Friday, November 8, 2013

A portrait in female solipsism

Shed a tear for this poor young girl, who is being maliciously denied the fame and fortune that are quite obviously hers by an indifferent world.
I am writing because I vary from wanting to kill myself and just giving up my career. Nobody in my family does what I do, so I don’t have contacts through nepotism. I’ve won national art awards since the age of 11 and now, at 17 years old, I have been awarded a prestigious photography prize.

I’m too young to apply for grants and seemingly too old for the mainstream media to give me any encouragement as a young talent. Ever since I was a young teenager and had my work exhibited with the United Nations, I’ve been contacting newspapers and TV networks to no avail.

Why does the world prize celebrity bimbos, not talented girls like me?

I don’t know why I try when they would rather give attention to a teenage pregnancy. I’m sick of seeing inane celebrity gossip getting more coverage than anything I will ever do.

With every award I win and every exhibition I’m in, I get closer to the edge of madness by being deprived of what I want, which is to be known.

Why is a 140-character tweet from a bimbo reality star worthy of more attention than my entire career?
If her state of depression doesn't put a smile on a man's face, well, I don't know what will. But she's actually quite fortunate to be learning a very important lesson now rather than when she's post-Wall, pushing 40, and it is too late for her to change directions.

Men don't give a damn about female talent. And most women don't either. The world doesn't care what your credentials are, doesn't care if you've won a few participation prizes, and it certainly doesn't care that you happen to be younger than the average person who is doing what you have done.

Smart young girls are particularly prone to falling into the Achievements trap. They get such a buzz from being patted on the head and being told that they're special that it never occurs to them that they are big fish in very, very small ponds. It is a rude shock to discover that 99 percent of the world doesn't care who they are or what they have done, and in fact have considerably more interest in girls with beautiful faces, nice breasts, or extraordinarily well-shaped posteriors.

It's actually quite cruel to so mislead young women, but then, it's not as if the feminist propaganda factories are telling the truth to young men either.

27 comments:

Grandfather Trout said...

It doesn't care a great deal about male talent either. I'm with Novaseeker. Sexual appeal is about all our ADHD world cares about at the present. Clearly, it's three to four strides ahead of whatever else is in the race.

newrebeluniv said...

Awards given to children are normally participation prizes. Someone is going to get the award even if no one submitted anything worthy of recognition.

She has no talent that a thousand other people also don't have. She has no career. She just wants people to pay her for doing her hobby instead of working.

--Hale

En-sigma said...

We are not smiling because our sons have this girl and her ilk to slog through on the bare hope that they find a small rise in the swamp where they don't live their lives waste deep in foul smelling muck.

It is especially less humorous if you found the red pill 15 years into marriage. It aint like throwing the helm over on a darter, it more like throwing the helm over on the Titanic and missing the iceberg only to find yourself in a minefield populated with icebergs that have their own magnetic fields and twenty foot seas. All you can do is break out the oars and slowly navigate the storm and try to fend off the icebergs with your oars. Unfortunately, the first mate does not care if the ship sinks and is waiting by the longboats.

But your analysis is spot on and well heeded.

cailcorishev said...

The other day I spent a half-hour entranced, watching videos of Lindsey Stirling, a violinist who does crossover pop stuff and appears to do a lot of her own versions of video game themes (or maybe she does the music used in the games; I don't know). I have no idea what her talent level is as a violinist; she's good enough for me to enjoy her music, but maybe no better than thousands of others out there. But she's cute as a button, performs with great energy, and does it with a lot of femininity, so she's a pleasure to watch.

If she were ugly, would I have been watching her and remembered her name? Probably not. Probably wouldn't have seen the video in the first place, because it wouldn't have gotten enough views to be recommended to me. Is that fair? Is it fair that I wasn't a foot taller, so Larry Bird got to play in the pros and I didn't? Life is unfair.

8to12 said...

This isn't restricted to girls. How often have you seen the big time high school athlete (who has been pampered and given a pass his whole life) who moves on to the next level and fails miserably, because he has never developed the skills needed to compete at a higher level?

Of course, most boys (imho) are constantly reminded of this phenomenon and told not to become overly conceited about their abilities.

Girls, on the other hand, routinely have accomplishments blown out of proportion, which leads to the attitude in the above story. She had some easy successes when she was young, so everything in her adult life should come easily.

Dewave said...

Her complaint about lack of 'encouragement' reminded me of something...

