I have two sons. They are strong and compassionate—the kind of boys other parents are glad to meet when their daughters bring them home for dinner. They are good boys, in the ways good boys are, but they are not safe boys. I’m starting to believe there’s no such thing.No doubt she'll be mystified as to why they hate her and leave her to die alone to be eaten by her cats.
I wrote an essay in The Washington Post last year, during the height of the Brock Turner case, about my sons and rape culture. I didn’t think it would be controversial when I wrote it; I was sure most parents grappled with raising sons in the midst of rape culture. The struggle I wrote about was universal, I thought, but I was wrong. My essay went semi-viral, and for the first time my sons encountered my words about them on their friends’ phones, their teachers’ computers, and even overheard them discussed by strangers on a crowded metro bus. It was one thing to agree to be written about in relative obscurity, and quite another thing to have my words intrude on their daily lives.
One of my sons was hurt by my words, although he’s never told me so. He doesn’t understand why I lumped him and his brother together in my essay. He sees himself as the “good” one, the one who is sensitive and thoughtful, and who listens instead of reacts. He doesn’t understand that even quiet misogyny is misogyny, and that not all sexists sound like Twitter trolls. He is angry at me now, although he won’t admit that either, and his anger led him to conservative websites and YouTube channels; places where he can surround himself with righteous indignation against feminists, and tell himself it’s ungrateful women like me who are the problem.
Thursday, July 13, 2017
The case for paternal custody
If not automatically removing boys from the custody of single mothers:
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I had to laugh when she said her son was browsing conservative content on the internet, almost like a puritan Christian mom being concerned her son was looking at cartoon tiddies. No wonder generation Zyklon is so conservative.
This time around, the anime tiddies are on our side.
Oh how sweet it would be to lead him to Alpha Game, Vox Popoli, Return of Kings etc. Not only would you be saving the young man, you'd be executing the greatest coup that could be executed against said feminist.
Anyone know this kids twitter handle? if so we could share some helpful links that would explain his mothers behavior and her betrayal to the poor lad.
"Good boys but not safe boys " can I get an Archie Bunker Aww Geez?
Throwing her own kids under the bus. Please wait whilst I fetch the smelling salts.
Puke inducing drivel from a lefty psycho single mother that has not a clue how the real world works.
The left is trying to create a politically correct hookup culture of death.
Weird talk about what is "consent". (I read both of single mom's articles).
Christendom simply values virginity and teaches abstinence. Marriage and family.
He never realized that being male makes you automatically misogynist. Also, he never realized that being a white, straight, Christian male makes you the worst human on the planet. Just cuz.
He needs to look up "Lucifer's Daughter" on "teh interwebs." Oh, and she won't care when he stops talking to her, it is part of his misogyny.
This is a stone cold woman.
Children of divorce have a monster hill to climb.
I wish it was possible to tell every child he or she is not defined by the limits (and faults) of mom or dad. We can rise above them.
Few do, however.
This woman is the epitome of motherly malpractice.
@en-signma: The first hit in Bing for Lucifer's Daughter is a dominatrix. Is that what you had in mind? Hehe.
The first mistake in this series was the clueless moron who wifed-up and inseminated Looney Tunes.
"This is a stone cold woman."
BPD. Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Bipolar. Some or all are in the mix, and I'd bet any reasonably perceptive man could have seen it written all over her within 3 minutes of conversation. Also 98% chance she's a product of divorce, too.
A lot of toxic waste can come in the form of a reasonably attractive young woman.
Physiognomy is real.
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I was going to post the following comment in the comments section, only to find that it is now closed:
What on EARTH is a single woman doing attempting to raise sons? Everyone with a room temperature and above IQ knows that only a father can teach a boy how to be a man.
This article is basically a rehash of a similar article she penned a year or so ago, and she was rightfully taken to task for it back then as well. One of her sons suffers from Asperger's and had even mentioned suicide in the past. I think someone should give DSS a ring.
In this horrible woman's virtue signaling, she may have saved her son's soul. I will pray for those boys, and the one in particular that he continue to search for and find support in the truth.
As a mother of 4 boys, reading about the sons of feminists and single mothers makes my gut churn.
dc.sunsets: Speaking as a child of a single mom, it is quite difficult. It's also hard to come across resources - the other week I ordered a book from amazon for how women can cope with abusive husbands because I couldn't find anything good of the reverse! I'm debating whether to really dive into r/TheRedPill as well - most of the resources seem to be geared toward improving game and picking up girls in nightclubs, not recovering from a single mom per se.
Clearly the woman is damaged. Where do all the damaged women come from? Are they all talked into being damaged by Jews. Were they all molested as children? Where does the mental disorder come from?
Nate73, it's not exactly about abusive wives but Dr. Helen's book Men On Strike is a good book to start with.
Women like this are very consistent they will never realize their actions have consequences and she will be mystified why her sons cut her off.
"Narcissistic Personality Disorder."
