Friday, February 15, 2013

The oppression of Valentine's Day

Oppression by men, believe it or not.  It appears there is nothing, absolutely nothing, that some women cannot turn around and attempt to blame on men:
Adding insult to injury, Valentine's Day becomes an opportunity for men, in the guise of romance, to obligate their wives to sex when what their wives really want is time to relax, sleep, and have their houses cleaned by someone else.... For many women Valentine's Day does not bring out romantic feelings, instead, it ignites anger and frustration.  Valentine's Day seems to benefit men while requiring women to smile as they accommodate the desires of another man one more time.
Somehow, I have the feeling that if Gallup was to take a poll of both sexes, asking if the respondent would prefer that Valentine's Day did not exist, it would not be women, but men, who would overwhelmingly prefer it to disappear.  Removing one more opportunity for a man to fail to satisfy the expectations of an angry, frustrated woman from the calendar probably sounds like a marvelous idea to most men.

There are certainly no shortage of problems in the world for which men bear the greater responsibility.  But Valentine's Day expectations?  Forget expectations, I expect the average man merely hopes to avoid a catastrophic meltdown triggered by a gift of the wrong chocolate or a floral display deemed inadequate.

However, this assertion gives the alpha yet another weapon in his harem-ruling arsenal.  "Oh, is it Valentine's Day?  I didn't get you the conventional cards, chocolate, and flowers,  because of course I didn't wish to ignite any anger and frustration on your part.  Skittle?"

47 comments:

GAHCindy said...

"requiring women to smile as they accommodate the desires of another man one more time."

Setting aside the horrible, clunky wording of that idiot sentence, I can't help but notice that she thinks that men should be accommodating by letting their *wives* rest and be lazy or whatever it is she thinks they should be doing, but when men hope for a little sexual accommodation, it's just to please yet "another man one more time".

So men have wives. Every woman, if she has sex with her husband, is a slut with tons of men to please, in this odd construction.

If this "writer" has a husband, I wonder if he resents being yet "another man", instead of THE man, to her. If she's not married, then she should stop complaining about it when we wives pleasure our husbands and ourselves on V-day (or any other day that ends in -y). It just makes her look bitter and lonely. Which I guess she can't help, because those are the words of a bitter and lonely person.

taterearl said...

It appears a lot of women love to wallow in misery and they want the company.

Reason #267 it's great to be a man...you can actually enjoy being happy.

tz said...


To mix a metaphor: Men aren't supposed to be the milk cows for emotional vampires.

Expectations is another word for control. He is supposed to follow the programming.

Of course a man will give his wife more than enough emotional support. She should have the confidence of a Queen - if the King is strong.

But there is something in mostly women. They want to steal what would be freely given. They lie even when the truth costs nothing. They will set traps when someone would volunteer.

The nuclear meltdown is one of those weapons. Ice cold reason or red hot laughter is a good response. The others are reserved for actual toddlers throwing a tantrum.

It is an evil to reward such behavior in any way.




tz said...

I should add this also applies to one's own mother. After my dad died, I had to take care of her, but I wasn't going to let her push me around - I couldn't and keep up everything. I can remember several incidents where I either ignored or countered a tantrum. I made the proper allowance for honoring one's mother and the elderly, but there was a line - where it would be dishonor. One can choose one's spouse, but not one's mother. And she could be very strong (virtuous) when she wanted and was very smart. That version I would pay attention to. But not the child throwing a tantrum.

Мишаня said...

"Skittle?" ooh Roissy :))

LP 999/Eliza said...
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LP 999/Eliza said...

Also, v-day applies to couples, school yard kiddies exchanging little cards, teens or hipster couples - people who can enjoy in a defined manner.

It is weird to tell someone happy valentines as a general walk-in greeting. People didn't used to do it 10 years ago, now its "happy friday, happy valenties days, happy earth day."

taterearl said...

It was pretty awkward that guys were wishing me a "Happy Valentine's Day". If it wasn't for them I would have pretty much forgot about the whole thing.

stg58/Animal Mother said...

I bought my wife a tall crazy ass coffee, brownies and a gift card from Minuti, her favorite Italian coffee place. Much better and cheaper than Starbucks.

Living with a Chocoholic is nice. No guessing on what to buy her. I told her she wasn't going to get a card or flowers because that is what everyone else does. She said nothing, mainly because her mouth was full of brownies and coffee.

Wendy said...

Such an entitlement mentality. 'I get, but giving is too much of a chore.' It sums up what's wrong with a lot of relationships today.