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/10/06/magazine/why-are-there-still-so-few-women-in-science.html?_r=0

"I didn’t go on in physics because not a single professor — not even the adviser who supervised my senior thesis — encouraged me to go to graduate school."

This appears to be a common female complaint, and one that no doubt seems completely foreign to the male mind.

I feel like the average male is less concerned about actual obstacles than these women seem to be about a simple 'lack' of encouragement.

I think most males adopt a combative, adversarial relationship with the world at large and would never even consider giving up their dreams for 'lack of encouragement'. They certainly wouldn't regard the lack of such encouragement as a grave injustice.

This also seems to me to be an attempt to shift responsibility..why didn't my career go farther? Why, other people were insufficiently supportive of me!

Eric Wilson said...

Re: Lindsey Stirling

Her videos are pretty cool. Also, FWIW she did the theme song for GoT. And yes, her cuteness is not an inconsequential part of her videos' appeal.

Emma said...

I don't think she realizes that those twitter bimbos are not gaining that much by having their 15 minutes of fame. And even if they are famous for longer periods of time, they rarely use that fame for anything worthwhile. Time passes and they turn into a have-beens.
It's nothing to be jealous of at all.

And considering all those awards she's getting, what is she complaining about? I didn't have that much at 17, and I still felt pretty lucky I got noticed for my art skills.

"Smart young girls are particularly prone to falling into the Achievements trap. They get such a buzz from being patted on the head and being told that they're special that it never occurs to them that they are big fish in very, very small ponds."

Exactly. Look at people who actually got known for being great artists, and find out what they did that made them so special. Then do it. You might get patted on the head for a few years and then disappear from the public view. Or you can be invisible for a long time, and then emerge as something sensational (perhaps even after your death - it's not unusual).

JCclimber said...

Her 6 year career, which started at age 11 ALL THE WAY TO 17!!!!

She really put in the time on her dream. Not like those lazy Olympic gymnasts who start around age 3, and basically go to live with the coach family around age 12 or 13 and work on their craft all the time. Not her, she really busted her ass to get further in her career. I bet in those 6 loooonnnng years, she's put at least 15,000 hours of hard work perfecting her craft.

It really is a shame that such a long career, spanning an entire lifetime of decades in the trenches, is being ignored. There outta be a law or somethin'.

Booch Paradise said...

@Emma
The fame is an end not a means.

JCclimber said...

The advice columnist is a typical female liberal idiot, but she at least had one bit of truth in her column:

"This I know — it really is tough for young people nowadays. Before my peers cry out in protest and people of my parents’ generation mutter darkly about the Thirties, let me explain. There’s never been a time when teenagers were quite so exposed to a world which weighs them down with expectation. Mass communication is torture. Young people have always dreamed and often been disappointed. But today it’s as if what they regard as their shortcomings are emblazoned on giant screens against a lowering sky, while the questions deafen them.
Why aren’t I famous? How will I know what to do? Who will love me? Why aren’t I popular? How can I be as good as ‘them’?
And so it goes on. And on."

Of course, my advice would be to parents to CUT YOUR CHILD OFF from the mass media. After all, didn't she just state that it is torture? I would agree with that assessment, but also add that it is a channel of pure evil.

Her contrasting letter had some grains of truth buried in it, where the girl doesn't want to become a doctor, and is concerned about her friend who is more popular. If only this girl had written into a red-pill forum, maybe she would have gotten some useful truth.

rycamor said...

Speaking of solipsism, women can be absolute spergs about it, in their own way. Notice, it is women (the supposedly empathetic sex) providing the example fodder for that article. No man would even think of saying what those women said.

cailcorishev said...

I can remember every time an authority figure singled me out and encouraged me in some particular pursuit, beyond the standard "good job, keep it up" stuff. Probably because I can count every such instance on one hand. That's called growing up male. There are lots of reasons that I haven't pursued various things in my life -- laziness, fear, stupidity -- but it would never occur to me to blame the universe for not being supportive enough. She's won national awards, for cripes' sake; how much encouragement does she need?

Zach said...

What Cail said re: Lindsey Stirling.

Our special snowflake simply hasn't been encouraged "enough." Miss Stirling made it as far as "America's Got Talent" and was told flat-out "you're not good enough" (Piers Morgan) and "what you're doing is not enough" (Sharon Osbourne).

