I think the sister had it in for me because of all my past transgressions, and honestly, I think [ex-girlfriend] was just waiting until gala season is over to dump me because we were scheduled to go to a number of balls. Well, I told her that we're done and that we're not going to those events together, even though she suggested amicably attending these together as a goodbye to our relationship. But she's making it a point to go anyways, and she's already recruiting our mutual friends from the arts to be on her side. Yesterday she was having drinks with prominent figures in the arts world. Today she's scheduled to have dinner with a gay couple that also run an arts organization here.The best thing to do initially is to ignore them. When women say things like "nobody likes you" they are simply trying to get a rise out of you. Don't give it to them. Now, since GC wanted to go to the foo-foo events, he should have simply said "sure" when she suggested attending as mutual armpieces; that was his first mistake because he needlessly turned the ex-girlfriend into an opponent in addition to the sister.
At one point yesterday, while I was in my Italian language class, she texted me saying that she was going to all those events and that none of our acquaintances like me and that they won't talk to me. I'm currently part of a pilot program to get younger people on boards, and I'm worried that her contacts will block me when the time comes to nominate members.
None of this is the end of the world, I know. I'm a man, an engineer in the oil and gas industry, and something tells me that I shouldn't stress so much over all this foo foo stuff, but she can potentially derail everything that I've worked for over the past year simply because she's a scorned woman. And this means less business and social connections and less access to quality women.
Vox, you are a master of human dynamics and I think you are a sort of authority on military tactics. I thoroughly enjoy the way you tear apart every GamerGate and Pink Shirt SJW that even looks in your direction. I'm sure that you can give me some insight into my situation and I respectfully ask for your advice. What sort of social jujitsu can I use to counter an actively malicious person?
So, what I would recommend is taking her out to dinner, offering an olive branch, and saying that he's thought it over and is happy to take her to the various events as a couple. If she rejects the idea, fine, he's no worse off than he was.
What so many men like GC don't understand is the whole "I've got my pride" thing is actually a display of weakness. It means you care. If you don't care, then you do what you want no matter what the other person does or says. All that "if you do x then that means y" is the way women and gammas. It's literally meaningless.
So, the first thing you do is turn those who don't really want to be enemies into allies, or at least neutrals. The persistently malicious, like the sister, you simply treat with cold contempt, and press their buttons without making a big deal of it. If you really want to set a woman off, let her go through her whole nasty spiel, then raise an eyebrow and comment that she looks like she's gained weight. Another tactic is to give her an unflattering nickname that plays off her size, appearance, or behavior, then use it when talking to her friends when they mention her. "Oh, so how is the Viper?"
Women are very, very sensitive about their weight, more so than men can really grasp, and you easily can send them into a week-long spiral with nothing more than a casual comment. But because of that, it's not a tactic you should use unless the woman is openly malicious, if she's merely being vicious because she's mad or her feelings are hurt, it's overkill.