Thursday, December 3, 2015

Dating rules


Not bad, although 2 and 5 are a bit questionable. I'd expect my son to defend any friend, male or female, and frankly, none of the strippers I knew or dated were anywhere nearly as psychotic or badly behaved as some of the more sartorially conservative college-educated girls I knew.

As far as my daughter goes, there is only one rule: "That red spot on your chest means my Daddy is watching."

23 comments:

Mansizedtarget.com said...

This stuff is bullshit when it comes to sons. Your son is a man, and he needs to learn to stand up for himself through the hard school of experience.

Mansizedtarget.com said...

This stuff is bullshit when it comes to sons. Your son is a man, and he needs to learn to stand up for himself through the hard school of experience.

paworldandtimes said...

When seeing one of those Dating My Daughter memes with a reference to deadly force involving a shotgun I asked "Is it a double-barrel? because it takes two to tango."

PA

David-093 said...

"This stuff is bullshit when it comes to sons. Your son is a man, and he needs to learn to stand up for himself through the hard school of experience."

Or he could just avoid all that and take the advice of people who know better and have been there.

liberranter said...

"12. He is not your 'emotional tampon.'Save that nonsense for your female friends.

13. Hysterics and temper tantrums will only piss him off. Make a habit of throwing them, and he'll kick you to the curb so fast it will make your head spin.

14. Discuss 'career aspirations' with him at your own risk. He not only doesn't care, but any indications that career is a priority over marriage and family will see you 'nexted' very quickly. If you're not serious about a long-term relationship, then you can ignore this advice. Otherwise, proceed at your own risk.

15. Consider how you treat your own mother and father. My son will be observing this very carefully. Indications of anything other than loving respect will see you 'nexted' in very short order.

"I've trained my son very well, as you'll notice if you haven't already. Whether you can abide this list will serve as proof of your fitness as a companion or potential mate. Frankly, I'm not optimistic for your long-term prospects if you're a typical North American woman under the age of 30."

Aeoli Pera said...

Of the strippers I've known, probably 5% were genuinely mentally ill (maybe from the drug use in some cases). About half were regular nuts, like you'd see in any workplace, and the remainder were pretty level-headed (unfortunately this led to them making less money).

The mentally ill ones made a lot of money if they were hot, but they couldn't stick to the job and always got fired for something retarded.

Aeoli Pera said...

Compare to college girls of my acquaintance (generally STEM): about 80% are regular workplace stupid, whereas the rest are level-headed (but very rarely are they certifiable). I have a pretty good perspective for genuine mental illness because I'm right on the edge myself.

Timmy3 said...

Number 11 makes no sense. I would think she wouldn't be expecting a ring when it comes to that and it is likely she'll win via accusation alone. Her son needs to take precautions to avoid such women. A mother and son conversation might help.

genericviews said...

Rules a Son has for his parents:
1. Stay the F&^* out of my love life.
2. I'll date anyone I want to and it's none of your business what she looks like, how she dresses or what her intentions are.
3. I WANT her to dress like a stripper.
4. It's my bed and I will sleep in it.

Brad Andrews said...

Are you sure you would really want your wife dating or marrying a stripper now?

Genericviews,

I want to enjoy my wife, I don't want other men enjoying her. A son who pays no attention to his parents, especially if they have their heads on straight, is also likely to have many unnecessary problems in life. Insight is quite valuable when used appropriately.

Jack Amok said...

Rules for dating my son:

1 - Be nice to him. It's the only hope you have of competing with the thousands and thousands of other girls out there hotter than you, and he knows it.

MATT said...

I love strippers.

SS said...

In regards to 2, is it in reference to women always trying to start fights and then running behind the guy they're with? I didn't interpret it as meaning don't defend when appropriate.

Anchorman said...

This stuff is bullshit when it comes to sons. Your son is a man, and he needs to learn to stand up for himself through the hard school of experience.

Well, there's the first part.

MAN UP!

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Parents should stick up for their sons.

No one else is.

Robus Ferrous said...

Fail is fail. As long as a double standard exists that it is okay to use violence (in self defense) on men and not women, feminism will continue to run over anglo-saxons until they go extinct. Asians, muslims, and latinos don't have this problem

Jack Amok said...

Parents should stick up for their sons.

No one else is.


Not even the sons...

Tom K. said...

I drove a cab in Vegas and was a union rep for the taxi industry for ten years. I met a lot of strippers and pros and they covered the full spectrum. The one's who'd been at it a while were as jaded about men as any gamester is about women.

You get the quality of human being you're looking for. If your relationship gameplan is primarily (or only) about sex, guess what kind of person you'll attract? You've got nobody to blame but yourself when hit the bottom of the nihilist pit.

The only caution, not rules, I ever expressed to my daughter's boyfriends was that I loved her, she was protected, and if they hurt her in any way other than emotionally (I'm not gonna hold a kid responsible for a teenage girl's emotions!), I was perfectly willing to hunt him down, severely hurt him, put him in the hospital, or kill him, if necessary. "She's my daughter, I love her and I protect what's mine." I always ended this with a sincere and friendly smile but I made sure they understood I meant it.

It seems to have worked. At 24 she is engaged to a really nice guy who is not an alpha and KNOWS he is not an alpha and doesn't want to BE an alpha (fuck alphas!) but whom she wisely TREATS like an alpha and INSISTS is an alpha. I have spoken to him about being alpha TO HER and he agrees. He knows about establishing and maintaining frame and she has said she is willing to submit to his leadership in marriage. I'm not sure I could expect anything more.

My son, who is four years older than her, is almost MGTOW without identifying as MGTOW. I have never had much of anything to say about his relationships and he doesn't seem to have any problems hooking up with women. But I get the feeling he's too busy with his work and doesn't really see the value in a LTR or especially marriage. I never expected my kids to "give me" grandchildren so I'm not at all upset. However, having children, raising them, watching them grown and then letting your relationship evolve as they mature into adults is perhaps one of the most rewarding things in my life as I grow older. Children are worth it.

Wow. said more than I intended.

pdwalker said...

Nicely said Tom K. And yeah, good advice to the boyfriends.

kiltedtiger said...

"Timmy3 said...

Number 11 makes no sense. I would think she wouldn't be expecting a ring when it comes to that and it is likely she'll win via accusation alone."

Timmy,
I know a local high school young man that is dealing with a girl that has been stalking him for a relationship for over 2 years after making a false accusation.

@ Tom K
Great post. Your son sounds like a high value man. If he can wash his own clothes and cook his own food what does he need a woman for?

Sokrates said...

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Good rules. It’s true Nr. 2 and 5 can be questioned. Finding a girl who is fit enough to obey those rules is nearly impossible nowadays if you life in the US.

Jeff said...

Tom K. thanks for sharing. Sounds like you've done just what a father should!

Mindstorm said...

The second point on the list would benefit from some rewording. "Bullet- catcher" would fit better, indicating his instrumental role (an object rather than subject) there. A bodyguard has some limited authority over his ward that emerges in life-threatening circumstances.

Mindstorm said...

And for the fifth point, it would be better if it ended with "in public". What is private should stay that way, any third party imposing rules there seems like overreach to me.

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