Friday, October 28, 2011

The warier sex

Women are not necessarily the helpless creatures swept up in waves of emotion that the average chick flick would have you believe:
Previous research indicated that women are more expressive about how they feel - and tend to be ones who fall in love first. The reality, according to the latest findings by psychologist Marissa Harrison, from Pennsylvania State University in the US, is that women are actually more circumspect than men when it comes to romance.
I think the average man who is not Game-savvy would likely be astounded at how cold and calculating women can be when it comes to their romantic lives. In my own limited observations, it is mostly men who have fallen head over heels on the basis of a single meeting or even a glance; a woman might well decide to have a one-night stand or a short affair with an attractive musician, artist, or waiter, but she usually knows from the start that she has absolutely no intention of falling in love with him.

The fact that women's intentions are sometimes betrayed by their biology doesn't change the fact of what those intentions originally were or the fact that a calculation concerning the man's attractivity and prospects was not performed.

This tends to support Roissy's Maxim #13: When the love is gone, women can be as cold as if they had never known you.

13 comments:

ZT said...

Yeah but do they really think about it or does it just come as instinct. Most women don't even seem to realize they do it. It's not conscious it's habitual. This is why they are often so taken aback by someone breaking their thought bubble.

JCclimber said...

"You're as cold as ice. You're willing to sacrifice our love...You know that your are....cold...as....ice....as cold as ice to me!"

I guess Foreigner knew about this when they wrote that song. If only the gammas could learn something from all this.

King A said...

One of Roissy's chief contributions to the sexual counterrevolution is his observation that the woman is the expensive gamete, and the man is the cheap gamete. By an order of some trillions to one.

Conventions that once addressed that natural imbalance (the permanent elevation of man's social worth) have been eviscerated, and so the law of genetic supply and demand has begun reasserting itself in the psychologies attached to the gonads. The monthly egg has no time or natural inclination to attach itself any single one of a daily hundred million sperm from dozens of suitors. Result: coldly aloof women to anybody but the worthiest of ovum-plunderers.

Women are the grizzly bear and men are the hive of bees. Sometimes the big beast is overwhelmed the swarm, but more often she gets the honey she wants.

Now add chemical contraception to this imbalanced exchange and anything goes. It is a mess that even our most scrutinizing cultural observers can't get to the bottom of, much less some drunk college freshperson in heat.

Trust said...

One of women's greatest (and cruelest) assets is their image of compassion and kindness.

Most young men, which, ironically, include men in the age group they may likely marry, would be shocked to learn how a woman may really feel. Many women can meet a man, date him, be kind, act admiringly, say she loves him, have sex with him several times a week, swallow frequently, profess her undying love for him forever in front of 500+ family and friends (and God), bear his children, spend his money, work him to death, and never really be all that attracted to him or even like him that much. And once the state guarantees they money will keep coming, she can then cease to act the least bit concerned.

Before anyone calls me bitter, I'm 37, got married in my 30s, still married, never divorced, beautiful children, successful, and quite a nice past with women (with one exception of getting burned after 5 years when I was 22 which mercifully exorcised the white knighting gamma right out of me, Amen). I have nothing to be bitter about, just an observation for my fellow men before they make a mistaken (and for any women that actually care about the happiness of the man they publicly profess to love forever).

Anonymous said...

I think the reality is that women follow. They are cold and calculating until a man actually loves them and pursues them.

Then they either accept or reject his leadership. They recoil in horror or they fall in love.

DaveD said...

Amen Trust.

That may be the most shocking thing I have seen since I started learning Game: the sheer number of women who are dating a guy they don't really like just because to the female psyche its better than being single. This is why it doesn't matter if they mention they have a BF or not.

I used to have a real hangup on not pursuing a girl with a BF. I missed out on a fun, cute blond 15 years younger than myself because of it. Then I started actually LISTENING when women would talk to me and realized the truth. Now I don't have that compunction as much.

Shedding Gamma is hard.

DD

Trust said...

@DaveD said... Shedding Gamma is hard.
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I think part of the reason it is hard to shed gamma is because it makes sense, i.e., it is logical.

Men make many irrational decisions, but there is often a logical basis for it, however foolish. Most obviously, a man will tolerate far to much crap from a woman while never dating a nicer friend who adores him, but the logical reason is the witch is a 10 and the good girl is wider than she is tall. If one values looks, the 10 makes sense even if the crap isn't worth it.

Women's rating system is a big more complex. I've know several women who cheated on their kind, responsible, fit, well groomed, good looking, husbands with a ugly, unemployed, unshowered thug. Even women can't explain it well, normally choosing to make their husband the villain in order to protect their image.

Therein lies why women are so hostile towards Game. It holds a mirror to them and they do not like the reflection they see.

Trust said...

@ Trust said...
I think part of the reason it is hard to shed gamma is because it makes sense, i.e., it is logical.
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Ugh, that didn't sound right here, because I don't think gamma's are rational observers.

What I mean by "it is logical" is that gammas think if they treat someone well that they will be treated well in return, which would make sense... if they male/female dynamic were one-dimensional. It is not.

The gamma irrationality is in thinking simply treating a woman well is all it takes to motivate her to reciprocate when all observation indicates otherwise.

mmaier2112 said...

"Even women can't explain it well, normally choosing to make their husband the villain in order to protect their image."

Hell, it works on juries after the woman shoots her man with a shotgun. Why wouldn't it work in so many other situations?

"The gamma irrationality is in thinking simply treating a woman well is all it takes to motivate her to reciprocate when all observation indicates otherwise."

I think my favorite part of this is how vehemently women deny their darker nature (i.e. attraction to alpha behavior). It sure seems as though they do not even want to admit to themselves what makes them wet.

Trust said...

@IndyGuy77 said... I think my favorite part of this is how vehemently women deny their darker nature (i.e. attraction to alpha behavior). It sure seems as though they do not even want to admit to themselves what makes them wet.
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They don't. This is why Twilight is so popular. Every female fan gets wet over this powerful, evil, dark monster who admits he has killed people. But every single one of them says it is his old-fashioned chivalry (and his glitter) that does it for them, as if any rational observer of women could ever conclude that our great-grandfathers are what really gets them wet.

It's worth repeating: women get hostile at game, not because it is false, but because it holds a mirror to them and they don't like what they see.

mmaier2112 said...

I'm not disagreeing, I just find it amusing.

After all, not too many (normal) guys deny what turns them on.

For me, Kate Upton in a schoolgirl outfit holding a sixpack of Sam Adams and a Puccini's Bar20 pizza sounds just about perfect.

Trust said...

@IndyGuy77 said... For me, Kate Upton in a schoolgirl outfit holding a sixpack of Sam Adams and a Puccini's Bar20 pizza sounds just about perfect.
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Toss in a notarized letter from my wife telling me to have a good time, and I'm sold.

Mudz said...

This is actually true. Women are often just not as fluffy about this sort of thing as we want to think. I've been witness to unguarded women circle conversations. It's actually scary. o.O

Whereas the world and romance are considered sort of genial-to-intense games for men, for women it seems to be more analogous to politics and war.

I could be wrong, but that's my strong impression. Maybe that's why they make good/natural monarchs? (Though possibly I'm betraying an ignorance of history, here.)

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