? It’s not the guy she was dancing with and gave oral sex to. It’s his roommate. She thinks she had sex, but she can’t remember. She went home and talked to her roommate and her roommate talked her into coming to the hospital.

So she has the exam and she’s got no physical injuries because nobody beat, punched, or choked her. And we talk to the guy and the roommate and their story is that she came home with them and she and the roommate sat up talking and smoking weed after the guy she came home with passed out in the living room and one thing led to another and the roommate had consensual sex with her too.

And out of this morass of bad decisions and contradictory claims, the social justice types want us to present a viable prosecution? Ain’t happening.

If you're genuinely concerned about not being raped, consider not handing the defense attorney iron-clad reasonable doubt.

The Feminist Revolution devours its own

It doesn't matter how gender-correct a man is, it doesn't matter how loudly he proclaims himself a feminist, because sooner or later he will be deemed an Enemy of the Revolution and metaphorically beheaded:

Springfield College recently cancelled a “Men in Literature” course on the grounds that its inordinate emphasis on one gender creates a “hostile environment” for women.

Professor Dennis Gouws began teaching the course back in 2005, and has offered it several times since then upon the encouragement of his department chair. The course was intended to survey contemporary culture’s preoccupation with gender by specifically focusing on the male role in culture.

“You do not afford students the opportunity to choose a gender to write about nor do you require all students to write about the opposite gender. Such is certainly a concern from an academic and even legal perspective."

“He never set out to be a gadfly against progressive dogma or a stalwart opponent of the ideological regime. He was, to the contrary, picked for the part by the regime itself,” Peter Wood, president of National Association of Scholars, explains in a detailed account of Gouws’ case.

Now, though, Springfield has determined that Gouws’ course is unfit to teach after the chair and dean of his department questioned the content of his syllabus, claiming that Gouws focused too much on the male’s societal function rather than his portrayal in literature.

Feminism is cancer, and like cancer, it will kill its host.

Gauging your success

If you think like you’ve been making improvements in your life and increased your status here are some ways to tell.

Shopping

Female retail workers go out of their way to help you, genuinely smile at you, and very friendly when they don’t have to be.  Yes, they are paid to be friendly and helpful but here are some signs: she makes small talk about your purchases and wants to know what you like, there are a couple of open registers and she flags you over to hers with a big smile, when helping you with something she makes unnecessary physical contact like a hand on a shoulder or standing close enough to press against you, if you appear disinterested in her small talk she tries multiple times to engage you in conversation. Most women in retail are three to six but since people generally try for two ranks above themselves add two to whatever you gauge her at and you get a rough idea of where you stand.

This is a good opportunity even if you have zero desire to actually go out with the girl to practice some game if you’d like. Don’t break eye contact first, say something slightly inappropriate, compliments, negs, etc. Remember there’s no downside here only opportunity. You’ll probably never see her again unless you frequent the store.

Work and community

You are invited to attend important meetings in and out of work and they desire your opinion when you have no obligation to attend. This isn’t an instance where you get roped into a group invite for a meeting, but someone specifically asks for your attendance and opinion on something only tangentially related to your job or area of expertise.

You are invited to attend social events by the higher ups at your company.

After a meeting at work upper management doesn’t give you that look to leave if touchy small talk ensues. The after meetings are where a lot of the important stuff is actually decided.

An attractive woman in the office brings in food and offers it to you first or only to you.

You end up with an invite to social events attended by the local politicians and minor celebrities in your area. (If you don’t attend and then get another invite you are almost certainly a Beta, Alpha or Sigma.)

Social

You are in a social setting and go sit or stand by yourself for a moment and a small crowd of people you know starts to form around you. You suddenly find that younger and lower ranking men naturally gravitate to you and then the women follow. To be clear this is when you are doing your own thing, intentionally give yourself some privacy, but then people show up anyway to be in your presence. If you are indifferent enough they’ll figure it out and leave. Being an introvert I find this is mildly annoying because many times I’m by myself for a reason, but I try to use the opportunity to build relationships and solidify my status.

