Last week the girl I have been pursuing decided to no longer see me. I found this out through a friend of mine that she confides in. Because she comes from the same religion as I, she tries to have high standards and was feeling guilty about our date (making-out is frowned upon). She contacted my friend, who gave her advice that, while it did not directly involve me, resulted in her decision to stop seeing me.
A day after their discussion he contacted me to tell me to stay away from his friends, particularly young and impressionable girls who are trying to live a life with standards. Out of respect my friend I contacted the girl to indicate that we should talk and perhaps break things off. At this point I did not know that she had already decided to end it. Other than a text indicating that she would no longer see me, I have not heard from her. While I am unhappy that the relationship is over, almost before it had even begun, what bothers me the most is that I was not given the chance to save the relationship in a way that would have also preserved my friend's need for standards with girls he considers his friends. It appears that I do not have the respect from my friend that I thought I did, something I would have liked to remedy had I been given the chance.
I suppose it was my own fault for pursuing a girl who I knew might feel guilty about the whole thing. I can also see how my friend may have felt that I had not conducted myself appropriately, considering he told her I was a good guy before all this happened (something I did not know about). Regardless I feel blindsided by the whole thing, and somewhat hurt. I do not know yet what will happen to our friendship but this whole mess reveals a significant difference in how we see each other.
One thing is for sure I am not going to act like a desperate omega and pursue this girl further. I am seriously pissed about the whole thing but if I can do it once I can do it again, and there are always more girls on the girl tree.
EDIT: I did tell him about the date before he had his discussion with the girl, so he knew what was making her feel guilty.