Highschool taught me a lot about girls. I always thought pissing them off will send them away while being playful with them will do the opposite. But during highschool I learned a different story. Vanessa was the hottest chick in our batch. She was the girl that even the higher year guys would hit on and she always wins beauty pageants. And from what I can observed, Vanessa perfectly knows how attractive she is. I rarely interact with her since we never get to be in the same class until 4th year. The first time I saw her she was talking to this boy. It seems that he made a move on Vanessa and she was pissed about it. When she did not want anymore from him Vanessa waved her hand on his face and turned away.And that was the sound of one car crashing.... This is an interesting case study because Toby is clearly a delta with some gamma tendencies. He didn't get the girl who was sending him written and signed indications of interest, presumably because he was afraid to pursue. And yet, despite his modest socio-sexual rank, notice how two public interactions in which he stood his ground in front of an audience were sufficient to make him look attractive to one of the higher ranking girls. Tthere are two lessons here. The first is to be bold in standing up for yourself. Women respect it. Women find it attractive.
There were other students who saw this. Their immediate reaction was disgust and started calling her a bitch. My reaction was "WOW!" and it was quite load since Vanessa heard it and turned my way. She was surprised. She had the looked where a huge question mark was written on her forehead.
Me: Yeah! Wow! That was my first time seeing you do that.
Vanessa: So you're one of the soft boys then.
Me: Soft boys? You mean gays?
Vanessa: No! I mean boys who can't deal with girls who can stand up to them.
Me: You mean boys who can't deal with a spoiled little girl.
Several students cheered in agreement with me.
Vanessa: I'm not spoiled!
Me: Yes you are. You are spoiled! spoiled! spoiled!
Vanessa gave me the death stare and walked away. I thought her face was really cute when she was angry. The next class came as a surprise to me. It was a combination of two sections, mine and Vanessa's. It was the faculty's attempt to be efficient. Vanessa was on the same row as me and seated 2 chairs away. The teacher started the class by introducing the topic of debate. So he asked one of us to start a topic that everyone can debate about. Then Lani volunteered to propose a topic.
Lani: I have one, teacher. Why are boys so clueless?
The girls started laughing. Then some of the boys started booing. I asked Lani out load.
Me: Lani! Did Carl piss you off again?
There was laughter from both sides. Vanessa was laughing too. Carl is Lani's boyfriend and most of us already know that when Lani starts to rant about boys it is because Carl pissed her off. But somehow Vanessa thought it was a perfect time to get back at me for what I did earlier.
Vanessa: So tell us, why are boys like you so clueless?
I stood up and started addressing the class.
Me: I admit that I did piss you off awhile ago. But that is not a good reason to think that boys are clueless.
The teacher agreed with me and demanded that Vanessa and Lani drop the topic. Vanessa started giving me the death stare again.
Fast forward to 4th year. Vanessa and I were classmates now. During english class our teacher gave us an activity where we write letters to our classmates that really made an impression on us. Vanessa wrote me a letter. In it she confessed that she had a crush on me ever since the day I called her a spoiled girl. I was like "WTF! That was like two years ago!". I read on and she continued telling me how she finds me really attractive during one of the class debates where I participated. She thinks that I was really brave and manly. But what she really find attractive the most is the fact that I was not like the other boys whom she can easily manipulate. She finds it annoying at times whenever I make it so difficult for her whenever she asks me for favors.
I tried to think more about my interaction with her in our class. All I can remember is that I rarely praise her nor do anything for her while I tease her a lot. Well, I rarely do anything for any girl even for my girlfriend. But to know that arguing with them and treating them badly could make a very attractive girl fall for you was a surprise.
I replied to her letter:
I was surprised by your confession. I can tell if a girl has a crush on me but I never sensed that from you. But you know that I already have a girlfriend. I am flattered that a very pretty girl like you has a crush on me but right now I do hope you find someone else.
Vanessa never became my girlfriend primarily because I never pursued her. After high school there were times I thought I should have gone out with her.
The second is to be fearless in pursuit of the pretty. Game theoreticians often advise young women not to waste the pretty, but young men shouldn't assume it is going to be sitting around waiting for them forever either. For the bold, for the would-be alpha, the right moment is always now. Toby's problem was that he wasn't cognizant of the effect that his actions would have, and therefore he blew an excellent opportunity to outkick his coverage.