Rather than giving up, Stirling took it like a man, made some adjustments, and went ahead anyway to prove them wrong.

God bless her.

It doesn't hurt that she's heartbreakingly cute. But that wouldn't have been enough if she'd stayed curled up in a ball crying about her lack of affirmation.

Ecclesiastes said...

She's 17 and probably having a bad day.

Perhaps she'd find ... something reading "Atlas Shrugged"? Something like, "stop complaining and keep working"?

Rigel Kent said...

Hermione. That's what I think of whenever I come across a story like this. Okay, that may seem a little out of left field, but bear with me for a moment.

Growing up I knew several girls over the years like Hermione. Always eager beavers to answer the question or do well on the assignment. There was one important difference. These girls I knew, no matter how well they might do in class, were never the smartest kid in class (which Hermione is, because the Harry Potter books were written by a grown up version of the kind of girl I'm talking about). But they often got treated as if they were.

I always found it funny when these well-patted teacher's pets would turn to someone like me, i.e. someone well behind them in the "official" class standings, for help when the school work was too difficult for them to understand.

Vox said...

I always found it funny when these well-patted teacher's pets would turn to someone like me, i.e. someone well behind them in the "official" class standings, for help when the school work was too difficult for them to understand.

And did you help them? Because if you did, the joke was on you.

therationalmale.com said...

She's right, she should just kill herself.

You know why? Because she has no genuine passion as an artist. If your passion doesn't consume you to the point that accolades and encouragement are meaningless, you're a hack, only looking for positive affirmation for your ego. True art is egoless. It's about a passion that makes awards and acknowledgement and payment irrelevant in comparison to doing what you love.

You think someone like Vincent Van Gogh gives a rat's ass about money beyond having enough to afford more art supplies? Living conditions, family, a love life, all of that is secondary to someone truly passionate about their art, this petulant little girl obviously isn't.

Jill said...

"Smart young girls are particularly prone to falling into the Achievements trap. They get such a buzz from being patted on the head and being told that they're special that it never occurs to them that they are big fish in very, very small ponds."

Ugh. I recognize this type of clever girl who has been patted on the head so many times that the early affirmations for nothing special at all have lowered her own expectations of herself and created in her a tendency for shallow thinking, if not stupidity. As somebody who was a stupid kid in the retard classes back in school, my tendency has been to be the meanest homeschool mom who ever lived. My children will neither be retarded like me, nor stupid and ridiculously shallow like this girl.

Brad Andrews said...

Her father has told her to do whatever she wants, yet she seems to blame him for expressing his thoughts on the matter. Sounds like a lot of teens today. Blame others instead of evaluating your own thoughts and motivations.

tz said...

If she is really talented, and not just credentialed or random awards, then she should try the free market and found her own business. If she merely wants to be "known" she can attempt (and maybe succeed) in an assassination, or do something else notorious. People remember the names of terrorists and such.

As to "celebrity bimbos", I don't care about them either, I don't care how many followers someone has. I've not yet found an oracle of wisdom on Twitter, though it might exist. Strange that she wishes to be respected by the gutter which is not itself respectable. Talent is often disjoint from popularity. There are scriptures, but Ayn Rand's "Fountainhead" is probably the best read on the subject.

fc6cedc2-d6a8-11e2-b860-000bcdcb471e said...

I find the follow up story more fascinating. That woman
1) Had another man raise her children
2) After 23 years that ultimate beta is going to see prostitutes regularly while denying her intimacy.
3) She wants desperately for him to come back to her.

Oak said...

I feel somewhat sorry for her, as few people can just inherently grasp "gods of the copybook"-type principles when they've been fed propaganda from infancy. She did exactly what she was told by those she trusted as authorities, and suddenly she finds that the world is not as she was taught. While the 17 year old melodrama is tiresome, as Vox said, I hope she learns the lesson now and profits from it.

Perhaps it's a fundamental difference in the genders.. past childhood I never expected encouragement from so-called authorities. On the contrary, I found their attempts to caution me into fearful conformity much more motivating than encouragement would have been.

paulmurray said...

17? An artist? What does a 17-yo have to say to the world, that the world needs to hear? If she's butthurt about lack of recognition, she should do what an artist does when he or she is butthurt about anything - make art about it.

Brad Andrews said...

fc6c,

Read what I think is her own story way at the bottom. Blech.

WendyRaf said...

The entitlement is strong in this one.

And therationalmale is right on regarding art and artists.

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