If this person is not married, they have no business writing on the subject. If she is, I pity her husband. She makes married sex sound like such an unsatisfying drudgery. If it is, it's her own fault. Only she can control her attitude.

dustydog said...

Valentine's Day is a great holiday. It provides a perfect excuse to give a cute married coworker a $2 pair of boxers with hearts on them. Then, a week later when she stops by to say she is wearing your gift, you can express disbelief until she proves it.

The boss excuses my coming into work at noon on 2/15, because yesterday was Valentine's Day, so of course I'm going to be sleep derived and hung over. Notice that the Super Bowl people didn't get that accommodation.

If you are dating a shrew, everything is shrew-food. If you are dating a mink, everything is mink-food. "Every woman gets exactly the love life she wants."

swiftfoxmark2 said...

Typical feminist approach. Take everything but give nothing in return. Women have their expectations and they are valid, but a man's expectations are invalid because God forbid a wife fulfill her marital vows with her husband.

Nothing is sacred with these runts (with a capital "C").

swiftfoxmark2 said...

To add to my earlier comment, the give and take is a false assumption to begin with in a marriage. Just beating femintards at their own game.

A man should get his wife gifts on Valentine's Day because he loves her. A wife should have sex with her husband because she loves him and wants him to be happy. No strings attached.

And guys, when you get your wife gifts, be honest about it. Don't get some stupid card that says a whole bunch of nonsense. If you have to, get her a blank one and write your own stuff in it. I wonder what the unattractive Hallmark employees were thinking as I was standing in the "For Wife" section of Valentine's Day cards constantly muttering, "This is crap." Finally found one that was probably a generic card, but it said exactly what I wanted.

taterearl said...

"Don't get some stupid card that says a whole bunch of nonsense. If you have to, get her a blank one and write your own stuff in it."

Even better go back to third grade...make something with macaroni and glue, pipe cleaners, or whatever creative crafty material you can come up with. I'm beginning to think if it wasn't for brainwashing and puberty that everything I learned in grade school would be what I needed to do to attract women.

Desert Cat said...

Daisycat got a bag of Skittles this week.

She still has no idea why I do this...

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Bob Wallace said...
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Bob Wallace said...

Floral display deemed inadequate? I owned a floral shop for a while. Any women who complaining about her flowers is the biggest red flag I know of. Dump her.

I never took women's complaints seriously. I told them, every time, you will not get a discount, you will not get a refund, and you will not get a new arraignment. Some thought they were supposed to keep the original $80 arraignment and get a new one without returning the old one.

I started taking pictures of the arraignment to prove my point there was nothing wrong with them.

Zartan said...

MC Frontalot's Romantic Cheapskate

"I’m going to finish what I started with you, this you can expect.
And I’ll call it never-ending when I call you up collect."

Joe Blow said...

I tell my wife, "Gee, I didn't buy you a Lexus for V-day against this year, honey. According to those ads, I'm a fuckin' loser. You need to find you a man, preferably a guy in his mid-20's who looks like a model, who will buy you a Mercedes at Christmas, a Lexus for Valentines day, and Diamonds on all governmental holidays. And move into that big ass house in Vermont where it's snowing heavily right now. Three cars a year and diamonds, or bust."

She just laughs her ass off and tells me not to worry about it, the Nissan I bought her a few years ago - not on a holiday but because her old car blew up - makes her really happy.

It's not really about V-day but about year-round frame. I manage the major household finances and let her know that most of what I do for us - house, a couple nice cars, vacations, and yeah, little treats here and there, and my recent efforts to get us totally debt free and build the retirement account - is a gift to her, and I think she gets it. I'm grateful...

taterearl said...

"Daisycat got a bag of Skittles this week."

Whomever is in charge of that branch of candy is sitting on a gold mine. I too have used a bag of Skittles as a gift.

tz said...

@LP999/Eliza - all I can say is be strong and do the right thing. Sometimes you have to put up with things.

I should also point out that it isn't Alpha - good, Gamma - bad. It is both have strengths and weaknesses. It is bad if you don't know or worse, deny what you are. Napoleon didn't banish yardsticks and tape measures, but you might be 4'10" or 6'10". Yet you can change behavior, but you first must realize and understand it.

Gamma Rabbit is the collective for gamma vices and weaknesses, so it is proper to laugh at it.

