The consequences of trading up

Two pro-West women, Lauren Southern and Brittany Pettibone, address the consequences of applied hypergamy.

The rights of women

Men these days. They show no respect for the female imperative.

Roosh experiences relationships

It doesn't sound like it went all that well. But the behavior he describes are a pretty standard set, even if there is a pretty steep gradient from the best women to the worst:

Women will hold you to a standard, at the threat of dumping you if you break it, when she herself is not holding that standard. They do the very things they wouldn’t want you doing, and rationalize it by saying they what she’s doing is actually different, when in all likelihood it’s even worse. They remember every thing you said, even from years ago, but can’t see a behavior they did just last week that contradicts her standards for you.

Women have no objective standard or morality, and thus no way to identify if they are right or wrong about anything. Instead, they use pure emotion to guide their behavior. If they feel good then it must be just. If they feel bad then it must not be. Since emotions can twist the perception of any event, she will simply do what she wants to do and find an emotional path or false strain of logic to convince her it was right.

The most amazing behavior I’ve seen in women is denying something that you caught them doing. You can show them evidence, right to their face, and they will deny it, and then find a way to blame you for it. I have been warned about this before, but was skeptical until I experienced myself. She is such an unreliable “witness” to her own behavior that there may be no point to ever getting an explanation from her about anything. If you don’t know the facts about something, and need her side of the story to get the facts, you’ll never get the facts.

This is the other side of the "she makes me a better man" coin. Have you ever noticed that you never hear women talking about how a man makes her a better woman? That's because women don't permit men to hold them to standards, let alone the same standards they set for men.

This can't truly be considered hypocrisy, however, because that would imply the woman is fully aware of the double standard involved. It's best understood, and accepted, as an implicit double standard that tends to work in the female favor, just as the sexual double standard tends to work in the male favor. It's the way things are, so don't expect them to be otherwise in any male-female relationship.

Of course, if you've got a good memory, or are in the habit of writing things down, it can occasionally be amusing to see how sincerely they will tell you something that is absolutely 180 degrees opposite from something they told you every bit as credibly the previous time. And, as Roosh says, if you successfully call them on it, they will attempt to blame you for having had the sense to keep track of their ever-mutating stories. So, there is little point in doing so; it's usually better to let them think they have successfully defined reality for you.

The key is to grasp that, to the normal woman, it is the emotional truth of the now that is most relevant. After that is the acceptance by others of that emotional truth; the actual facts are tertiary at best.

If you are a man who loves women, you simply have to accept them as they are. They are not going to magically change their essence according to your preferences, and their dynamism is part of their charm.

Making a difference

A comment by Lisa on Gab:

This article by @voxday changed the way I raised my daughter. He was right then, and I'm glad I listened to him. She's been raised to be a traditional woman with an education.

I have to confess the J-Lo phenomenon was a difficult one for me to understand. Not that she’s an unattractive woman or anything, but let’s face it: She possesses a reverse of what most men would consider to be the ideal bust-to-butt ratio, if decades of Playboy, Maxim and the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Issue are any guide.

It wasn’t until reading an article by the expatriate sage, Fred Reed, that I finally began to understand why Ms. Lopez – or is that Lopez-Anthony now, I’m never quite sure about these things – should present such an appealing image to the young men of America. For, as Fred writes:

The embittered single American women in my town do not understand why, believing that men only want young Mexican bodies. Everything, they assume, must be sex. Yeah. Sure. … In Mexico you don’t marry one of the guys. You don’t marry a child-support bomb waiting to explode without visitation. You don’t marry a hundred pounds of irrational anger looking for an excuse. You marry a woman. The difference … my God, the difference.

Jennifer Lopez is not Mexican, to be sure, but she is nevertheless the symbolic antithesis of the Single White Female. Nor does the fact that she is a career woman with what would appear to be a serious set of relationship issues – it’s a tossup between her and Ms. Spears as to who will catch Liz Taylor first – change the fact that she symbolizes, a priori, something very different than what young American men have been taught to believe is the archetypical single white American female.