Since improving status is typically a long process many times other people will point out the change because it gradually becomes natural for you. Some men will “suddenly” be jealous of your female attention, women will comment on something important you did or just want to be in your presence. Only on introspection will you realize that people are treating you differently. 

Why rich people are miserable

Mike Cernovich explains why, and more importantly, how to avoid following their example:

Living life on your terms is an offensive game.

Living life on your terms means setting the agenda. Only work with people you want to work with. Only talk to people you want to talk with.

You no longer need to explain yourself to people. If someone bores you, move on. If someone annoys you, why waste your time?
Remember that life is about focus and energy.

Where are you focusing your vision and how are you applying your energy?

Are you focusing your vision on negative people and then using your energy to fight off bad vibes and toxic emotions?

How much more energy would you have if you weren’t always recovering from negative experiences?

While he doesn't spell it out precisely, one major reason why rich people are miserable is that everyone wants to be around them because everyone wants something from them. That's why so many of them become reclusive and suspicious; they haven't got the ability to ruthlessly cull the positive people who contribute to their lives from the negative people who ruin it.

If you want to prove you are worthwhile to someone, then do something for them. Don't do it as a quid pro quo, do it as a demonstration of merit. Maybe good things will come of it. Maybe not. Regardless, you will be the better off for it.

Don't be a parasite. Don't be constantly asking others to do things for you, and give things to you. Figure out how you can help others, how you can be of use to others, and it won't be too terribly long long before people will be wanting to do the same for you.

Be who you are

And work within that framework. Marco Rubio learned that one the hard way:

But three days later, at a university rally in Virginia before Super Tuesday, he took the anti-Trump onslaught in a new and uncharacteristic direction, mocking his opponent’s “spray tan” and “small hands,” a below-the-belt reference to Trump’s manhood. As the college crowd went berserk, Rubio’s aides were besieged with dazed and irate missives from donors, allies, and friends. Rubio’s reputation as conservatism’s upbeat, optimistic standard-bearer — so meticulously crafted over so many years — was dissolving before their eyes. They feared it could mark not just the demise of his 2016 campaign, but the collapse of what once seemed a bright political future.

Rubio’s team defended the ad hominem attacks as a necessary evil, arguing that they had no other way to eat into Trump’s wall-to-wall media coverage. “There’s this tension between staying on substance and playing to what’s become a reality-TV election,” one Rubio adviser says. “And we gave in to the urge to play to reality TV.” It nonetheless represented a stark and bizarre departure, and, making matters worse, it failed to reverse the downward trajectory of Rubio’s campaign.

Game is about emulating the naturally successful, but that emulation is a gradual process of transformation. It's like lifting weights; lift, and over time you will get bigger and be able to bench press 225 pounds without any trouble.

But try it the first time out and you're going to smash your sternum. Don't try to fake who you are, transform who you are. And transformation is a process, not a declaration or an act.

Doing their work for them

Every man has, at one point or another, dealt with a girl or a woman batting her eyelashes at him while asking for "help". Which, of course, is usually translated as "will you do my work for me?" Luke Stranahan considers what to do when faced with this at the office:

HR demographics are a rigged game. When equality is defined as an excuse to treat men horribly in an ill-considered attempt to balance out a fictitious dystopian vision of the past for women, it is clear that men will never receive fair treatment until significant change occurs. You have to protect yourself.

If you work with a typical female technical type who thinks she knows far more than she does, the best thing to do is to disengage completely. It’s not your battle, nor your responsibility, to make sure her stuff gets done. If she doesn’t ask for help, good; don’t allow her to profit off your expertise. If she does ask, tell her that you’re happy to help, but she needs to go through management to make sure they’re good with you spending time on it. This will probably get her to back off, as she was looking for you to freebie white knight for her while she could take the credit and not look stupid.

If you’re told to work with her, attempt to do so. If she rebuffs you (and she will), document this with your boss. “I offer to help every day, but she simply won’t listen.”

My advice is to simply treat them exactly the same way you would treat a man who asks for help. Since they don't actually want assistance or explanations, but the aforementioned freebies, that's usually sufficient to encourage them to go in search of easier targets.

