There have been some articles floating around lately about Tinder and the hookup culture it has fostered. This article is interesting as it Rihanna claims she’s holding out for a better man.
I have some bad news for her, the current demand for men with Game is outstripping the supply so to the victors will continue to go even more spoils. If you live in a city there are really only three requirements for consistently hooking up on Tinder. 1) Don’t be ugly 2) Be in great physical shape (show off the abs in the pics you send back) 3) Have some Game. If you don’t chase the hotties but rather focus on average women on Tinder you only need to be average in #2 and good at #3.
Rihanna is also 27 so she’s probably seeing The Wall approaching and the hottest guys are now looking at the 19-24 year olds and not her. Welcome to weaponized hypergamy hell Rihanna. The article in question also has this laughable line, “Repeatedly we’ve been hearing about the demise of millennial relationships being caused by thoughtless or lazy young men.” If only the high ranking men would settle down with me and not play the field! This closing line is also a hoot, "So, ladies, don’t waste your time having casual sex with beta males in hopes that your Prince Charming will show up." The women hooking up generally aren't having sex with low ranking men, but high ranking men because it's exactly the type of man they hope to land long term. The idea that one can "hold out" for an Alpha is delusional, as the Alphas are the ones with notches all down their bed posts by definition.
The fact is that there are little to no incentives for a modern man (outside of religion) who does well with hookups to settle down unless he wants to create a more stable environment to raise children. Even then, marriage is optional. There is an endless supply of young women who believe that hookups in their early 20s are empowering, fun, and don’t think of the long term consequences. If a woman sleeps with two or three dozen men between 18 and 27 and then suddenly wants to settle down, how does she deal with that sexual history when a man asks? If a man at 30 has slept with a dozen women (or many more) in the last year alone, why would he suddenly stop with her?
Since I'm not a heartless man I can say in reading the article that there are hints at a deep loneliness and a realization by the author that she may be on the way to a life of being single, cats, and there's a certain tragedy to this. The Western world is literally stacked against a woman who is approaching 30, ridden the Alpha carousel for years, and suddenly wants to settle down with even an average man. Average men are retreating out of the field to games and porn, have already gotten married, or looking to up their game to hookup with women. I don't like seeing people suffer, and there's a lot of suffering going around in relationships today.
As I’ve said before, your actions in hookups and dating aren’t neutral and will have long term consequences. If you are a woman reading this and are hooking up with men realize that your pool of potential husbands you’d actually like to marry shrinks with each encounter as the longer you wait the smaller the pool of eligible bachelors becomes. Men who are hooking up a lot have a different issue, which is the ability to always find another woman means long term commitment for you will be difficult even when it’s what you are desiring.