Friday, January 6, 2012

A pertinent question

A commenter at Susan's asks what is a very useful question, given that women have a much harder time detecting players than their fellow men do:
What are some strategies for women to weed out men who have had many partners? How can you tell?
First, ask him. If he’s smoothly evasive and doesn’t actually mention any quantity while changing the subject or flipping the frame onto you, he’s almost surely a player of some degree. If he’s not that experienced, he’ll generally be awkward and overly explanatory, going into strange details about this and that girlfriend, trying to determine what counts and what doesn't. In general, if you’re left feeling halfway embarrassed for the guy, you’re safe. If you find yourself realizing half an hour later that you never got an actual answer, you’re screwed. So to speak.

Perhaps the best example of this sort of non-answer was when Charles and Diana were asked if they were in love. She said: “Of course!” He said: “What is love?” and smoothly deflected the interviewer. If you get a “what is love” sort of philosophical answer, you’re probably in over your head. If you’re really unlucky, you’ll run into a Dark Gamer who will pull a Yohami on you. “Love love love, let’s bring this dream home.” Nothing you can do about that.

Second, ask your male friends, particularly those you are confident are not interested in you. Men's radar for these things is vastly superior to women's; we tend to see right through the sorcerous BS that so enthralls women.

42 comments:

modernguy said...

Its easy, for the most part, if he's attractive, he's no good. So whatever your feelings are telling you, do the opposite. It's not the man you have to learn to distrust, it's yourself. That is, if you're interested in long term benefit. If not, by all means give in to your feelings. With men, with money, with food. The principle is the same.

Anonymous said...

Considering everything expounded on game up to now, I see the following being how things will work out.

If the girl is left halfway embarrassed by the guy's answer then the guy will lose the girl because his answer just killed the tingle. This is regardless of who the girl is. He's toast. She may trust him to help move her furniture but not to get her freak on.

There is one exception this scenario, she may have a bad case of baby rabies and she may marry the poor guy but he ain't gonna be getting any regular sex after that. So thanks a lot Vox. You just damned some poor beta schlub to a sexless marriage. I say this only half tongue in cheek.



Back in my days of maximum beta I would have answered the question in the most straightforward manner possible after asking a question of my own. "Are you sure you want to know?" Assuming she said yes, I'd then flap my gums for several minutes too long.

Following my gum flapping there would be an awkward silence because I would pointedly fail to ask the obvious follow up question of my own; "How many men have you had intercourse with?, because I didn't want to know.

Nowadays, I'd tell her, "None of your damn business unless you were my wife and even then you would be better off not knowing." So where does that answer fit on the alpha-beta continuum?

Athor Pel

Vox said...

Back in my days of maximum beta I would have answered the question in the most straightforward manner possible after asking a question of my own. "Are you sure you want to know?" Assuming she said yes, I'd then flap my gums for several minutes too long.

Classic.

"None of your damn business unless you were my wife and even then you would be better off not knowing." So where does that answer fit on the alpha-beta continuum?

High BETA. You're still justifying yourself to her. The only possible ALPHA answers are to a) laugh at her, or b) tell her the truth as near as you can recall it.

And (b) should be followed up with a reassuring "don't worry, I've had my shots".

Contra the spinning hamster declarations, no woman has ever refused to have sex with a man because his bodycount was too high. Now, she may have used it as an excuse, but in that case, she wasn't going to have sex with him anyhow.

Women put men in the yes/maybe/no box almost instantly. And if a man is in the instant yes box, there is virtually nothing he can do to move out of it. I don't care if he's gay, married, diseased, and socially radioactive, you can always trust an attracted woman to find a way to rationalize the sex. It's what they do best.

Anonymous said...

Before we were married, the Mrs. flipped when I told her my number and told me I lied to her. I'm pretty sure I told her the correct number before. Maybe her hamster went to work on it.

