User PseudoDad wrote on the site: 'Since our son was conceived 2 1/2 years ago we have had sex just 5 times. Prior to this, we weren't at it like rabbits but I was very happy with twice a week.' He said he wanted to broach the subject in a way that respected his 'wonderful' wife of six years, and asked: 'When is enough enough?'Actually, as a husband or wife, you quite literally are owed both sex and sexual exclusivity. Otherwise, there is absolutely no point to marriage other than legally establishing who the father of the children is.
His post received hundreds of replies, with women suggesting he do more housework, consider counselling, or simply 'accept that she might just not be interested right now'.
Mumsnet user monkeysox was the first to reply when she asked him whether he was doing enough housework. PseudoDad replied to insist he does his share, but another mum told him to 'accept that she might just not be interested right now and you have to grit your teeth until she feels she wants it again. 'You're not owed sex just because you want it,' said BravoPanda.
Game-aware readers will immediately recognize the problem; the man's socio-sexual rank is too low to attract the interest of his wife. No man who does housework, worries about respecting his wife, and considers his wife to be "wonderful" when she is more frigid than the average iceberg is going to be attractive to a woman.
What the man should have done is left his wife one year ago; 18 months is more than sufficient time to determine that a man's wife is simply not committed to actually being a wife and performing the single most important function of a wife. But in a case as hapless as this, I can't imagine it doing any good.
My recommendation for a man in this situation would be to continue to play the family guy martyr as long as the wife wants to be financially supported by him, then hope for a reasonable divorce settlement when she finally tires of the pretense and decides to go in search of more interesting men.
What I find more remarkable is the average female response. It is clear that their first instinct is to justify the woman's actions and defend them, simply on the remote chance that they might one day find themselves in a similar position. This lack of empathy is solipsism, not sociopathy, but in this case, it genuinely resembles the latter.