I've just put up a new post after receiving a request for advice from a 39 year-old male with zero Game and a serious case of one-itis.
I've asked the readers to contribute feedback and suggestions, and I'd be honored if any of you would care to join in. I'm leaving the convo there because the writer will be checking that comment thread.
Learning to Swim in the Deep End
Vox recommends reading and adds: this was my advice.
"First, Tim, grow a bloody pair! Second, realize that there is no “right moment” to ask a woman out. The right moment is always right now! Women absolutely DESPISE diffident men who are always waiting for that magical moment to strike. But you have to MAKE the moment. You are essentially acting like a woman, which naturally is a major turn-off to women. Stop looking for excuses to talk to her, forget about the stupid pictures and the ridiculous note, just walk directly up to her and say something like this.
“Look, I’m sorry I was such a complete coward before. Here’s the deal. I like you, I think you’re pretty, and I think we’d hit it off well together. Come have a drink with me this afternoon/tonight.”
That’s about the only chance you have of salvaging the situation, since you’ve done such a thorough job of convincing her that you’re an undesirable wuss. The thing is, YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE. If women make you nervous, let this always be your mantra:
“When you go in the lion’s den you don’t tippy toe in, you carry a spear, you go in screaming like a banshee, you kick whatever doors in, and say, ‘where’s the son of bitch.’ If you go in any other way your gonna lose.”
And if it’s too late, remember, there are plenty of girls on the girl tree."