The modern American woman prides herself on being strong, intelligent and independent. She insists she is just the same as a man in those few areas where she is not superior. She demands the right to be accepted exactly as she is, while claiming the right to modify everything about any man who is so foolish as to become involved with her. She is a goddess – glorious and pagan – requiring nothing more than a mortal male satellite to reflect the light of her shining splendour.

She holds firmly to these beliefs, even as she drugs herself to the gills with Prozac and sees a therapist twice a week, all the while whining to everyone within earshot that the men around her are too intimidated to ask her out.

A gentle word of advice would perhaps be useful here. The fact that men smile nervously at you and sidle away quietly at the first opportunity does not mean that they are intimidated by you. It is also possible that they have simply concluded you are a lunatic.

I once dated a delightful Asian girl, the daughter of immigrants who barely spoke a word of English. It was instructive to discover how this brought out a disdainful racism in many of the upper-middle-class white girls of my acquaintance, of which I had hitherto been unaware. In this, they echoed the defensive contempt of their ancestors, the Imperial British, whose women forced their husbands to exclude from the ruling social circle those men who had “gone native.”

The great achievement of feminism is twofold. First, it allowed young men to obtain easy sex without the price of marriage or a prostitute. Second, it allowed men over the age of 60 to exit the workforce and be maintained by the labors of their newly employed daughters. When one considers the evidence, one is forced to conclude that Ms. Steinhem and Ms. Friedan were either appallingly stupid or agent provocateurs of the dread Patriarchy.

Even so, I do not despise American women. Quite to the contrary, I very much admire those who possess the courage, the character and the feminine spirit to reject the poisoned propaganda of the self-destructive Sisterhood and be women. It requires far more genuine strength and independence for a young American woman to become a lady today than it does for her to devolve into a faux male – those who manage the feat are princesses for whom a man might well wish to slay a dragon or three.

Instead of regarding her ethnic rivals with ill-concealed fear and loathing, the wise SWF would do well to consider why they should hold such appeal to the modern American SWM. Otherwise … well … there’s always those reruns of “Sex in the City.”

No obedience, no obligation

Adult children have no right to expect support from their parents. Particularly adult children who refuse to abide by their parents' values:

What should a father do when the daughter he raised and poured his heart into grows up to burn the coal?

Support her?

HAHAHAHAHAHA…. no.

How about cut her off.

Allie Dowdle just wants to go to college and date the boy she wants to date.

How nonjudgmental. Does that include dating serial killer boys?

But her parents are making that extremely difficult — all because they don’t like her boyfriend.

This article sounds like it was written by an emotionally stunted, petulant child.

The great irony is that white liberals are more offended by white parents who cut off their daughters for dating vibrants than Arab parents who cut off their daughters heads for dating white men.

One begins to notice a pattern....

Anyhow, what is difficult about it? The girl had a choice. Burn the coal or have her parents pay her expenses. She chose the coal, which means she had better get used to supporting herself anyhow.

• More than 50 percent of the relationships between white women and black men end upon "the disclosure of the pregnancy." 
• 72 percent of the white women whose children have black fathers never marry the father. 
• 92 percent of the biracial children of black fathers are born illegitimate.
• 97 percent of the biracial children of black fathers and white mothers are born illegitimate.
• 98 percent of white mothers never receive any financial support from the black fathers of their children even if they are married to them.

How to get away with it

In which women are advised to keep multiple plates spinning, and how to hide the fact they are doing so:

• Never got to the same place with different guys
• Don’t arrange to go on two dates on the same day. The last thing you want is to call your date the name of the other man or getting confused about conversations you already had with the other one.
• Don’t connect with them on social media. It’s a small world and you never know who is connected to whom and you certainly don’t want any of your dates to post any updates that might give away the fact that you are dating different people.
• At the end of the day, if you’re not seeing someone exclusively, there shouldn’t be a problem with seeing different people at the same time, so keep your options open and keep an open mind. 
• Get a dating phone, a separate number from your personal line.
• Get a dating email. Give both out to any dates and keep your privacy.
• Keep your first dates very short - a maximum two hour drink date. This way you can 'stack' date, with different men on the same evening.
• Retain mystery when answering dating questions, for example, if he asks 'who else are you dating?' Respond 'that would be telling.'