But there are Alphas full of confidence that turned into hubris with a string of bankruptcies or child support checks - for the women they could not brow-beat into having an abortion. If they learn to insure their confidence is based on reality and not merely taking on lots of risk they will be the most successful.

Even Gammas have their strengths. Women in business get a lot of crap they can't handle, so need to come home to a man whom they can dump it on. Gammas have that strength - they can put up with Women's emotional crap. They just have to become assertive enough to remind wifey that if she really wants an alpha she will either have to give up the rat race or learn to deal with her own emotional trash. I would suspect Gammas make better diplomats or artists where emotion is a large component. You can be risk-adverse without resorting to petty insults and getting whiny, especially if you are content with what you are and what you are able to do.

There is always a problem if you don't understand your behavior.
Worse if you see it but deny it.
In either case it is controlling you, you - even if you are an alpha - are its slave.
You need to first accept it, then deal with the particular strengths and weaknesses where you're at, or if you wish to change, you need to adopt the virtues, and avoid the vices.

And that is true tolerance and diversity - if you are content with yourself or where you are going, you don't need to bother about others.

The problem with Gamma Rabbit is mostly the rabbit part, but also that as such (and with the introductory text which is a must-read, turn off images if you can't avoid laughing at the picture), it is a celebration of all the Gamma vices and none of the virtues - the virtues are listed but only as the compliment paid by their hypocrisy right next to completely contradictory text.

There is no corresponding icon of vice for an alpha, but I think you can imagine what it would celebrate.

Hubris in an alpha can at least be understood. Hubris in Gamma Rabbit? That takes a very special curse from the gods.

Trust said...

Its amazing how women can create little emotional realities always casting themselves as the.victim of something.

My wife and I have "celebrated" 11 Valentine's Days together. We had sex on exactly 2 of them... and not surprisingly to most husbands, both times were before we were married.

I say.than not to criticize my.wife, but moreso of how the.sexual dynamic shifts in marriage. Yes, I'm just one person. But I expect my experience is common.

Mina said...

We usually ignore Valentines Day but this year we celebrated by purchasing some new firearms.

We make a nice Swiss Fondue dinner sometime around Valentines Day and we call it a "Valentines" dinner - only because Feb is the only time of year either of us wants to eat a pound or two of melted cheese on chunks of bread and drink 2-3 bottles of wine.

Quantity, quality and frequency of sex is not a problem around here - we don't really care what day it is or what the calendar says.

Giraffe said...

We usually ignore Valentines Day but this year we celebrated by purchasing some new firearms.

That is so hot.

LP 999/Eliza said...

Please end this rip off holiday. All expectations are...needless. Why do we need a holiday to please or do something for those we love? Specifically, why is this holiday likened to mothers day with the gyno worship?

V-day is emo blackmail in red. Speaking of hearts and red, yesterday's gyno worship day was nauseating. The local mall threw a heart land day for seniors/poor to basic healthcare markers. It was a zoo of sick people and nurses wearing red all colliding at the mall.

To TZ; Dad is recovering from a stroke, mom is recovering from cancer.

I've said countless times, "now is not the time" or "is this concern really healthy or important for you?"

With both parents sick, yesterday was a nice day but it seemed like my poor mother was a 4th grader over v-day and dad could care less after his stroke. We are just happy to enjoy each other for the time left.

Anonymous said...

Why Women Ruin Everything For Women
In the America of 2013 so-called feminists describe a kiss as "rapey." Happy Valentine's Day.

Pepper said...
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JohnR said...

Eliza: Valentine's Day is a ripoff if you let it be. My wife and I celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary last month.

For Valentines' Day, she got the "Mr. and Mrs. Potatohead 60th Anniversary" set(dressed in wedding clothes and holding hands).

She loves it and so do all of the women at her office. She took it to work to keep on her desk. She'll remember it and keep it for the rest of her life.

Trust said...

@ Anonymous said... Why Women Ruin Everything For Women In the America of 2013 so-called feminists describe a kiss as "rapey." Happy Valentine's Day.
______________

A huge reason for so many of our gender problems is women are never held accountable for the damage they do. Imagine an employee who, every time they do something wrong, their coworker gets blamed and management responds by given the perpetrator more goodies at the expense of the scapegoat.

This past weekend I watched 101 Dalmatians with my daughters. (Mistake) the woman of the show met a nice man at the park who would make a good husband. Disney could have portrayed a relationship starting in the right way. But oh no, it was kicked off with a "cute" little spat climaxing with the wife to be hitting her future husband in the face with a bag of objects, in which case he apologized and submitted.

