Alpha Mail: the female process

Sarahsdaughter lays down some vital observations concerning female communication and behavior that every man needs to comprehend:

Because I have to thoroughly think through these things, I've come to understand that my first response is often times 1)emotional and irrational 2)based in fear (not truth) 3)not the same response I might have later after processing information 4)should not be verbalized until said processing of information is done.

We, as women understand and find no issue with the fact that we need to go through these processes in order to figure out what is true - even when it comes to our feelings. We want to talk it through. And then, we have a tendency to arrive at new conclusions without going back and apologizing for emotional outbursts that were based on wrong conclusions.

This is one thing game teaches men (and women) that haven't been privy to understanding women's nature prior. Ignore what women say, and observe what they do. They are not logical nor rational in their first responses to stimuli or information. And they are not prone to taking responsibility for wrong behavior.

This gets at the heart of the greater part of what is considered "sexism" today.  And yet, who is the more truly sexist, those who simply acknowledge the readily observable or those who deny it, and in denying it, remove from women the responsibility for being accountable for their words and actions.  Feminism isn't about sexual equality.  It isn't even about female superiority, per se.  It is, rather, primarily concerned with according women formal adult status and privileges without adult responsibilities.

An easy ALPHA/BETA test

Athol's advice also lends itself to a simple and basic relationship metric:

OMG it’s been a full three minutes. Where’s wifey? Something terrible must have happened to her. She’s not in the kitchen. She’s not in the bedroom. Shit. Wifey…. She’s not in the bathroom either… oh! Oh! There’s wifey! She’s in the laundry. Hi wifey. Watcha doin’? Hi. What’s all this stuff? Can I help? Hi. Kiss me. Kiss me. Kiss me. Oh wifey your kisses are magical! Anyway, there’s something in my pants I need you to attend to.

So stop it. Stop chasing your wife through the house like a toddler. She’ll be right back. Just because you can’t see her, doesn’t mean she doesn’t exist.

STOP IT. JUST DON’T DO IT.

If she complains that you're smothering her: BETA

If she complains that you ignore her and spend all your time [fill in the blank]: ALPHA

It's not entirely true, of course, but it's a potentially useful rule of thumb. And while both are potentially problems, the fact that they require such different solutions should indicate the importance of correctly marking where you stand.

An outrage in Britain

How can this outrage be allowed to stand when everyone knows women simply do not lie about rape?

A compulsive liar has been jailed for 16 months after falsely claiming she had been raped 11 times in nine years.  Elizabeth Jones, 22, made her first fabricated allegation to police in 2004 when she was aged just 13, Southampton Crown Court was told.  Police said that the young woman had accused at least one individual just because she did not like them anymore, putting innocent men through a 'terrible emotional experience'.

Jones' latest victim was arrested and quizzed for nine hours before being released without charge because CCTV footage disproved her claims she was forcibly taken to a property and raped. They had an argument and she was angry with him, so decided to make her eleventh fabricated allegation of rape, police said.

The frustrating thing is that the police are further victimizing an innocent woman when she has already been raped 11 times, and when it is a well-known fact that eleventy-six million women are raped every minute around the world.  Why don't the police do something about stopping all those rapes instead of arrest-raping this poor woman?

The curse of the eternal BETA

I find it tremendously amusing that some men find the success of pickup artistry to be more than a little disturbing.  Now, I understand the female lack of enthusiasm about the reality; one of the funnier moments of the show Castle is the pickup artist episode in which Beckett is led to declare: "I weep for my sex" upon learning that three mediocre guys are successfully using formalized Game practices to cut a wide swath through the flower of New York City's strong independent career women.  It's understandably embarrassing for women to learn how many of their educated and high-status sisters will fall for such transparently superficial and insincere tactics.

But what explains the depression of the BETA male?  It is the shattering of his worldview, and the forced realization that all of his self-perceived superiority isn't of any value at all to anyone but himself.  Nevertheless, the world is what it is, not what we wish it to be.

Missing the obvious conclusion

I think the author of this article has failed to note the more significant aspect of the experiment here:

Okc_ebooks creator Sam Kriss made a fake female profile on the dating site OkCupid, through which he responds to unsolicited messages from men with quotes from @horse_ebooks, the surreal Twitter bot that streams nonsensical snippets of text. The result: dozens of conversations from horny men desperately vying to have sex with a robot.