Interracial dating: the reality

Remember, when they're showing you something on TV, they're trying to sell it to you. Mudsharking seldom ends well, particularly for the white women involved.

And if you're dialectically inclined, there is no need to take my word for it, simply read up on the relevant statistics concerning Intimate Partner Violence, divorce, and in particular, how inclined black men are to financially support the mothers of their children.

If she's a little TOO eager

It's probably because there is something very wrong:

If she’s acting desperate, it’s because there is something about her that’s broken. If you aren’t escalating and she already wants sex, it’s a cloak and dagger. Even if you don’t see anything, you aren’t safe. Herpes and other diseases often can’t be seen, but can still be caught. Condoms can protect you, but the risk still exceeds the reward. There are seven billion people on earth. You can find one that isn’t afflicted with a lifelong condition. She wants you to become what she is. That way it cuts your options down from everything, to almost nothing. That almost nothing of course includes her.

Pay attention to red flags. And above all, pay attention to your instincts. If something is telling you to eject, don't hesitate. Get out, and get out fast. You can figure out why later.

Technology and the 80/20 rule

It's no surprise that Tinder is a blow to male self-esteem:

When Ben Ellman, 26, moved to NYC in 2015 and fired up his Tinder and OkCupid profiles, he was expecting to meet a bevy of compatible women. Instead, the 5-foot-9 journalist was swiped left by matches because of his height — or lack thereof.

“It seems like all the women online were going for guys 6-foot-1 and above,” Ellman, who lives in Williamsburg, Brooklyn, tells The Post. He estimates that for every 50 women he expressed interest in, only one would swipe right on him. “People can feel worse when using Tinder because it’s such a meritocracy for hot people … People swipe left or right based on your profile picture, and that can make you feel bad about yourself.”

He’s not the only one who faced a drop in confidence after using Tinder. A new survey at the University of North Texas found that singles who used Tinder are more likely to have lower self-esteem and feel unhappy about their looks than non-dating-app users. When it came to gender, male Tinder users reported lower self-esteem than females.

Tinder makes every Alpha on it considerably more accessible to every woman in the vicinity. So, it should be no surprise that women will raise their standards accordingly. Game theory indicates that whichever sex is more patient is the one that will elevate its requirements, and there is no question that women are less driven to pursue the opposite sex than men.

So, once more, a tool developed by geeks works out a) for the benefit of women, and, b) to the detriment of less-attractive men like the men who developed it.

Of media and mudshark murder

Burn de coal, pay de toll:

A missing person report submitted Sunday afternoon in Red Lion, Pennsylvania, led authorities to check on Rebekah Jea Strausbaugh at a house where she lived with her boyfriend, Michael Anthony Morant, police said.

A relative of Strausbaugh reported her missing Sunday, two days after she failed to return from a trip to Baltimore.

Investigators said Morant, 48, went to Baltimore on Saturday to look for Strausbaugh, 30, and found her at the Shake Shack on Pratt Street. Police said the two got into an argument while driving north on Interstate 83.

Police said the couple stopped near Ensor Mill and Belfast roads in the Sparks area, where the argument turned physical. According to a court charging document, Morant admitted to pushing Strausbaugh to the ground, causing her to hit her head.

Police said Strausbaugh suffered injuries that left her unresponsive.

"Her boyfriend took her body, drug her into the woods and covered her body with a blanket, and left her there to die," Baltimore County police Cpl. John Wachter said.

I find it interesting that increasingly, in the case of these mudshark murders, the media is beginning to avoid showing pictures of the black murderer with the white victim. I suppose it puts a rather negative capstone on all those happy multiracial commercials they are showing these days.

