Tuesday, March 13, 2012

Fidelity survey

Similar to the previous questions on income and sexual experience, I'm interested in obtaining some actual data on sexual fidelity. This is completely anonymous, so please be straightforward. As to the guide of what constitutes unfaithfulness, I encourage you to use your own personal metric for what you would consider to constitute your spouse cheating on you. "Serious boyfriend or girlfriend" means a relationship that precluded other relationships. Here are the questions:

1. Are you married?
2. Are you Male or Female?
3. How many serious boyfriends or girlfriends did you have that you did NOT subsequently marry?
4. How many of those serious boyfriends or girlfriends did you cheat on in some manner?
5. Have you ever been unfaithful to a spouse?
6. To the best of your knowledge, has a spouse ever been unfaithful to you?
7. What is your N (number of lifetime sexual partners)? A) N=0, B) N=1-3, C)N=4-9, D) N=10-19, E) N=20+

325 comments:

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Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 4
4. 1
5. No
6. Yes. Before marriage.
7. C

Anonymous said...

1. yes
2. male
3. 1
4. 0
5. no
6. no
7. b

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 1
4. 1
5. 1
6. Yes
7. E

Anonymous said...

1. M
2. Male
3. 1
4. 1
5. No
6. No
7. D

Anonymous said...

1. no
2. male
3. 1
4. 0
5. no, never married
6. no
7. d

Anonymous said...

1. yes
2. Female
3. 4
4. none
5. no
6. no
7. c

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 1
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 7
4. 6
5. yes
6. yes
7. E

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. Male
3. 2
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. E

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 0
4. Well duh!
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. Male
3. 0
4. n/a
5. n/a
6. n/a
7. A

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. Male
3. 0
4. None
5. No
6. No
7. A

Anonymous said...

1. married
2. male
3. 1
4. 0
5. no
6. yes
7. b

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 0
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. M
3. 1
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Y
2. M
3. 3
4. 1
5. N
6. N
7. C

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 2
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Married
2. Male
3. One
4. None
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. F
3. 4
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. C

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. F
3. 0
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. A

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. Male
3. 3
4. 3
5. Yes
6. No
7. C

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 1
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. M
3. 4
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. D

AJ said...

1. No
2. Male
3. 1
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 5
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 0
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 1
4. 1
5. Yes
6. Yes
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 3
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. Male
3. 0
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. A

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Female
3. 3
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. C

Anonymous said...

1. Married
2. Male
3. 1
4. All, including all the non-serious relationships
5. No, but damn close
6. She has not
7. C

Anonymous said...

1) Yes
2) Female
3) 3
4) 1
5) No
6) No
7) C

Anonymous said...

1. Y
2. Male
3. 1
4. 0
5. no
6. no
7. C

Anonymous said...

1.Married
2. Female
3, 2
4. no
5. no
6. no
7. B

Anonymous said...

As far as cheating on one's serious relationship do you want that to constitute sex or for us to leave that to our discretion as well?

Anonymous said...

1. Married
2. Male
3. 3
4. 3
5. Yes
6. No
7. E

Anonymous said...

1. Married
2. Female
3. 2
4. 2
5. Yes
6. No
7. C

Anonymous said...

1. Married
2. Male
3. 1
4. 0
5. Emotionally
6. Not physically
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. Male
3. 3
4. 3
5. No
6. No
7. E

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 3
4. 0
5. No
6. Yes. Emotional Affair, not physical
7. D

Anonymous said...

1. Married
2. Female
3. 1
4. 0
5. no
6. no
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. Male
3. 3
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. D

Anonymous said...

1.engaged
2.Male
3.1
4.0
5.no
6.no
7.B

Anonymous said...

1. N
2. Male
3. 1
4. 0
5. n/a
6. n/a
7. B) N=1-3

Anonymous said...

1. Not yet (engaged).
2. Male.
3. 0 (engaged to first girlfriend).
4. 0
5. No.
6. No.
7. A

Anonymous said...

1 - No
2 - M
3 - 3? (You really should qualify your definition of "serious")
4 - 2
5 - Yes
6 - Yes
7 - E

Anonymous said...

