Saturday, January 14, 2017

How to get away with it

In which women are advised to keep multiple plates spinning, and how to hide the fact they are doing so:

  • Never got to the same place with different guys
  • Don’t arrange to go on two dates on the same day. The last thing you want is to call your date the name of the other man or getting confused about conversations you already had with the other one.
  • Don’t connect with them on social media. It’s a small world and you never know who is connected to whom and you certainly don’t want any of your dates to post any updates that might give away the fact that you are dating different people.
  • At the end of the day, if you’re not seeing someone exclusively, there shouldn’t be a problem with seeing different people at the same time, so keep your options open and keep an open mind. 
  • Get a dating phone, a separate number from your personal line.
  • Get a dating email. Give both out to any dates and keep your privacy.
  • Keep your first dates very short - a maximum two hour drink date. This way you can 'stack' date, with different men on the same evening.
  • Retain mystery when answering dating questions, for example, if he asks 'who else are you dating?' Respond 'that would be telling.'

25 comments:

Bob said...

Aren't they just taking what's advised to men, and using it for themselves? Specially the last part.

I don't think this will work as well for women, especially the "Don't connect on social media" part lol. They LOOOVE to nosey all about someone, and cause drama and inject themselves into men's lives. I've even had some refuse to speak to me just because I don't have facebook..

Boko Harambe said...

Point seven is in direct conflict with point two...or am I that thick?

I don't understand how men do this, but I accept that they do. when I was dating, I'd see only one man at a time. To see a guy one night, and a different guy the next, felt like cheating. I wanted to get to know one person well. Actually I wanted to get married, how can you tell if you're hopping around so much, multiple times in one day, even?

Of course, if this was just dating, I suppose it would be ok to see multiple people t once, as you get to know them better and eventually pick one.

But what's really going on here is sex. An extramarital affair or just a series of one night stands...either way, all of this secrecy belies the shame a woman feels over this behavior.

Cataline Sergius said...

This is pretty good advice for men too but with some caveats.

Never got to the same place with different guys Doesn't matter as much for a guy. Women might run into other women that run up to them hug them and start blabbing.

Not an issue for a guy.

Besides, if you have a club on-lock it will give a girl the impression that you are a high status male.

If you can walk past the line outside and bouncer gives you a smile and an arm pat as you sail on in and the staff greets you by name takes you to your favorite table and has your favorite drink ordered...

The girl may not have noticed but her brain did.

I'd add if you can't avoid social media (and under a certain age I suppose it's impossible), keep that shit locked down.

As for seeing two girls on the same day, again not really a problem. It's even advisable if you are just starting out. Don't worry about her name either, just call her, "Darlin or Babe or Whatever."

And yes on the Booty Phone. If you are on a date and your phone is blowing up all the time it's a big tell. The Email doesn't matter as much with modern spam filters but that one is up to you.

Cataline Sergius said...

Retain mystery when answering dating questions, for example, if he asks 'who else are you dating?' Respond 'that would be telling.'

My advice here is take the more confrontational answer of, "You. Don't. Want. To. Know." Completely ignore all follow on question on this subject.

Cataline Sergius said...

Wait a fuck! I just noticed something

Don’t arrange to go on two dates on the same day. The last thing you want is to call your date the name of the other man or getting confused about conversations you already had with the other one.

Followed by...

Keep your first dates very short - a maximum two hour drink date. This way you can 'stack' date, with different men on the same evening.

Typical women's advice column. "Twenty reasons why men are shit," plus "how to wake him up with a blow job!"

tweell said...

Ah, but the stacking is only on the first date. That makes it ok, right? Right?

Eric Mueller said...

I caught the thing about "don't go out with two men on the same day" and "keep dates short so you can go out with two men on the same day" too. I assume that's standard for women's advice, and most women never notice it.

Scott Cameron said...

This is what PUAs like Roosh have been telling men to do...

Tarrou said...

Yeah, this seems like a male strategy, not retooled enough for female usage. It assumes men and women are after the same thing when dating. How silly.

Ron said...

