Why men won’t marry you is still one of the top trending opinion pieces at Fox News ten days after it was first posted. I’ve received loads of emails from readers, both male and female.The battle of the sexes is over. The ALPHA males won. Pretty much everyone else lost.
Ironically, two days after that article was posted, The New York Times published the winning essay of this year’s Modern Love College Essay contest. Its author is Jordana Narin, and the title of her essay is “No Labels, No Drama, Right?” A sophomore at Columbia University, Ms. Narin obviously isn’t looking to get married. But like all women, she is looking for love. For connection. The gist of her very poignant and honest essay is that, among her generation, love is becoming increasingly hard to find....
No, Ms. Narin, you could not be less in control. Your generation is under the erroneous assumption that (a) men and women are “equal” as in the same and can therefore both enjoy commitment-free sex, and that (2) promiscuity is somehow liberating. Both are egregious lies.
I could write about the differences between male and female biology, as I did in this blog post, but I won’t. Instead I’ll let your story be the guide. You insist people today are no longer ‘gendered’ and that women don’t “crave attachment” to just one man. If that is so, why must women “bury their emotions” when they become involved with a guy? Why did Jeremy’s affection “loom like a promise”? And why have you “brooded” over him for the last four years?
Because you’re a woman, not a man.
Women are romantic and relational beings, and men are made to respond to this! But they do not respond to a woman who acts like a man. Once you sleep with a guy who’s not yet in love with you, you’ve eradicated your power to make him stay.
Feminism has a) eliminated any need for ALPHA males to marry, b) significantly reduced the desirability of marriage for all men, and c) reduced the ability of non-ALPHA males to marry women congruent with their socio-sexual rank.
What it has predictably created is a quasi-harem situation where ALPHA males maintain stables of women over time who have sex with them instead of settling down to married life with lesser males until they are too old to be of interest to the ALPHAs.
Any woman who still calls herself a feminist might as well be wearing a sign that declares: "I am stupid, self-destructive, and short-sighted. The milk is free."