1. married
2. male
3. 2
4. 0
5. no
6. no
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. yes
2. M
3. 0
4. 0
5. no
6. no
7. B

Anonymous said...

Where are all the high N females? C'mon ladies, it's anonymous, own it.

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 2
4. 2
5. Yes
6. Yes
7. E

Vox said...

As far as cheating on one's serious relationship do you want that to constitute sex or for us to leave that to our discretion as well?

If you would have consider it to have been cheating on you if the other party did it at the time, count it.

Where are all the high N females? C'mon ladies, it's anonymous, own it.

They're at Susan's place. If you recall from the last survey, there weren't many here.

Anonymous said...

1) No
2) Male
3) 3
4) 0
5) N/A
6) N/A
7) 0

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 1
4. 0
5. No
6. No.
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Y
2. M
3. 0
4. 0
5. N
6. N
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 0
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1.yes
2.male
3. 6
4. 0
5. no
6. no
7. e

Anonymous said...

1) Yes
2) Male
3) 0
4) 0
5) No
6) No
7) A

Anonymous said...

1. Y
2. Male
3. 1
4. 0
5. N
6. N
7. B

Dreadpiratk said...

1 yes
2 Male
3 3
4 No
5 No
6 B

Anonymous said...

1) Married
2) Female
3) 5
4) All
5) Once
6) Yes
7) D

Anonymous said...

1. No.
2. Male.
3. 3
4. 0
5. N/A — but I did have sex with a married woman.
6. N/A
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Yes, separated heading for divorce
2. Male
3. 2
4. 2
5. No
6. Yes
7. D

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. None
4. N/A
5. No
6. No
7. B - 1

Anonymous said...

1: No
2: M
3: zero
4: n/a
5: n/a
6: n/a
7: zero

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 2
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 4
4. None
5. No
6. No
7. 9

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 1
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. A

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. Male
3. 1
4. 0
5. No
6. As far as I know, no
7. A

Anonymous said...

1. Div.
2. M
3. 2
4. 1
5. no
6. multiples, I'm guessing beyond E
7. B

Anonymous said...

1.Yes
2.Male
3.4
4.0
5.No
6.No
7.D

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 0
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. C

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 0
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B (1)

Anonymous said...

Y,M,1,0,N,N,B

AnonyMouse said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 6
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 4
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. E

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. Male
3. 1
4. 1
5. No [N/A]
6. No
7. D

Anonymous said...

1 yes
2 male
3 3
4 0
5 no
6 no
7 b

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. male
3. 0
4. 0
5. no
6. no
7 b

Anonymous said...

1. Married
2. Male
3. 4
4. 2
5. No
6. No
7 D

Anonymous said...

1 no
2 male
3 seven
4 two
5 n/a
6 n/a, but if counting gf's, 2
7 d

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. Two
4. One
5. No
6. No
7. C

Anonymous said...

1. No, but engaged
2. Male
3. 2
4. 1
5. No
6. No
7. A

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 2
4. 2
5. No
6. No
7. N

Anonymous said...

1: Yes
2: M
3: 2
4: 1
5: Y
6: Y
7: E

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 1
4. 0
5. No
6. Yes
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 4
4. 0
5. No
6. Yes
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. No
3. No
4. No
5. No
6. No
7. No

Anonymous said...

1. Y
2. M
3. 2
4. 1
5. N
6. N
7. E

Anonymous said...

1. Y
2. M
3. 2
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Female
3. 1
4. 1
5. No
6. No
7. C

Anonymous said...

1. Y
2. M
3. 8
4. 0
5. N
6. N
7. C

SimplyHarry said...

1) Yes
2) Male
3) 2
4) 0
5) no
6) no
7) D

Anonymous said...

1. Y
2. M
3. 0
4. 0
5. N
6. Y
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. M
3. 5
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. C

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 1
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Y
2. M
3. 2
4. 2
5. Y, premarriage
6. N
7. C

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. Male
3. 1
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. A

Anonymous said...

1: No
2. Male
3. 6
4. 0
5. Never Married
6. Never Married
7. D

Anonymous said...

