Ben Cohen: What's the best way to avoid being a gamma?
VD: Be ruthlessly honest with yourself. Don't exaggerate or lie to others.
It’s not just the best way, it’s the only way. This post could be a book, but instead I’ll highlight the four points of life.
Physical: Don't lie to yourself about your appearance. Take a good long look in the mirror. Everyone, and I mean everyone has something they’d like to improve about their appearance so get at it. Dress better and sharper than the next guy. Work out and push yourself.
Emotional: Don't lie about how you feel, but rather learn to control yourself. Stop being a basket case when things don’t go your way. If your emotions are getting the best of you stop, walk away, and calm down so long as your life isn’t in danger. Stop picking fights with people online and in real life to get an emotional high and low. You can't really control your emotions, but you can control your reaction to them to try to remain calm and steady.
Spiritual: Don't lie about the state of your soul or conscience. If you don’t pray, then meditate regularly on life, listen to your conscience, and strive for honesty. If you pray, then set time aside regularly for it and to ask for forgiveness and honesty. You can’t forgive others if you can’t get on your knees yourself. You can’t expect honesty in others if you lie about yourself.
Intellectual: Don't lie to yourself about your intelligence and keep your mouth shut unless you actually have something meaningful to add. Carefully read on a topic before pontificating about it as you want to be known for being thoughtful not blustery. Don’t exaggerate about things you know or your life, as eventually you will get caught.
Outside of these four categories the single best advice I can give a Gamma about women is to remember that for every low character man there is in the world, there’s a low character woman. What confuses many men is that women do different evil than men not less of it, and so men ignore or don’t take it seriously. Don't lie to yourself that women are intrinsically better or morally upright than men. Their hearts can be just as black and twisted, but it's not always so obvious.