If I am ever single again, I don't think I would give the number out. I'd just tell her that you know I'm not a virgin, and that is all you need to know.

Now that would put me into the "player" category, which I am not, and from the comments at Susan's some women would eliminate me based on that answer.

I still think the non-answer is the way to go, but it seems like a can't win situation. Or a reason to keep the number at zero for people you are not married to.

Vox said...

from the comments at Susan's some women would eliminate me based on that answer.

No, they wouldn't. They say they would, which is something else entirely. The assertion is no more credible than the notion that a woman will provide you with an accurate bodycount when asked, unless she has a very low one and is not afraid of being judged on it.

I repeat: no woman has ever refused to have sex with a man because his bodycount was too high.

Roissy has described the real reason that some lower status women turn down higher status men: they think they are being mocked. That's precisely why he advises ALPHAS to put on a BETA face when slumming.

Anonymous said...

The proper answer is:
Mischievous grin. Pause.
"Counting you?"

Ghost said...

If you feel your number is too high, exaggerate it.
"how many women have you been with?"
"6,376."
"are you serious??"
"no, no, I've only been with 54."
"oh, thank God! I was gonna say..."

See? Doesn't look so bad, now does it?

Yohami said...

When I get asked I say its in the millions.

indyguy77@work said...

The proper answer is:
Mischievous grin. Pause.
"Counting you?"

That's being asked BEFORE the first time with the questioner, right?

Markku said...

If you don't want to answer, say that you're a renewed virgin. If she doesn't buy it, she offends your religious sensibilities.

Houston said...

"See that line of grass huts that are all pushed out of shape?"

Duke of Earl said...

Prince Charles a player? Or is he just very well educated and a born diplomat?

Trust said...

Both men and women consider facts in decision making. But they do so differently.

Men will weigh facts and then make a decision accordingly. Women will make a decision and then weigh their facts accordingly.

JCclimber said...

Hmm. My wife already knew it about me, and insisted on me getting tested. Although I'd been careful, I was curious myself, so I also wanted to make sure no one had given a permanent gift. I got her phone number in the middle of a date with her friend.

That was an interesting night. A Brazilian doctor versus a Japanese nurse. The psycho doctor ultimately lost, but that's almost the hardest a$$hole game I ever ran on someone, and it only made her cling even tighter.

JCclimber said...

When I was asked that question, I would use some variation on "That's pretty complicated to answer". I have to say that answer only works for a little while. I found that it only fed the hamster.

As Vox says, a man with experience is unlikely to answer directly. When my wife (fiance at that time) finally insisted, I went to the old standby of "define partner, please. Does that mean full penetration, with mutual orgasm, just fooling around, heavy petting, penetration without orgasm, just oral, or what? Does it count if we weren't in love, or in a relationship? Because if you insist on all of the above, this could take awhile for me to figure out. But you know, I'd really rather not think about them too much, I'd rather think about you!"

That last sentence I guess was a little "dark", implying that my relationship with her was something unique, and everything before her was just practice for the real thing.

When she finally arrived a some definition, I basically implied that it was in the 10+ range, but without giving a specific number. That way, she can satisfy the hamster that it was only 10, maybe 11 including herself, but always have that bit of doubt that it might be 30, 40, or more.

JCclimber said...

By the way, is Yomani really a dark gamer, or does he just write about how a dark gamer would approach some situations?

Anonymous said...

"Now that would put me into the "player" category, which I am not, and from the comments at Susan's some women would eliminate me based on that answer."

If you really believe what the HUS girls say about what kind of men they want... well, I've got a nice, shiny new quarter that you can have for a dollar.

Duke of Earl said...

Ooh, a quarter, let me have it...

Mmm shiny.

:-)

Boogeyman said...

Anyone got two tens for a five? I had an older cousin that consistently made a few bucks a week that way. The world is filled with mah'rons

R. Bradley Andrews said...

No wonder we can't build lasting marriages, too much lying at the start makes for a lousy foundation.

