To [a female solipsist] the most terrible reality of all is the one in which anyone OTHER THAN an adult woman has any say or influence on events. This is really the Narcissist's inability to comprehend ( much less respect ) the boundaries of others.Notice that this gives men an easy way to test for female solipsism. Simply criticize a woman who is not the woman with whom you are speaking, and who shares no significant characteristics with her except for her sex. If the woman leaps to the other woman's defense in a manner that indicates she is identifying with that woman despite their differences, the chances are very high that she is solipsistic to an extent that will cause relationship problems.
Marion Zimmer Bradley gets off on fondling her own daughter? Okay, because 'children don't have erogenous zones'.
A husband wants to have sex with his wife? Impermissible because it interferes with the woman's absolute control of the relationshit ... and therefore must be characterized in the most ludicrous terms possible ( so if the woman has just given birth after 20 hours of labor the husband can demand to maritally rape her? you sick Christian bastards! ).
The reason why [the female solipsist] runs to the defense of all adult women everywhere ( the reason of the Sisterhood, actually ) regardless of the vileness of their actions is simple: possession of the One, True, Glittery Hoohaa. It's the flip side of every specific woman being a special snowflake who should be able to demand undying and sexually exclusive access from the man of her dreams.
Because she doesn't actually respect the existence of anyone else, when confronted with a story about a different woman the only way [the female solipsist] processes it is by casting herself (identifying with ) whoever the adult woman in the story is.
The solipsist inserts herself into EVERY topic being discussed.
TOPIC: Marion Zimmer Bradley rapes children?
ANALYSIS: What if SHE were to rape a child? SHE would certainly not want to be held responsible and punished for it.
CONCLUSION: Marion Zimmer Bradley did not do anything wrong when she raped children.
TOPIC: A wife's obligation to have sex with her husband.
ANALYSIS: What if SHE were to get married and find herself bound by an obligation to have sex with her husband? SHE would certainly not want to surrender any control over her sexuality to a man.
CONCLUSION: Marriage does not create any obligation for a wife to have sex with her husband.