A cop explains why not-rape is not prosecuted

It's not exactly a mystery why the police aren't aggressively pursuing cases that can't possibly be prosecuted successfully:

What gets reported is “Well, me and my girlfriends met at Lisa’s apartment to pre- game. I had a beer and a shot there. Then we went to This Bar and That Bar and I had three shots at the first place and an Appletini at the second place plus this guy gave me half his beer. So, we were dancing and then Lisa and Cindy left. So the guy who gave me half his beer said we should go to This Other Bar to meet his friend and we did. And I had two shots and then he bought me this mixed drink… I don’t remember what it was called or what was in it. And then I had another beer and we danced and I remember we were making out at one point in the bathroom and I gave him a blow job. Then I remember we left This Other bar-”

Needle scratch. Wait a minute. You gave him oral sex?

“Well, yeah…”

So, back to our narrative, our victim and the guy she just met “hook up” consensually and close down the bar and now its 2 AM and she can’t really remember much after that, just bits and pieces, until she woke up in a strange place next to a strange man.

And there’s your other big piece of the reported sexual assault puzzle: Hook up culture. Everything up to PIV is on the table when you’re hitting the bar scene. It’s almost a given.

The twist? It’s not the guy she was dancing with and gave oral sex to. It’s his roommate. She thinks she had sex, but she can’t remember. She went home and talked to her roommate and her roommate talked her into coming to the hospital.

So she has the exam and she’s got no physical injuries because nobody beat, punched, or choked her. And we talk to the guy and the roommate and their story is that she came home with them and she and the roommate sat up talking and smoking weed after the guy she came home with passed out in the living room and one thing led to another and the roommate had consensual sex with her too.

And out of this morass of bad decisions and contradictory claims, the social justice types want us to present a viable prosecution? Ain’t happening.

If you're genuinely concerned about not being raped, consider not handing the defense attorney iron-clad reasonable doubt.

Because they turned their back on you

Idiots in the pulpit can't figure out why "the beautiful women" in their churches can't find any dates. Perhaps it's because they've driven every man under the age of 40 out of the congregation:

And don’t even get me started on the Xbox. And all of that. If you have callouses on your thumbs, you’re a loser. If you’re more than 18 years old and you’re still jackin’ around with that stuff… [does “L” gesture].

I curse that spirit in the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth.

There are young gals in this church. Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful young gals, and you know why they can’t get a date? ‘Cause that retarded spirit got onto young men.

Back in the Elizabethan era, this moron would have been one of those agitating against the devil theater. If I ever heard a so-called pastor inveigle against electronic games, I'd get up, walk out, and never come back because the man isn't preaching the Gospel, he's just kowtowing to the modern spirit of feminism.

And as Dalrock points out, the real problem isn't a retarded spirit getting into young men, it is a rebellious feminist spirit getting into women. No man with even a modicum of good sense wants anything to do with such women.

The fact that the moron's teaching is an evil one is easy enough to see:

Some of you women, you have my permission — blame me. He come home — I’m talking about your husband come home, and that’s gone. And don’t just throw it in the trash — he’ll go fish it out — you gotta put in the bathtub full of water before you throw it in the trash.

Criminal vandalism and divorce, surely that's what pleases God. And transitive sin is not exactly good theology. Seriously, who listens to these sorts of self-inflating jackasses? The young men have the good sense to tune him out and leave, leaving him the only man in the room.

Dalrock commenter Enrique noticed as much.

All these so-called pastors are passive-aggressive man-boys (ironically), who, on the average, could never control men or dare to credibly challenge men in any actual sphere of real, diverse interaction (the military, fighting, sports, gambling, corporate America). They constantly harp at other men for not growing up and being “real men” etc etc, when they make their living appealing to women’s reception of virtue signaling. It’s all phony. 

They couldn't even challenge them at vidya, for that matter.

Evaluation by who you attract

Physical appearance is a big part of your ranking in the sexual market and consists of three parts: physique, clothing/accessories, and how you carry yourself.