Of course, I've got a lot of practice at it. As the only male class "brain", I was often targeted as potential "help" by girls from an early age. My answer was always the same, and it was always effective: "I don't even do my own homework, why on Earth would I do yours?"

Build to be happy

This is the second part of Mike Cernovich's recent post that I found so significant. It merits closer contemplation:

People do not want to be happy, as becoming happy requires you to take action. Miserable people won’t watch a sunset or volunteer at a soup kitchen, even though those activities are proven to increase happiness. Stressed out people aren’t going to meditate.

People love being “who they are,” as that requires them to take no effort to change. Avoid those people like the plague, as they are diseased of the mind....

Finding happy friends as a man will be a constant challenge. Finding a happy woman is even harder.

The best strategy to find quality people is to become one yourself while ruthlessly cutting out toxic people, users, and manipulators.

As you work to improve yourself, one thing that you will find is that the world can be divided into three groups of people.

1. Those who are indifferent to you. This is the vast majority of people out there.
2. Those who will support you. This is, by far, the smallest group.
3. Those who will attempt to tear you down. This group isn't huge, but it can be alarming to discover who is in it.

It's not just miserable people who will try to prevent you from improving yourself. Your wife or your girlfriend may feel threatened by feeling that you are moving out of her league and try to sabotage you. If you've got a Gamma father, he may belittle your efforts and attempt to make you feel as if your efforts are pointless. If you've got female friends, they may attempt to "put you in your place" or "let the air out of you". Your male acquaintances may even try to physically keep you in your place in the socio-sexual hierarchy to prevent themselves sliding below you.

That's why Cernovich is right to tell you to ruthlessly cut them out of your life. It doesn't matter if they are friends or family, if they can't even manage to be neutral towards your efforts at self-improvement, they have to go. There is a word for someone who actively attempts to hinder your efforts and make your life worse, and that word is enemy.

That's the bad news. The good news is that you will make new and better friends, people who are moving forward themselves. In the same way that gym rats tend to bond, people who are active and alive tend to like each other. I hit it off instantly with Mike; I recognized him as someone who was not content to coast, but was intent on achieving more tomorrow than he had today. It wasn't just interesting to talk about his plans with him, it was energizing.

And people like to be energized. So, if you want to improve your own life, learn how to be supportive of others and boost their energy levels, don't be a vampire and seek to boost your own by draining others.

Live to avoid "the look"

Mike Cernovich writes one of his most important posts ever. You simply must read it if you want to have a fulfilling and successful life:

I learned how to tell if a man was dead by looking in his eyes. When living in Thailand and Vietnam, you learn how to spot the look.

The look is what an old man gives when a short-haired harpy leads him down the streets of Vietnam. The man glances around to see smiling, feminine women everywhere. He may even see an older man with one of those smiling women.

“What’s taking you so long,” he hears from her shrill voice.

Slowly a realization hits. A man has wasted his life serving an ungrateful nag. He could have had so much more. His soul leaves him.

Men over 40 were lied to. The rest of us have no excuse. Before the Internet, men didn’t know any better. They did what worked for their parents generation – meet a nice girl who will become a great wife and mom, get a job, work hard.

Men borrowed money for college, married well before they hit their prime, went deep into debt to buy a home to please the Mrs., and allowed an entitled woman to dominate his life. If he was lucky, she wouldn’t divorce him and kidnap his children. What he did was never good enough.

Those of you under 30 do not understand what a gift the Internet is.

Before the web young men had no idea what society had planned for them.

Young men had no idea that they’d spend most of the rest of their lives as dead men.

This is the key statement: 90% of men are miserable. 99% of women are miserable.

If you are a man who is part of the 90 percent, work to get yourself in the 10 percent. And then, and only then, should you look to find a woman who is in the one percent.

It's not impossible. There are 35 million women who are not miserable out there. Find one, and don't settle for less.

And if you are one of those 35 million, stop trying to fix the miserable men. Find a man from the 10 percent, and instead of trying to fix him, follow his lead.