Feminism taught me a lot throughout the 80′s and 90′s. It taught me not to question women’s sexual choices. It taught me to treat them with deference and respect. It taught me not to accost them for sex aggressively, but to treat them as human beings. It taught me that i MUST control my shallow, greedy, dangerous impulses but allow a woman the right to indulge in hers. It taught me to be nice for the sake of being nice and not expecting sex in return. To give all my emotional and platonic ability and not dare ask for intimacy in return."It is better to marry than burn" writes the Apostle Paul. There are men given the gift of celibacy. But even the Bible points out this is a gift, and one that is not given to most men. Women cannot tell men what they find attractive because they do not know themselves. They only know what is considered socially acceptable to find attractive. That is why men should not listen to them concerning these matters. It is important to understand this. The consequences of not doing so can be brutal.
It taught me everything i needed to be creepy, unattractive and doormat ready.
And it was re-enforced by EVERY woman i talked to.
What i SHOULD have been told is “hit the gym, build some muscle, guys with muscles are hawt” – “get braces now, you’ll smile a lot and we love guys with big smiles” – “go see a dermatologist, we love sexy skin on a man” – “cut off your long hair, you don’t look like a rocker, you look like a hippy. crew cuts are sexy, you’d look good in one” – “learn a skill and become good in it. become confident in it. we love confidence”
What i got instead was a constant drumming of “you’re such a good guy, just wait, someone else is out there for you” – “you don’t have to change a thing, you’re a wonderful person, just keep being yourself” – “you don’t need muscles, only jerks care about having big muscles” – “there’s nothing wrong with you, you just need to be a bit more confident that’s all” – “confidence comes from the inside, not from the outside“
Patent fucking lies all of them.
Don't take my word for it. Find a woman who is attracted to a man you know. Make a list of his most attractive qualities. Ask her what she finds attractive about that man, then compare her list with yours. In many cases, what she says she finds attractive will not be what is actually attractive about him.