1. Y
2. M
3. 1
4. 0
5. N
6. N
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 2
4. 1
5. No
6. Yes
7. C

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 0
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

Y
M
1
0
N
N
C

Anonymous said...

1. divorced
2. M
3. 3
4. 0
5. n
6. n
7. e

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 5
4. 0
5. No
6. Yes
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. Male
3. 4
4. 4
5. Yes
6. No
7. E

Anonymous said...

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. F
3. 0
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. A

March 13, 2012 6:03 AM


D'oh! Last answer should be B. That's what I get for posting on the fly.

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 0
4. 0
5. Yes
6. No
7. E

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 2
4. 2
5. No
6. No
7. C

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 1, high school girlfriend
4. 0
5. Yes
6. No
7. E, divided among escorts and married flings met on OKCupid or Ashley Madison

Anonymous said...

1.Yes
2.Male
3. 1
4. 0
5. Yes
6. Emotional affair.
7. D

Unknown said...

1. No
2. Male
3. 7
4. 6
5. Yes
6. No
7. E

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 4
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 2
4. 0
5. No
6. Yes
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Female
3. 0
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. No.
2. Male.
3. 4.
4. None.
5. NA.
6. NA.
7. E.

Anonymous said...

1. Yes.
2. Male.
3. 1
4. 0
5. No.
6. Maybe
7. C

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. Male
3. 3
4. 0
5. N/A
6. Yes
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. Male
3. 3
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. C

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. Male
3. 3
4. 0
5. N/A
6. N/A
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. yes
2. Male
3. 3
4. Zero
5. yes
6. no
7. E

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 3
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. No (Divorced)
2. Male
3. 10
4. 4
5. No
6. Yes
7. D

Jason said...

1. Y
2. M
3. 1
4. 1
5. No
6. No
7. D

Mark said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 2
4. 0
5. Yes, before marriage.
6. No.
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Never
2. Male
3. 3
4. 1
5. NA
6. NA
7. D

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 2
4. 1
5. No
6. Yes
7. 20+

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 0
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B (1)

Anonymous said...

1. Not married
2. Male
3. Two, but with one of them I knew from the start there was no future in her.
4. I have never cheated, though I had the clear and present opportunity three times.
5. I don't have a spouse.
6. To the best of my knowledge, I've never been cheated on, but my girlfriends had enough opportunity to get away with it if they really wanted to - I tended to leave them be when I wasn't with them.
7. C, 4 partners.

Anonymous said...

1. Married
2. M
3. 2
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1) No
2) Male
3) 2
4) 2
5) N/A
6) N/A
7) E

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 1
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. F
3. 0
4. 0
5. N/A
6. N/A
7. A

Desert Cat said...
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JohnnyV said...

1. Divorced
2. Male
3. 5
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. E

Anonymous said...

1.) No
2.) Female
3.) 3
4.) 0
5.) Never Married
6.) Yes
7.) B

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 1
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1)Yes
2)Female
3)3
4)2
5)No
6)No
7)B

Anonymous said...

no (divorced)
Male
0
0
no
yes
d

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 3
4. 1
5. No
6. No
7. C

Anonymous said...

1. yes
2. male
3. 3
4. 0
5. no
6. no
7. C

Anonymous said...

1.Yes
2.Male
3.1
4.0
5.No
6.No
7.C

farmer Tom said...

1. yes
2. Male
3. 1
4. 0
5. no
6. no
7. 1 or B
although I would have preferred you made only 1 an option

Anonymous said...

1. No (divorced)
2. Male
3. 3
4. 1
5. No
6. No
7. E

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 2
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. M
3. 4
4. None
5. No
6. No
7. C

Anonymous said...

1. Y
2. F
3. 1
4. 1
5. N
6. N
7. E

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. Female
3. 1
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Yes

2. Male

3. 2

4. 0

5. No

6. No

7. B (1 - my wife)

Anonymous said...

1: No
2: Male
3: 4
4: None
5: No
6: Yes
7: C

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Female
3. 1
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B (1)

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Female
3. 0
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 2
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. D

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 2
4. 1
5. Yes
6. Yes
7. D

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 2
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. C

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. Male
3. 1
4. 0
5. No
6. Yes
7. E

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 2
4. 0
5. No
6. yes
7. C

Anonymous said...

