Sunday, January 27, 2013

Athol and his magic MAP

Athol came up with his MAP program to help men restore their attractiveness to their wives and save their marriages.  However, it comes with a built-in backup plan, which he is pleased to see is functioning precisely as conceived:
I think the combination of Christmas parties and New Year’s Eve parties is almost like a “resolve the relationship” trigger. If there’s another man in the picture, she’s going to try to get to him on those special events. There’s alcohol and opportunity… and all those Emotional Affairs turn into Physical ones.

I’ve had some super salvaging of relationships in December. The husbands that have won have won big, but not everyone has won.

In January, it seems the December failures have all the shit hit the fan. In those cases wives are all leaving my guys that have been running the MAP faithfully.

But… the husbands are all starting to crack up laughing.

Let me explain that.

I’m 5 for 5 with the following pattern of guys who have been running the MAP and have had wives leave them in January.

At some point in 2012 the husband figured out all was not well in the marriage and sought out MMSL. They all started running the MAP and self-improving. They all had varying degrees of positive response from the wives. They started digging into the problems and sorting them out. But for one reason or another, the wife wasn’t interested in staying, and when the ultimatums came down… actually more often than not the ultimatum was triggered by the wife rather than the husband… she left the marriage.

So let’s be clear here – ALL of the husbands were very much trying to save the marriage. I’m talking 5 for 5 husbands have endlessly emailed me or been on the forum, actively trying to save the marriage and fix things with their wife.  But despite best efforts, each one have been dumped and left.

But…

I am 5 for 5 for having those husbands get hit on by other women as soon as the wife is out of the picture. As in attractive other women. As in younger attractive women. As in… “Athol, I don’t understand why I was trying to save things with X anymore. I know I’m going to miss her, but being completely honest, I don’t think I want her back anymore.”
This isn't surprising.  Most married women significantly overestimate their sexual appeal to men because they fail to recognize that it stems, in part, from the fact that they hold a monopoly.  They don't realize their charms simply aren't what they once were when they actually had to compete with other women on the open market.

The advantage that the married woman has, in addition to her monopoly, is the Love Goggles, that flattering Photoshop filter that causes a man to see his wife as an amalgam of what she was, what she is, and her Platonic Form.  Of course, walking out on a man not only throws away a woman's sexual monopoly, it tends to put a crack or two in the goggles as well.

What Athol's inadvertent experiment indicates is that the theory of Game is empirically sound and is a powerful predictive model of human behavior.  It also shows that we, as men and women, often not only get what we deserve, we get what we demanded.

15 comments:

Pablo said...

I believe it's one of the lies feminism has most successfully propagated, namely that women are so much more valuable in a relationship than the man. I think a lot of men believe it too but reality bears a different witness when both return to the SMP.

taterearl said...

"I believe it's one of the lies feminism has most successfully propagated, namely that women are so much more valuable in a relationship than the man."

You can add Disney, rom coms, magazines, and other brainwashing to the list.

Truthfully women should thank their lucky stars a man wanted them. Because the truth is women need men, men want women...(but can do without if the hassle is too great).



Anonymous said...

Husbands value their wives above SMP. Other men perceive their real value, and significantly downgrade home wreckers.

mmaier2112 said...

Not to mention that women don't seem to realize that to the new man they are much more attractive as illicit snatch on the side than a full-time partner.

How many women get burnt by the "troubled husband" that won't leave the wife when push comes to shove?

Idiots. Bad enough the logic doesn't work, but you see this all the time in other couples.

Is it just solipsism that makes these dimwitted whores think they're going to be the exception?

Carlotta said...

I am glad that both you and Athol are as up front as you are about this. It got through to me, it has changed the way I see things and act and it has changed the way I raise my family.

It was very hard to take at first, it caused me a bit of sadness, but the love googles bit helps. My Husband telling me when we discussed this that he WANTS me. That helps not ever being 21 and beautiful again :)

Truly women have been deceived. It is very, very hard to get this through to them. They equate many men willing to stick it in them with being highly in demand as a wife to a highly in demand husband.

