All of that shit right there is why writing this blog feels like pissing into the wind. Because for the abusers, there are no negative consequences. They’re able to leverage the controversy generated by my existence into increased sales and awards, while for me the consequences are always negative. There is only ever a progressive, steady toll on my health, sanity, and relationships. I might succeed in changing things behind the scenes at a few gaming companies, or at affecting the lineup of speakers at a single convention, or seeing harassment policies implemented at a handful of conventions and events. But none of that does anything to change the daily lived reality of what it means to be a woman in games.This woman is both stupid and part of a multi-generational losing tradition. Her daughter can't beat the odds because there is nothing to win. Life is struggle. Respect must be earned, it is never granted to whiners and complainers and those who others men into doing their work for them.
People have told me more times than I can count that I’m “brave” for writing this blog. I’m “brave” for being open about my feelings and experiences, and I’m “brave” for saying what I think without apologizing or minimizing in any way. And to them, I always say the same thing: I’m not brave! I’m stupid. Doing what I do is like beating my head against a brick wall on a daily basis. Every once in a while, I might knock a tiny chip off the wall, and people may applaud and say, “look! Progress!”. But ultimately, nothing I do is every going to seriously harm the wall, but it will seriously harm me if I keep at it long enough....
I hate feeling that I’m playing into a generational story of defeat. My mother was run out of STEM because of sexism, ruining a career as a brilliant research chemist. She has her name on 12 patents! And the fact that I couldn’t persevere makes me feel hopeless. How can I tell my daughter that she can achieve anything of meaning when I have only stories of defeat to offer her? How can I tell her that she can beat the odds when her mother and her grandmother are both strong women who have been ground down into silence?
She has the complete opposite of the MAGA Mindset. It is not surprising, because women like this don't have the good sense to stop trying to change things for the worse, America is considerably less great than it was. It's good that she finally surrendered. She shouldn't have tried to fight reality in the first place. The cruel fact is that the world would have been a better place if her campaign and her blog had never existed.
Women will use any tool to try to shame men into not fighting, they will appeal to any authority to forcibly silencing men by threatening their jobs, their freedom, and their families for nothing more than the crime of voicing an opinion. Because they simply cannot take the heat in a world of free expression.
So, turn it up on them. Until they can accept the principle of free speech means everyone has exactly the same right to criticize them that they have to criticize everyone else, one side or the other is going to be silenced. And it isn't going to be us. We don't quit. Ever.
Observe that what proved to be effective in the end was not logic or sweet reason. It was relentless demoralizing rhetoric. These are psychologically weak individuals, so always hammer at their psychologies, don't waste time on their flawed ideas or perverse objectives.