If you ever wonder where you currently rank in the physical aspect look back at the last few months and recall which women openly hit upon you and then add two to where you’d rank them. For instance if three women in the last two months who you’d rank a four seriously flirted with you without provocation then you rank a six. In particular pay close attention to women who are hitting on you solely based upon your appearance when you’ve hardly said a word, or even nothing.

In general, both men and women want to score two ranks higher than themselves, with Gammas as the delusion exception. People are willing to go out on a limb and even embarrass themselves in front of others to score two ranks higher. This sort of flirtation isn’t based upon cold reasoning of mating material but heartfelt desire and even lustful passion.

If 145 lbs. five foot four inch women of average appearance are consistently giving you the eye, flirting with you, and making open passes, then the good news is that you are likely a seven.

Sic sempre squalis

An American woman in Italy discovers that playing with orcs is a dangerous game:

Police have arrested a 25-year-old Senegalese migrant on suspicion of the murder of Ashley Olsen, the American artist strangled to death in Florence.

Olsen, 35, died when she was strangled with a USB wire or cord after taking part in a 'consensual, erotic sex game', an autopsy has found. The suspect is known to the police for drugs-related issues, and was also familiar to the victim....

After leaving the establishment alone at about 5:30am, Olsen met a man, now thought to be the Senegalese migrant, after arranging the liaison via mobile phone. A witness saw them together and described the man to the police, and the two were captured on CCTV walking together to Olsen's chic apartment.

Sadly, Miss Olsen is unable to profit by the lesson. But perhaps she will serve as a warning to others.

Burn the coal, pay the toll

Of course, it would be racist to warn European girls that they run an increased risk of being raped and burned to death if they decide to date non-European migrants. It would also be true.

An Afghan migrant has been sentenced to life imprisonment in Finland for brutally murdering a teenage lover ten years his junior because she didn’t want to continue the relationship.

The 17-year-old Finnish girl had only dated Ramin Azimi for a month before she tried to end their relationship. The court heard how she had wanted to see another man, but Mr. Azimi demanded marriage and children of her. When she wouldn’t cooperate, Mr. Azimi attacked the young woman while she was out jogging.

Equipped with spare clothing, rope and gasoline, the Afghan asylum seeker raped his former lover in revenge for leaving him. Having completed this act, Mr. Azimi then tied the girl to a chair in an abandoned shed, poured petrol over her, and set her alight.

The body of the young woman was later discovered by dogs after her disappearance had been reported to police by her parents.

The real tragedy would be if this unfortunate little misunderstanding prevented future relationships between natives and migrants from blossoming in the future.

Stay away from the crazy

This is why you don't marry a cock addict. Not even a reformed one:

On Oct. 3, after telling her husband she was going into the city for a girls’ night out, Kiersten met up with friends at a hotel at 6:30 p.m. The group then went drinking on the Lower East Side. They were out till 2:30 in the morning, drinking hard and allegedly using cocaine.

At 3 a.m., Kiersten peeled off with Marc Henry Johnson, a 51-year-old producer for HBO. She had known him since 2009 — 10 months before she married for the second time.

By 4 a.m., they were in a cab on the way to Chelsea, and the two went up to the cabdriver’s apartment.

Kiersten’s body was found at 8:30 that morning, sprawled in the vestibule, her feet propping the door open. Video showed Johnson and the driver dragging her body down the building’s stairs, leaving her to die alone....

Karina Freedman, a skin-care specialist with a large clientele in Kiersten’s Manhasset neighborhood, says many of these women are, in fact, leading double lives.

The tells: High-T female professional, married twice, girls-night-out regular, drug user (no way her husband didn't know about the taste for coke), and above all, crazy slut eyes.

Don't marry the crazy. Don't even DATE the crazy.

Delta Man: Supply and demand

There have been some articles floating around lately about Tinder and the hookup culture it has fostered. This article is interesting as it Rihanna claims she’s holding out for a better man.

