Saturday, August 6, 2016

Don't defer, don't hire

The Chateau provides an example of how to lose hand despite power:
Beta males, especially those of the cuck variety, have a knee-jerk urge to publicly elevate their wives to positions of influence in their lives that are all out of proportion to reality. Jeb!, Kasich, Cruz…they all did it. A little self-abnegating generosity toward the wife is fine until it turns hyperbolic and comically supplicating. Beta males still haven’t learned that the handicap principle is easy to abuse and backfire on them, and that a man has to show a little alpha gumption before he can safely indulge some oily deference toward women.
Deltas, in particular, love to publicly pedestalize their wives. Put a Delta in a position of authority, and before you know it, he'll make his wife an executive of some sort. I don't quite understand the thinking behind it, but it's as if they can't decide anything without being sure to get her approval.

I know one CEO that made this mistake. He made his wife the vice-president of a technology company despite the fact that she didn't know a single damn thing about computers or even what the company did. He set her up for failure in the corporate world; unsurprisingly, the marriage failed too.

13 comments:

Dexter said...

I interviewed a guy once and when he showed up his wife was with him. He wanted her to be present for the interview - "she is my business manager". Uh huh, I don't think so. He didn't get the job, not least because this initial encounter generated contempt for him and he never recovered from it in my eyes.

Unknown said...

Chris Roberts of Star Citizen comes to mind...

Unknown said...

Chris Roberts of Star Citizen comes to mind...

dc.sunsets said...

Some women are quite comfortable staying in their own sphere of capability. The trouble is that such women don't marry ambitious, driven men very often.

A lot of the disasters you see in marriages seem to be preordained by the selection criteria of both husband and wife. Birds of a (clueless) feather....

H. Clinton is the archetype of the mid-talented harpy who sought out a man whose ambition towered over every other aspect of his being.

Look at the OE or aftermarket wives of high level executives. Shades of the Lizard Queen everywhere.

liberranter said...

I interviewed a guy once and when he showed up his wife was with him. He wanted her to be present for the interview - "she is my business manager".

WOW, seriously?!

I've read some "you-ain't-gonna-believe-this-shit!" stories about the incredibly boneheaded things people have pulled during job interviews, but THAT takes first prize (even over the one about the woman who brought a bag of McDonalds into the interview and started chowing down, explaining that her "hypoglycemia" made it necessary for her to eat whenever she felt like it).

If this guy brings Mommy, er, "wifey" with him to all of his job interviews, it's a sure bet that he's still unemployed and will remain that way. He'll probably also soon be divorced, if he isn't already.

Laguna Beach Fogey said...

I think some of them do it because they are afraid: they anticipate her disapproval or envy of their position. By elevating her they seek to preempt conflict.

Jackie DeLister said...

An excellent example of this is Paul Graham.

The Deuce said...



Chris Roberts' future, most likely.

The Deuce said...



Chris Roberts' future, most likely.

VFM #7634 said...

I think some of them do it because they are afraid: they anticipate her disapproval or envy of their position. By elevating her they seek to preempt conflict.

That may have something to do with it. To wit:

1) Deltas are terrified of angry / sad / upset women.
2) They are also afraid of being coldly cut off.

They generally have absolutely no idea that the best way to deal with an upset woman is to, as the common dumb meme puts it, Keep Calm And Carry On. Nor that the absolute worst way to prevent being cut off is to appease and kiss up to their wives.

Kirk Parker said...

Paul Graham? Say (or link) more...

S. Misanthrope said...

You realize Trump did this with Ivana, right?

Jackie DeLister said...

@Kirk Parker

He mentions his wife Jessica multiple times on his website and Twitter feed. I'm shocked, SHOCKED, that Jessica's last name isn't Graham.

www.PaulGraham.com
www.twitter.com/PaulG

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