CL said...

1. Prince Charles probably thought that was a stupid and undignified question; he was basically telling the reporter to get bent.

2. Commenters at HUS aren't generally the most self-aware bunch. What they *say* they would do isn't to be taken too seriously.

3. @ R. Bradley Andrews, exactly. If you're going to have to lie about it later, don't do it.

4. Boogeyman, I'm going to have to try that, lol.

Markku said...

Prince Charles probably thought that was a stupid and undignified question; he was basically telling the reporter to get bent.

Unlikely. The only way it would be a stupid question is because it is assumed to be obvious that the husband is in love with his wife. And "what is love?" takes the exact opposite route - it implies that there are definitions of "in love" that are not true of their relationship.

Anonymous said...

Woman (all tingly because the guy she's on a date with put her hamster in overdrive but she wants to make sure he isn't a player and is going to use her for a pump and dump): How many women have you slept with?

Man (who has a player attitude but has a low body count due to religious convictions and is actually looking for a real relationship): Just two.

Woman (realizing the guy she is with is actually a scrub despite outward appearances whereby she, no longer receiving validation from being chosen by a guy who gets any girl he wants, loses interest): Oh.

Anonymous said...

@R. Bradley Andrews said...
No wonder we can't build lasting marriages, too much lying at the start makes for a lousy foundation.
_________________

Absolutely. The current legal climate has directly resulted in women being more likely to lie their way into a relationship than a man does, simply because it is in her best interest to do so, often to the tune of hundreds of thousands of dollars.

I'm not saying men never lie to get into a marriage, obviously some do, but it is not as common sense a woman can punish him severely for doing so. In the reverse, men have absolutely no recourse.

Desert Cat said...

"Contra the spinning hamster declarations, no woman has ever refused to have sex with a man because his bodycount was too high."

OTOH, being a virgin can dry up the juice in 2 seconds flat. I had sex with my second partner only after I corrected her mistaken notion that I was inexperienced.

Better not to say if the number is low also...

Trust said...
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Trust said...

@Desert Cat said... Better not to say if the number is low also...
__________

Probably best not to say a number at all. If they are into you, the decisions as to whether they will accept your history has largely been made and all that is left is weighing any "facts" in such a manner as to rationalize their decision... the explanation their hamster will spit out will probably be better than anything a man could confess or make up.

On the other hand, if you seem to be someone they rationally should be into but aren't, the decision to reject you has been made... any answer you give will be ground up and spit out by the hamster to rationalize the decision.

That's why in chick flicks, which is emotional porn for women, women commonly have a choice between a nice dependable beta they aren't attracted to and an aloof detached alpha bastard they are attracted to. There is always a moment when the constantly kind beta does something to reveal his true poor character, and a moment where the constantly cruel alpha reveals his true wonderful character... the decision was made, all that was needed was the justification.

Remember, in the case of female attraction, it is the decision that leads to the facts, not the facts that lead to the decision.

And no, I'm not a bitter gamma. I'm a happily married father of two gorgeous twin daughters. It's nearly impossible to for a man to have a happy marriage with an American woman if he is oblivious to the side of women's nature that is not all "sugar and spice."

Anonymous said...

Probably best not to say a number at all.

I think this applies to many different situations.

Back in my underage days, a friend I used to occasionally make the rounds with had the best answer to the question, "So just how old are you?"

"Old enough," said in an amused voice with a slight smirk. Charming bastard consistently got laid more than anyone I knew, and he was only 5'9" to my 6'3".

Anonymous said...

ask your male friends, particularly those you are confident are not interested in you.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_lh5fR4DMA

*cough*

Anonymous said...

If you find him to be attractive there's a good chance he's everything that would be horrible for you.

Vox said...

Probably best not to say a number at all. If they are into you, the decisions as to whether they will accept your history has largely been made and all that is left is weighing any "facts" in such a manner as to rationalize their decision... the explanation their hamster will spit out will probably be better than anything a man could confess or make up.

