Think twice before you actually ask this loaded question. What will you gain by knowing the answer In my opinion, very little. Numbers mean nothing without knowing the circumstancesActually, what it will tell you is if they are inclined to be faithful or not. You don't need to make sense of a woman's final number. You only need to know what it is to know whether the odds are in your favor or not.
Knowing the amount of lovers your partner has had without knowing the age and stage they were at when it happened tells you very little. Say they admit to 40 lovers. They might have clocked up 38 of them between the age of 18 and 25 and had a modest two more in that last 20 years. Or they might have had two lovers, then got married and had six affairs, topping up the total after being separated for just one year.
Or perhaps they added the last 20 at an erotic 'sex party' like Killing Kittens – oh, and those 20 happened to be same sex rather than heterosexual encounters.
To make sense of someone's final number, you need a lot of detail. Do you really want to know that much detail? Knowing someone's sex number without the details is a bit like snooping, finding something out and not being able to ask for an explanation.
You drive yourself mad imagining who, what, where, how (and how good). Unless your partner's prepared to answer one hell of a lot of very personal questions, knowing their number is going to accomplish little else but drive you nuts.
There are two very good reasons to ask women advice about sex and relationships. And that is to find out a) what NOT to do and b) what she believes to be in her own interest.
The reason this woman advises not to ask a woman about her N is because her own is well into the double-digits.