I have some bad news for her, the current demand for men with Game is outstripping the supply so to the victors will continue to go even more spoils. If you live in a city there are really only three requirements for consistently hooking up on Tinder. 1) Don’t be ugly 2) Be in great physical shape (show off the abs in the pics you send back) 3) Have some Game. If you don’t chase the hotties but rather focus on average women on Tinder you only need to be average in #2 and good at #3.

Rihanna is also 27 so she’s probably seeing The Wall approaching and the hottest guys are now looking at the 19-24 year olds and not her. Welcome to weaponized hypergamy hell Rihanna. The article in question also has this laughable line, “Repeatedly we’ve been hearing about the demise of millennial relationships being caused by thoughtless or lazy young men.” If only the high ranking men would settle down with me and not play the field! This closing line is also a hoot, "So, ladies, don’t waste your time having casual sex with beta males in hopes that your Prince Charming will show up." The women hooking up generally aren't having sex with low ranking men, but high ranking men because it's exactly the type of man they hope to land long term. The idea that one can "hold out" for an Alpha is delusional, as the Alphas are the ones with notches all down their bed posts by definition. 

The fact is that there are little to no incentives for a modern man (outside of religion) who does well with hookups to settle down unless he wants to create a more stable environment to raise children. Even then, marriage is optional. There is an endless supply of young women who believe that hookups in their early 20s are empowering, fun, and don’t think of the long term consequences. If a woman sleeps with two or three dozen men between 18 and 27 and then suddenly wants to settle down, how does she deal with that sexual history when a man asks? If a man at 30 has slept with a dozen women (or many more) in the last year alone, why would he suddenly stop with her? 

Since I'm not a heartless man I can say in reading the article that there are hints at a deep loneliness and a realization by the author that she may be on the way to a life of being single, cats, and there's a certain tragedy to this. The Western world is literally stacked against a woman who is approaching 30, ridden the Alpha carousel for years, and suddenly wants to settle down with even an average man. Average men are retreating out of the field to games and porn, have already gotten married, or looking to up their game to hookup with women. I don't like seeing people suffer, and there's a lot of suffering going around in relationships today.

As I’ve said before, your actions in hookups and dating aren’t neutral and will have long term consequences. If you are a woman reading this and are hooking up with men realize that your pool of potential husbands you’d actually like to marry shrinks with each encounter as the longer you wait the smaller the pool of eligible bachelors becomes. Men who are hooking up a lot have a different issue, which is the ability to always find another woman means long term commitment for you will be difficult even when it’s what you are desiring.  

Delta Perspective: Dating and Courtship

One of the most pernicious lies about relationships is “Don’t date anyone you wouldn’t marry because you might marry them.” Some women love it because they feel like they are in control because they imagine every man who asks them out is interested in marrying them and they get to pick them like a condiment. Gammas love it because it makes them feel like they are defending the honor of women in some vague, misguided sense.

In reality this statement doesn’t even pass the smell test. How can you know you want to marry someone before you date them? Furthermore it starts with the assumption that all dating is actually courtship.The third problem is that it assumes that a person has no control over their romantic inclinations.

If you aren’t interested in marriage then dating is just fine. You get to know a woman, experience some good times together and learn about relationships. Like I’ve said before just be honest about when asked. Your response doesn’t have to be detailed or philosophical at all, just “I’m just looking to meet some people right now.” That’s it. The girl you are dating does not have a right to know all of your motivations, private thoughts, and goals. She’s not your wife and certain knowledge about a man is a privilege for marriage. Guess what? There are a whole lot of women who aren’t interested in marriage either.

When it comes to courting, which I define as looking for and actively pursuing women to marry and procreate with then your mindset has to change. Your list of desirable attributes will change, along with what the woman gets to know about you once you start courting. I don’t even think it’s a bad idea to include in your online dating profile something about that you are looking a more serious relationship.

The most important thing is to have a goal in mind and you just aren’t “dating to see what happens”. That’s where men get into trouble because your emotions might just get the best of you.  You are either dating or looking to get married, pick one and stick to it and you’ll have more success.