Friday, November 7, 2014

Avoid the Human Black Hole

Heartiste provides some useful red flags:
Some other forms of female attention whoring are:

- Cutting into conversations with a frequency and assumed authority that could be described as pathological.

- Evincing an astounding lack of self-awareness or humility.

- An inability to listen while simultaneously demanding rapt attention from her human sounding boards.

- A facility tossing out breezy insults that stands in stark contrast to her thin-skinned pique when she perceives herself being attacked.

- A curious lack of fulfillment when she receives the attention she was goading, and a spiral of excitement when her attention seeking is ignored or cavalierly dismissed.

- A preternatural talent for getting into “scrapes” and making “scenes” where she is cast, yet again, as the wholly innocent flashpoint of the drama that magically follows her everywhere.

- Aggravating her mark to the point of exasperation or even anger. An attention whore prefers positive attention but will take negative attention if the former isn’t possible to bait.
All women appreciate and seek male attention, but there is a difference between attention-seeking, which is normal behavior, and attention-whoring, which is not. It's vital to learn the difference, because no one man is ever capable of providing an attention whore with the constant attention that she craves.

For me, the most important signifier is an inability to listen. If a woman asks you a question, then can't even manage to listen to any answer in more depth than "yes" or "no", you probably don't want to take the risk of involving yourself with her. I, personally, don't waste my time on attention whores, as there are few things on the planet less interesting than human black holes.

16 comments:

Crowhill said...

Heartiste is pretty amazing, not only in what's said, but in the style with which it's said. I got a chuckle out of "the drama that magically follows her everywhere." Some people are accident prone. Some people are drama prone.

Anonymous said...

If a woman asks you a question, then can't even manage to listen to any answer in more depth than "yes" or "no", you probably don't want to take the risk of involving yourself with her. I, personally, don't waste my time on attention whores, as there are few things on the planet less interesting than human black holes.

This.

I got a chuckle out of "the drama that magically follows her everywhere." Some people are accident prone. Some people are drama prone.

@Crowhill
With all due respect to William Lind, in Yiddish terms, attention whores are female schlemiels and schlimazels, and their orbiters are the schlimazels' schlimazels.

Anonymous said...

I got a chuckle out of "the drama that magically follows her everywhere."

Same here. It's amazing how many women who tell me they hate drama have more of it in an average month than I've had in a decade.

hank.jim said...

The inability for women to listen, while demanding men give their full attention, is the worst thing. Or maybe the worst thing was being married to one that did this.

jaericho said...

I discovered this for myself recently: My cousins (all women) will constantly interrupt me. Especially when the topic gets a little heated (politics or the latest Marvel comic book movie). I felt as if every conversation was simply a battle of wills to see who would come out on top and speak last. Reminding them that they are rudely interrupting simply unleashed the cliched, "I'm just passionate. I have a strong personality." etc...

Within the past year I met a woman that would look me in the eyes and not interrupt me when I was speaking. The difference was night and day. I am becoming intolerant of anyone that rudely interrupts me during what should be a pleasant conversation. Instead I will give my attention to someone that returns it.

Anonymous said...

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XMV1bwXyi54

Bob said...

As I put on CH, here's an example:

Heh, this pic always reminds me of such bitches: http://www.dailyfailcenter.com/sites/default/files/fail/ok-you-guys-are-talking-about-me-like-im-a-piece-of-meat_0.jpg

She sure has no problem flapping around her pieces of meat though does she..

MichaelJMaier said...

@ jaericho:
I find slowing down and speaking in a lower tone and lower volume helps preempt folks from interrupting. If I notice I'm being interrupted, I put on an annoyed smirk and take a lot longer to respond than is "comfortable".

I would mock someone (especially any relative) that actually spewed BS about being "passionate" as an excuse.

"Wow... It must be nice to have tits and get away with being a rude bitch by saying you're 'strong'".

1sexistpig2another said...

IMO plain old whoring is a bigger problem than attention whoring due to the severe consequences of getting involved with such women, that and so many men being uninformed of said consequences. Screening out those loose women is going to whittle down the selection a bit.

All women appreciate and seek male attention, but there is a difference between attention-seeking, which is normal behavior, and attention-whoring, which is not. It's vital to learn the difference, because no one man is ever capable of providing an attention whore with the constant attention that she craves.

I believe we used to call these types "high maintenance women".

Run Forest! Run!

Bob Loblaw said...

I discovered this for myself recently: My cousins (all women) will constantly interrupt me.

My sisters do this and it drives me nuts. I'll be having a conversation with other men and they saunter up and just take over the conversation. I've started to bark at them for it and they get offended. And I shrug.

I have a sister-in-law who will literally walk up to an ongoing conversation, in the middle of someone else's sentence, and say whatever is on her mind. And it's never anything anyone cares about. I have no idea what to do there - my brother and I get along well, and I don't want to wreck our relationship over the idiot he married.

pdwalker said...

Eric,

Simple. Treat her like the child she is and correct her as you'd correct a child.

"Excuse me, we are talking here. Don't interrupt until there is a break in the conversation as it's rather rude". Wait a moment, and if the next words from her are not "I'm sorry", then you say, "excuse me, but the proper thing to say after you've been rude is 'I'm sorry'"

The whole time look them straight in the eyes.

And don't accept excuses from anyone for her bad behaviour.

pdwalker said...

PS: allow interruptions if she has to say something like, "your pants are on fire", or something like that.

Doom said...
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Doom said...

Oh, really?

Watch the guy. The tools he uses are quite useful in rejecting a woman, keeping her on the line, or reeling her in. In basketball, it would be stealing the ball, taking it to the scoring court, and then slowing down to look for the opportunity you want. It's fun, even if you aren't considering playing ball. Almost as fun as trading them nickles for dimes, since nickles are bigger, or they know but like you, or... whatever. I really like dames, but... something is wrong with them. Even if I still think it's, as an end game, a trap. One feminism has broken.

Dexter said...

Tha list also describes Barack Obama pretty well... thin-skinned, petulant, narcissistic attention whores are all alike.

Scott Pierce said...

I run into very few women that don't constantly interrupt or are capable to following a conversation beyond trivialities in terms of what affects them personally. It gives me the same feeling of despair as when I'm at Walmart noting all the obese people riding around on the "rascal" carts. I don't remember those as a kid.

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