The previous article about a man who thre acid into his girlfriends face, now makes more sense.

liberranter said...

Don’t connect with them on social media.

As Bob pointed out upthread, asking women to restrict their (ab)usage of social media is akin to asking them not to breathe or complain. A complete non-starter. This is what makes me think that someone --almost certainly a woman-- simply copied this list from a site like Chateau Heartiste or Roosh's and then flipped the sexes without thinking about the fundamental differences between men and women.

More fundamentally, this won't work well for women because it requires planning, organization, and constant attention to minute detail. I would assume a success rate of less than five percent, to be generous.

Jed Mask said...

... Sigh... Any biblical "Christian" counsel on this matter?

Too much "world" in this all wicked heathen advice. Amen.

~ Bro. Jed

Harsh said...

I wish girls were that aloof with me. I've been dating a girl half my age for four months and she wants to get married.

VFM #7634 said...

So many men are Gammas and blue-pilled Deltas that I guess the women feel they have to speed up the search.

Michael Maier said...

"... Sigh... Any biblical "Christian" counsel on this matter? "

Yeah, here:

The world is fucked so watch out for befouled whores.

Tatooine Sharpshooters' Club said...

"Can't find Mister Right because of your friends' absurdly high standards? Give in completely to the counsel of despair and become the town pump. Just be sure to get all the cat flaps installed on your place early, because it looks like there's going to be surging demand in that department soon!"

Mountain Man said...

"So many men are Gammas and blue-pilled Deltas that I guess the women feel they have to speed up the search."
.....that and third wave feminism has removed all societal restraints - allowing their ( females) hypergamy to burn without inhibition.

The ingredients are all in place for a perfect shitstorm

Mountain Man said...

"As Bob pointed out upthread, asking women to restrict their (ab)usage of social media is akin to asking them not to breathe or complain. "

Before getting married, I told my wife we will not use Facebook in our house. She didn't put up any resistance and has never used it since.

ace said...

I get the impression the only reason women might want to engage in player-like behavior is because men respect it.

They have no concept of why player-behavior is considered respectable, why they should emulate it, or what gains might result from doing so. They are cargo cultists.

Rex Little said...

As others have noted, most of this advice is good for men too. I know a guy who definitely should have done the "separate phone" thing. He's married, but has a girlfriend. They live far apart and see each other only a few times a year, so most of the time they're texting each other, non-stop.

Problem: the phone he used was on a family plan with his adult son. About two years after this all started, the son got a look at the phone bill, which showed that his dad had sent thousands of texts in a month to the same woman, whose name was listed on the bill. On Thanksgiving Day, when the family was just about to sit down to dinner, he called out his dad and blew the whistle in front of his mom, grandmother and everyone else in the house.

(I don't actually know the guy; never met him. I do know the girlfriend. I was married to her when this all happened.)

Tarrou said...

@ ace, I like that comparison. It really does explain a lot of feminist thought. It's all just landing-strips-cause-airplanes level misunderstanding of what is actually happening.

S. Misanthrope said...

My baby boomer parents always told me it was sluttier to date one at a time bc it implied the relationship was more serious (ie sex) than it was. 19th century novels are full of admonishments of women who focus on one man. I think the only reason this seems slutty today is bc date implies sex. A tough spot for virtuous women to be in, where the men they want are harder to find and the tools for finding them have been corrupted and the biological clock isn't slowing down.

Dexter said...

Problem: the phone he used was on a family plan with his adult son. About two years after this all started, the son got a look at the phone bill, which showed that his dad had sent thousands of texts in a month to the same woman, whose name was listed on the bill. On Thanksgiving Day, when the family was just about to sit down to dinner, he called out his dad and blew the whistle in front of his mom, grandmother and everyone else in the house.

What a dick move. I'd definitely cut him out of the will for that.

Dexter said...

That said, dad definitely showed criminal disregard for opsec.

Rex Little said...

. I'd definitely cut him out of the will for that.

It could easily have been too late for that. There wasn't just angry yelling, there was pushing and shoving going on--and the dad was 67 at the time and had just had a heart attack less than two months earlier.

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