The reality, according to the latest findings by psychologist Marissa Harrison, from Pennsylvania State University in the US, is that women are actually more circumspect than men when it comes to romance. The study, published in the Journal of Social Psychology, showed men were more likely to fall in love within a few weeks, while most women said it took several months.And perhaps even more importantly, men must understand that telling a woman you love her is not attractive. It is unrelated to attraction. As with men, attraction has to precede love for women, so telling a woman you love her as a means of making yourself appear attractive to her is putting the cart before the horse.
Friday, November 18, 2011
The calculating sex, part II
Men would do well to realize that the media's portrayal of women being swept up in emotion is no more realistic than loud explosions in space. The "caught up in the moment" concept is mostly an ex post facto excuse, it is seldom the causal factor behind the action, nor does it have anything to do with "falling in love":