Bingo. Don't fall for the disqualification attempts. Remember, women perceive answering their questions as being subordinate. Flip the frame.

Trust said...

@Vox said... Bingo. Don't fall for the disqualification attempts. Remember, women perceive answering their questions as being subordinate. Flip the frame.
__________

Back in my single days when I got around quite a bit, my answer to questions about my history was typically something like "what happens in vegas..." Worked well... was a refusal to answer the question, a subtle seed planted that any rendezvous would be kept secret, and a blank page allowing them to write the story themselves. Worked quite well.

Another effective response when women would bring up foreplay instead of sex as a gauge would be "it is better to give than to receive."

Women prefer fantasy to reality, and objective facts and being to specific get in the way of that.

The LP 999/Linda said...

I don't know. I still revert back to not asking or not really wanting to know unless the r-ship will become serious.

There is a level of over-inquisitiveness in asking men too many questions.

Always excellent reading at AG

Robertson said...

I've never been asked and I wouldn't ask.

I mean, really, why ask that?

Anonymous said...

SON OF A *&()&! That explains it.

I was a virgin when I met my Husband. He initially tried to say a "few" but after I demanded details he said "NO!" I got mad and cried. So he said "ok, first the girl who corrupted me..." then I told him to stop and started crying more.

I have asked him a few more times and he either sneers at me and smacks my butt or laughs and changes the subject.

This terrifying!

I don't know if I can read here anymore. When I brought some of the subject matter up to him he said "don't waste your time".



Carlotta

Vox said...

SON OF A *&()&! That explains it.

It correctly explained something to you, so you don't know if you can read here anymore?

That is certainly a perspective with which I am unfamiliar.

Anonymous said...

I didn't get the "how many" question when I was single. Well, not until after going on several dates with a girl and sleeping with her.

I asked my wife why she never asked me the question until after we had slept together several times and she replied that she always just assumed that it was more than what she wanted to know. The fact that she assumed that I had been with too many women didn't stop her from sleeping with me, although she swears that guys with too many partners and "gross" and she doesn't understand these women who want to get with "skanky men."

I love my wife but I never forget that her hampster is in peak physical condition.

Anonymous said...

This is part of what I don't get about Game. It is founded on assumptions that are not necessarily so for everyone.

Depending on how a woman was raised and trained, she may be looking for a man who has saved himself for her. Assuming she has half an ounce of self control and discipline (which are never in born to either man or woman but always trained in from experience), she _should_ be able to handle the question correctly.

That said, I think there is a lot to be said for keeping young women out of one-on-one social situations with young men exactly because of failures in self control and discipline on both parties' parts.

Anonymous said...

There is definitely an argument to be made to keep young women out of certain environments and situations precisely because women don't have self control - when they are in the presence of an Alpha male. Women's 'self-control' is largely an illusion. Not giving in to 'urges' is easy when surrounded by Betas.

It's a bit like not giving in to my non-existent urge to eat a lot of broccoli.

Basically, it's not enough to raise daughters right. There has to be restrictions. Quite simply, the old rules were there for womens protection. By dismantling them, women have thrown themselves to the Wolves.

Hurray for Feminism!

Apollyon

Anonymous said...

"SON OF A *&()&! That explains it.

It correctly explained something to you, so you don't know if you can read here anymore?

That is certainly a perspective with which I am unfamiliar."

I spent a good 5 years of my teens turning down every single sexual advance because I was saving myself for marriage. In my mind, so was my future Husband.

To find out that wasn't the case (of course he wasn't even a Christian) was painful. I guess guys don't have that big a deal with it. Though it seems like they prefer virgins for the most part.

So reading here is eye opening and I need it. I just have a hard time being rational in this one particular area because it is painful.

SURPRISE, I can't be rational on something LOL!

Carlotta

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