She wrote an article about what happens when narcissists become parents.
https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2017/01/05/a-generation-of-narcissists-is-becoming-parents-what-now/
She's beyond redemption as she has entered a frame of mind that any critique she receives is confirmation of her correctness.
Heh. I remember that article, and I remember thinking at the time she was being very disrespectful to her sons (along with the other 3.5 billion men in the world). She'll be lucky if they bother associating with her as adults.
This woman has no business raising children. She's getting savaged on Facebook- as she should.
My sister just lost custody of her 15-year-old. She tried lime heck to be the cool mom but in the end the kid wanted structure and boundaries.
After seeing that picture I am hoping she stole the sperm for her kids from a sperm bank somewhere. The idea that a male would sex that up is.... disturbing. That or there is a guy somewhere that used to drink to excess and used to have two arms instead of one.
This is one of the best 'feel goods' stories I've consumed in a while. What if he goes on to a successful political career consisting of alt-right theory? This thing of Trump's....it smells multi generational.
No doubt she'll be mystified as to why they hate her and leave her to die alone to be eaten by her cats.
Or when one (or both) of them beats her to a bloody pulp and leaves her in a permanent vegetative state.
I believe we all live in a mental construct of our own making, and that the degree to which it varies from actual reality is the measure of innate delusion, of what's called mental illness if large enough.
Just as an alcoholic denies she has a problem, all of us whose construct conflicts with reality cannot be "fixed" without realization of the disparity.
Few people self-fix. Sadly, the only possible fix comes that way. This woman is almost certainly hopeless.
What a spitefully self-absorbes harpy. I have no doubt whatsoever that if one of her boys committed suicide she play would ecstatic for the opportunity to revel in attention. I pray those boys do fimd thw alt right and distance themselves from her asap before she drives them to despair.
Nate73, my formative years were stained by exposure to a sociopathic sister. All I know for myself is to begin with core axioms of life and of happiness and attempt to reason out from there.
For me, impulsivity is the enemy. OMMV.
"...and his anger led him to conservative websites and YouTube channels..."
LOL!!!!!!!!! More like his wack-job mother led him there. Glad to see the kid has brains enough to seek out alternative points of view. This woman's writing, by the way, is so myopic, self-righteous, and maternalistic, that it's indicative of some type of mental disorder.
"But if it’s impossible for a white person to grow up without adopting racist ideas, simply because of the environment in which they live, how can I expect men not to subconsciously absorb at least some degree of sexism?"
She's not a human being, she's a collection of vacuous, hateful feminist and proglodyte aphorisms.
What a c*nt ! My money is on one of them dismembering her and burying her body parts in the backyard. Gamma rage coming home to roost.
And the maul-right gains another recruit.
"...ordered a book from amazon for how women can cope with abusive husbands “
I'm proud to admit 'Im personally featured ( anonymously of course) as a text book example of a verbally abusive husband - in a best seller on this very topic. Its coauthored by my ex wife.
For what its worth: Coming home from work to a mess and saying “ the house looks like sh!t; why don’t you clean up after yourself?” .. now constitutes as verbal abuse. Along with - when she makes an observably ignorant statement- and the response is “ that was stupid”.
As the full-time, single father of a son, I can say grabbing him from the clutches of his mother and placing him in "dad/Man Development Camp" in his early teen years has saved him untold amounts of societal programming nonsense.
No doubt she'll be mystified as to why they hate her and leave her to die alone to be eaten by her cats.
No she won't, she'll be convinced it's entirely due to rape culture and a culture of quiet misogyny.
Even as the custodial parent I'm looking at what amounts to a HIPAA violation in regards to publicly writing about her son's psychiatric care. The public is not in a need to know situation to help with his treatment. She and the paper would be liable. Once he hits 18 I'd advise him seek out an attorney familiar with this area.
sounds like every female member of my family.
One single mom, who's so obviously nuts that even the commenters on a feminist-friendly website are overwhelmingly calling her out, is not a case for paternal custody--any more than one male pedophile is a case against it.
@Rex Littte. You must be new here. NAWALT (Not All Women Are Like That) doesn't wash here.
Why?
Because NAWALT (Nearly All Women ARE Like That).
Whether it's caused by their hormones, their generally lower IQs, their inability to detach from their emotions, or their default solipsisism, women are a danger to boys beyond the age of about eight and downright deadly when there is no father around to restrain them and teach the boy.
Nearly all women may well be as you describe to some degree, but as batshit crazy as the one quoted? Not a chance; she's off the charts.
I do agree that after a certain age (8 is as good a guess as any), a boy is likely better off with a single dad than a single mom, if those are the only choices available. (The writer's boys, of course, would be better off raised by wolves than by her.)
Welcome aboard son. Too bad about your mom sucking and all.
At least this kid has a youtube and sites like this to guide him. I was raised by an angry feminist in the early 1980s and had to find my way back on my own by trial and error.
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