A fairly regular bleat from the woe-is-me contingent of hapless beta male romantic losers who’d rather wallow in self-pity than engage the frightening prospect that deliberate effort can improve one’s sex life, is the recurrent assertion that Game – or any of its organic derivatives – will only work on women who are “already attracted to the man”.We see this all the time in science fiction literature written by low-status men, in which the attractive (usually red-headed and large-breasted) woman blitzes the unsuspecting, but delighted man who has refused to do anything except intensely respect her.
This claim is an indicator that the claimant has either
a. no experience seducing women (as opposed to listening to women talk about other men seducing them, or watching women be seduced by other men), or
b. has had the stroke of luck to land Miss Right early in life, settle down, and thereafter be cursed (or blessed, depending on your POV) to view womankind through snow white-tinted glasses, which act as convenient amplifiers that facilitate the projection of male desire onto female sexuality.
You have a choice. You can either wait for a woman to be attracted to you or you can work at building her attraction to you. That doesn't mean it's always possible to do so, because some attractions simply cannot be built, but if the latter doesn't work, you can be damn sure that the former won't either.
9 comments:
"You can either wait for a woman to be attracted to you"
I get the impression a lot of American men, influenced by the culture of romantic comedies and/or religion, adopt this approach.
They say mostly, "She should be attracted to me because...." (I'm smart, I'm a Christian, I drive a cool car, whatever - you fill in the blank).
This is spot on.....like Rollo has pointed out... a women generally knows what she would be willing to do with you immediately:
-Fuck
-Marry
-Kill
Of course, believing that just being a nice guy, respectful of a woman will get you F... points is immature and shows no knowledge the excitement women get when confronting a possible sex partner who is mysterious and unknown. Let their hamster wheel be your wingman.
Best advice for those who like to chat up the girls with no luck comes from Rollo:
"Always let a woman figure out why she wont ƒuck you, never do it for her."
STFU and don't act, but actually have better things to do.
Typically, a man's mother/sister/church is telling him, "just be yourself and miss right will appear".
or you can work at building her attraction to you.
And building her attraction can often mean simply learning to quash your own gamma and/or omega behavior.
That doesn't mean it's always possible to do so, because some attractions simply cannot be built
Not even Donald Trump would be able to get anywhere with a lot of women. But enough do that it doesn't matter to him. You want to be like that. If you're getting oneitis, you're a low delta or below.
However, there are women who change their attraction to you over time, whether in the right or wrong direction. For low-value men, of course, it's usually in the wrong direction due to the man's behavior, and if it's in the right direction, it's because the woman has lost a lot of her own desirability. But for normal to higher-value men, it can go either way; less attracted if she meets a more attractive man than you, or more attracted if she loses attraction to her boyfriend or main crush.
Ja know, maybe this aspect of Game could be rephrased in terms of a general factor...different women are like events in a decathlon, you might not be the best at all of them but you still need to train. Some analogy like that to break the autistic folks out of their binary thinking.
I would put it differently. Yes, if you take reasonable care of yourself, women will approach you with that look. But there's no guarantee they'll be the women you want. In fact, there's a good chance they'll turn out to be women other men have fled screaming.
"Just be yourself..."
Those words are poison to the unthinking man.
What they should tell guys "Be the best version of yourself."
"Just be yourself..." is for the worthless lazy male specimens of the world and for the incredibly hot chicks of the world.
For the rest of us:
Lift weights.
Bench Press.
Deadlift.
Squats.
Do those lifts. Do them heavy. Be in the 4-6 rep range.
If you don't know what you're doing, ASK FOR HELP.
Go for regular runs.
Dress nicely.
Go to Men's Fucking Warehouse if you have to, and ASK FOR HELP IN BUYING NICE CLOTHES.
That's a good start right there.
Typically, a man's mother/sister/church is telling him, "just be yourself and miss right will appear".
If I could only evangelize one aspect of the RP, it would be "guys, NEVER EVER listen to ANYTHING a woman --ANY woman-- has to say about intersexual relationships!"
Post a Comment
NO ANONYMOUS COMMENTS.