The Necessity of a Systematic Approach

Up to this point my approach to learning game has been haphazard. I had no plan, nothing that resembled a strategy. I would read about a technique and give it a shot at my first opportunity. This meant that I learned, and achieved some success, but other than a rough description of the techniques I used, I could not say exactly what I did to achieve that success. I am like a beginning musician who knows that certain chords sound good played together but would be hard-pressed to use them to create a new song.

As a rank beginner my game is barely out of junior high. Most people begin their education in game in high school. As a deeply introverted person I did not take that opportunity when it was present. While everyone else was making the effort to attract members of the opposite sex, I was hiding in the library, doing my best impression of a chameleon. As a result I never entered the sexual arms race. Everyone around me got a education in game by simply making the effort, while I did and learned nothing. At this point I have a lot of catching up to do. I do have an advantage in that I have everything spelled out for me, and the wits to know to use it, but without a systematic approach, I will not learn more or any faster than a teenager guessing his way through high-school.

Realizing the need for a plan is the result of reading Athol Kay's great book: The Married Man Sex Life Primer 2011, specifically his description of the MAP. If a married man should be willing to put that level of effort into change to keep his woman, I should be willing to put the same level of effort into getting one. As an aside, I cannot speak highly enough of Athol's book. I have heard a great deal of marital advice, and I have read a number of books on the subject. I feel confident in saying that Kay's book is among the best. Due to his book I will be doing a great deal more to apply game starting yesterday.

So, since I get a great deal of motivation from accountability, here are the first points from my personal MAP:

1. Diet/Exercise: Yesterday I began a weight lifting program designed to quickly increase muscle size through high protein intake and high intensity work outs. Since I have never done any significant amount of lifting this is more of an experiment, but I expect good things.

2. Consistent Approaches: Starting this week I will go out three times a week and approach at least four girls each time.

As I add goals and make progress I will post about any insights or achievements. I hope to get to the point that a date is no long considered a great success. Regardless of what happens I expect it will be interesting.