There is no question that it is pathetic what the average man will put up with in his pursuit of sexual gratification.  But surely it is more significant, and more troubling, to discover that dozens of men cannot tell the difference between genuine female communication online and a surreal Twitter bot streaming "nonsensical snippets of text".

UPDATE: Stickwick said Devil Bunnies....

Feminists vs Communists

It should be interesting to see how feminism fares when faced with a considerably more self-confident ideology than traditional Western civilization:

China has upset its young female population by labelling those who fail to marry by the time they are 30 as ‘left over woman’.  The Communist government ordered its feminist All-China Women’s Federation to use the derogatory term in several stinging articles about the growing number of educated, professional, urban and single females aged 27-30 who have ‘failed’ to find a husband and are now  deemed ‘undesirable’.

‘Pretty girls do not need a lot of education to marry into a rich and powerful family. But girls with an average or ugly appearance will find it difficult,’ reads one article titled ‘Leftover Women Do Not Deserve Our Sympathy’.

The derogatory name has been picked up by the state media and stuck, causing an outcry among millions of ambitious young and educated females who claim they have been thrown on the scrap heap - and who bemoan the low quality of suitors.

The conservative country is going under rapid changes with more women shunning tradition to wed and raise a family early.  But the government wants to shame them into marrying young to counter the growing and serious gender imbalance among the of 1.3 billion population.

My money is on the Communists.  The feminist shriek-and-shame tactic is unlikely to work on a leadership that is cold-hearted enough to send the bill for the executioner's bullet to the surviving family.  I tend to suspect that if the Chinese birth rate falls low enough, the leftover women will find themselves receiving letters informing them that if they don't marry of their own accord within three months, they will be marrying Wei Lottery Winner whether they want to or not.

A heartwarming tale

Dalrock's gentlemanly heart bleeds for one poor victim of insufficient "chivalry":

Somewhere in the world a woman is upset!  What are you as lazy men doing to fix this?

Sorry for being so harsh, but you men need to hear this.  I know I do.  For example, just the other day I was reading about a woman in London who was victimized by modern men’s useless laziness.  The article was titled Is there a man left under 40 who isn’t a rude, ignorant pig?  I don’t know about you but the title alone really hit home.  Now that I think about it, I really am a rude ignorant pig!  Why didn’t I even notice?  The author of the article is an incredible woman.  She is as sassy, strong, and independent as they come;  yet even she finds that men are letting her down.

Some time back she was doing her own strong and independent thing (I’m guessing on her way to a power meeting or preparing to write another article decrying traditional gender roles in marriage), when out of the blue her car thingy stopped working;  I think she said it was the doohickey or something.  Anyway, here she is, a strong independent woman, but this car thingy has made her upset!

    They could see my distress when I began ­peering under the bonnet.

Some of you men (I hate to use the term so loosely) need a remedial lesson in chivalry, so for those who need it spelled out a woman becoming upset is the universal signal that you need to swing into action right away.  Don’t feel too bad if you didn’t know this, because there were men right there on the scene who either didn’t know or shirked their obligation:

    Next to me was a building site full of men in fluoro ­jackets standing doing ­nothing.

I shouldn’t have to reiterate that she was upset while these men in flouro jackets were doing nothing.  This baffling inaction by London’s men left our heroine to take extreme measures, as she was reduced to calling for professional assistance:

    I got back in the car, and on my mobile phone to call the BMW breakdown ­service to get the vehicle recovered. I was in tears. Still no one ­bothered to help.

Thats right, she was in tears, yet those shameful men left her to the fate of calling BMW for service!

I have to admit, I am encouraged by the behavior of the modern Englishman with regards to the more equal sex.  Once, there was a day when men would have descended en masse and all but battled for the right to be of assistance to the strong, independent woman in distress.  These days, the younger generation doesn't even blink when it sees a woman in tears and acting up in a desperate attempt to get someone to solve her problem for her.  It is downright inspirational!

However, it's really not enough to simply ignore the more equal and, as we are informed by the British Prime Minister, the more talented, when they are reduced to a frantic puddle over the baffling task of dealing with an inoperative internal combustion engine.  In such cases, I should think that duty really demands pointing and laughing.

The Code of Modern Chivalry

1. I neither recognize nor serve the female imperative.
2. I will rigorously respect all female claims to equality and refrain from treating them any differently from a man in any way, shape, or form.
3. In the event I encounter a strong and independent woman crying in public, I will not conceal my amusement.