If you are a young man seeking to understand why women don't find you as sexually appealing as you would like to be, keep in mind that the image below presently represents the ultimate in sex appeal to young women:
It is not, I admit, what most young women will tell you is of particular appeal to them when asked. They'll usually say something about a sense of humor, about chivalrous behavior, and about being a gentleman. But actions speak louder than words. This is what makes them scream. This is what makes them wet. This is what women under the age of 25 dream of penetrating them; this is what they fantasize about.
And yet, you worry that being a jerk will turn them off? You fear that focusing on your mission and not giving a damn what anyone thinks will leave you loveless and alone? My young friend, the evidence suggests your concerns are not only misplaced, but wildly, even ludicrously, incorrect.