1. N
2. Male
3. 7
4. 2
5. yes
6. yes
7. 40+ (F)

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. Male
3. 4
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. C - 4-9

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 20+
4. 20+
5. No
6. No
7. E

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. Male
3. 2
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B (1-3)

Anonymous said...

1. Y
2. Male
3. 0
4. 0
5. Y (not married at the time)
6. N (poly not counted as cheating)
7. C

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. M
3. 3-4
4. 0
5. No
6. n/a
7. E

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. M
3. 2
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. C

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. Female
3. 0
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. A

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 6
4. 3, but only because we were not officially exclusive.
5. no
6. yes
7. E

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. F
3. 3
4. 1
5. n/a
6. n/a
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. F
3. 3
4. 1
5. Yes
6. Yes
7. D

Anonymous said...

1. yes
2. f
3. 0
4. 0
5. no
6. no
7. b

Anonymous said...

1. no
2. male
3. 2
4. 0
5. no
6. n0
7. D

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Female
3. 1
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. D

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 1
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 0
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 0
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Nope
2. Male
3. 4
4. 1
5. not married
6. D

Anonymous said...

1. YES
2. Male
3. Three
4. One
5. No
6. No
7. C

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 2
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Yes (per Scripture, not Almighty State, however.)
2. Male
3. 1
4. None.
5. No.
6. No.
7. B.

dragnet said...

1. No.
2. Male.
3. 2
4. 0
5. Never married.
6. Never married.
7. E

Anonymous said...

No
Male
0
0
No
No
B

Anonymous said...

NO
Male
1
0
No
Yes
C

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. Female
3. 0
4. 0
5. Does not apply
6. Does not apply
7.A

Anonymous said...

1. Y
2. M
3. 1
4. 0
5. N
6. N
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. Male
3. 1
4. 0
5. NA
6. NA
7. A

Anonymous said...

1. Married, 15 years
2. Male
3. 4
4. 2
5. Never
6. No
7. D

Explanation: from 17 to 22 I wasn't very interested in my religious up bringing after 22 I repented and remained faithful to being a christian.

Anonymous said...

1. Yes, 3rd time
2. Male
3. 1
4. 1, cheated on her while engaged, dumped her, married the one I cheated with.
5. Yes. Wife #1 (whom I married in the above scenario).
6. Yes, Wife #1 cheated with at least one male and 4 or 5 females over 21 years of marriage.
7. D

Anonymous said...

1-Married
2-Female
3-zero
4-n/a
5-no
6-no
7-B,one

Anonymous said...

@ the male who answered yes to being married but had N=0,

I see why you're here dude.

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 3
4. 0
5. Yes
6. No
7. C

Anonymous said...

1. yes
2. male
3. 2
4. none
5. emotional affair
6. no
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. No.
2. Male.
3. 2.
4. 0.
5. No.
6. No.
7. A

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. Female
3. 0
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. B

Anonymous said...

1. Yes

2. Female

3. None

4. N/A

5. No

6. No

7. B (only 1 my entire life)

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 0
4. 0
5. No
6. No
7. D

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 1
4. 1
5. No
6. No
7. D

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. Male
3. 1
4. 0
5. n/a
6. n/a
7. C (5)

Anonymous said...

1. No
2. F
3. 11
4. 11
5. Yes
6. Yes
7. E

Andrew said...

1. No
2. Male
3. 1
4. 0
5. n/a
6. n/a
7. E

Anonymous said...

1. Yes
2. Male
3. 4
4. 0
5. No
6. Yes.
7. B (Only spouse. Because of "religion" I passed up several opportunities that offered themselves to me [7], literally, and never bothered pursuing many others that could have been gotten with a little work. Because you know... "sin". One of my few regrets in life).

Anonymous said...

I am Anon from 3:34pm and reading through responses see that people are putting the qualifier of "Emotional Affair" for #6.

So, if you are interested in that data, add it to my #6 as well. Although given enough time I believe she would have eventually moved from emotional to physical. I found out before it got that far.

Anonymous said...

1.Yes
2.Male
3.1
4.0
5.No
6.No
7.B)

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