Wonder what the response would have.been had he hit her in the face instead? Violence Against Women in Entertainment Act would be born. But never fear, the victim was a man so it was an appropriate Disney story for children.

As with Valentine's Day, women have.no clue how much.they've been brainwashed.

Daniel said...

In the America of 2013 so-called feminists describe a kiss as "rapey."

That's weird. All the empowered women in my area simply say that they got scalzied.

Feh said...

I hate Valentines Day. It was invented by the greeting card, flower, and restaurant industries to milk men.

tinlaw said...

It is sad when any sort of holiday causes women to focus on what they will be given instead of the opportunity they have to express love through giving. Women like this will live in continual disappoint and misery. I so enjoyed sitting at the table with construction paper and glue to help my daughter make cards for her siblings. She was so excited to GIVE them something, even though she knew they weren't making anything for her. It inspired to make a homemade card for hubby, too. I intend to feed that excitement in our daughter so it carries over into her marriage someday.

Trust said...

@tinlaw

Large groups of men, like the million man march and promise keepers, focus on now to better give.

Large groups of women, like NOW, focus on how to better get.

Will Best said...

This lady has a fair point. Women should have a day of being pampered by men once a year without having to put out. Of course, the other 364 days they should behave like women worthy of that pampering.

Weak said...

Valentine's Day for men is like a DUI checkpoint. You can pass and go on with your life exactly as you would have before - as in with zero gain. Or you can fail and suffer mighty consequences. No upside, only downside.

Although with failing the DUI, in theory at least you had the fun of getting loaded.

Hermit said...

"Daisycat got a bag of Skittles this week."

My wife got a bag of candy hearts, because she likes them. I bought my kids heart-shaped boxes of chocolates. I didn't get any action because she was sick, but she was especially amorous this morning.

I went all out the first V-Day we were together, it ended up being an incredible waste of effort, so I have never done so again.

Feh said...

"Women should have a day of being pampered by men once a year without having to put out."

False premise, false conclusion.

Mina said...

Sick of Valentines Day? Selebrate steak and blow job day exactly one month later - March 14th!!

http://www.steakandbj.org/

"Over the years, Valentine's Day has become a commercial holiday for women. On February 14, intimate couples celebrate their love with candy, flowers, greeting cards, and other gifts of affection.

Men do not want candy. Men have no need for flowers or teddy bears. There are two things men want: steak and a blowjob.

March 14, one month after Valentine's Day, is the official date for Steak and BJ Day. If a man makes his woman feel special on Valentine's Day, then she will make him feel special one month later."

We love steak and bj day. And chicken and bj day. And fish and bj day. sometimes we even go for vegetarian and bj day!

Good times, good times.

Mina said...

omg - too much wine. obviously "celebrate" not "selebrate". doh!

Luke said...

Valentine's Day should be moved to February 29th. (The day Halley's Comet first appears each time would be even better, but how many people understand HC comes around every 70-something years?)

Mentioning this to a woman is a decent test of her level of feeling entitled; she laughs, she's a possible keeper, as opposed to one who gets irritated at the idea of losing a C-perk.

Jeigh Di said...

" Women should have a day of being pampered by men once a year without having to put out. Of course, the other 364 days they should behave like women worthy of that pampering."

They do. It's called Mother's Day.

Trust said...

There are seven days wives don't have to put out: Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, and Saturday.

Girlfriends on the other hand will put out 5-10 times during those seven days.

PC Geek said...

It's reading about crap like this... the way American women are such entitled little whores who view men as slaves and walking wallets that makes me glad I never married!

Does there exist one woman who actually loves her husband, actually wants sex, and actually will actually remain loyal to him when times get tough?

Mystery Man said...

Does there exist one woman who actually loves her husband, actually wants sex, and actually will actually remain loyal to him when times get tough?

Are you just venting, or do you typically read these blogs with your eyes shut?

Just curious.

Herman the German said...

Jeigh Di said...
" Women should have a day of being pampered by men once a year without having to put out. Of course, the other 364 days they should behave like women worthy of that pampering."

They do. It's called Mother's Day.


-----Aww, but Jeigh Di....what about all the poor gay feminist chilluns???? Where's THEIR special day, eh?? (/sarcasm) LOL

Herman the German said...

Does there exist one woman who actually loves her husband, actually wants sex, and actually will actually remain loyal to him when times get tough?

@PC GEEK - Yes. Several of them frequent this blog, Sir. (But I think we ALL understand your frustration)

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