To see this playing out in real life, see the cringe worthy example of Adrian Maloof. Yikes.

DCM said...

MMSL commenter BC adds:

"Also, this is likely the source of the FEMINIST MYTH about men dumping their older wives for younger, hotter models. The men try to salvage things, the women blow it up, not understanding the true relative SMV, and then when they find out that the ex-husband is able to quickly upgrade while they are having a difficult time in the post-divorce market, they have to hamsterationalize their bad and selfish decision by making it all a plot on the part of the ex-husband that he was planning to do it all along, and that the husband dumped her, the poor, poor woman."

Stride Rite said...

Got divorce-raped two years ago by my Christian wife of 13 years. She of course was a martyr in the marriage, and I was the ogre who committed the sins of working hard and coming home every day.

Tried for six months to fix it, to no avail. Got my ass dragged to counseling. She stopped after three sessions, once the shrink started dealing with her shit.

Anyway. I applied Game like a stone-cold tactician. Now in a relationship with a hot, smart and, most important, feminine woman who I don't refer to as "Larry", like I did with my ex.

Love goggles is true. Once cracked, you can never go back. It's not just the crumbling face, but the countenance of misery that a man notices on his former lover.

A woman cannot willfully destroy her family without receiving the just penalty of dying eyes, deeper lines and a decaying soul.



SarahsDaughter said...

A woman cannot willfully destroy her family without receiving the just penalty of dying eyes, deeper lines and a decaying soul.

Should be plastered on billboards...

Pepper said...

Game has an amazing ability to sharpen not only men, but women as well.

Doom said...

I think if they had wanted to salvage their marriage they would have had the other woman before the dissolution occurred. I can't remember a woman who thought about leaving who didn't get her ass in gear about keeping me when she found out I was dating a younger, prettier, more 'with it' 'lil' sister' type. Rigged or not, it didn't matter. And, yeah, I have cheated by making something appear that wasn't there. I don't fight fair, nor should anyone. That's a fools errand.

Jack Amok said...

"Also, this is likely the source of the FEMINIST MYTH about men dumping their older wives for younger, hotter models. The men try to salvage things, the women blow it up, not understanding the true relative SMV, and then when they find out that the ex-husband is able to quickly upgrade

One of the other things Athol talks about is how destabilizing a SMV mismatch can be. If a woman suddenly realizes her SMV is two points lower than her husbands, she get's really nervous, and that can drive her into batshit crazy actions.

Well...

A woman's SMV peaks early, a man's late. So suppose a 27 year old guy marries a 25 year old woman. Both are - at that moment, SMV 7s. Seven years and a couple of kids later, he's gone up another notch as his career blossoms, but she's dropped a notch or two.

Now we have an SMV 8 husband and an SMV 5 or 6 wife, and the wife suddenly develops an unconscious panic about losing her man. This becomes a self-fullfilling prophecy when she lets the anxiety turn her into a crazy bitch. The marraige flounders, he goes out and, being now a 9, finds a new wife who is not only hotter than the ex-wife is now, but hotter than she was when they first got married.

All this because society let the 25 year old girl over-rate herself, comparing her peak against his in-development value.

Instead of pairing up with a 27 year old 7, she should have been looking for a 6 with promise so that they would have some equality in their marriage, their SMVs crossing after a few years of marriange instead of immediately diverging.

whoism3 said...

Related:
http://whoism3.wordpress.com/2013/01/23/so-im-at-the-coffee-shop-line-up-on-a-cold-morning-when/

Desert Cat said...

"And, yeah, I have cheated by making something appear that wasn't there."

Which in my case is nothing more than teasing about "all my girlfriends". She plays along just fine. :D

Desert Cat said...

Thanks for the link whoism3. Good stuff, lol!

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