Wednesday, January 18, 2017

The myth of relational equity

Rollo Tomassi examines the outdated myth that still imprisons far too many Delta men:
I’ve covered the fallacy of Relational Equity in a prior post, but I think it’s necessary to revisit the idea here to understand how it still undermines men in an era of Open Hypergamy and feminine social primacy. These men, most of whom are likely into their 70s now, had a preconception of what it meant to ‘do everything right’; to play by an understood rule set that women were supposed to find attractive, to acknowledge and honor. Furthermore, they were taught to expect a degree of mutual reason from these new, empowered and evolving women. If needs weren’t being met, well, then all that was necessary was a heart to heart and open communication and negotiation would set things back on track because women could be expected to be the functional equivalents of men. This was the golden, egalitarian, sexual equality, future that feminism promised the guys in the 70s and 80s.

Relational Equity is the misguided belief that ‘doing everything right’ would necessarily be what ultimately attracts a woman, kept a woman, a wife, an LTR, from both infidelity, and was an assurance of her continued happiness with her man. Needless to say, the collected experiences of men that’s led to the praxeology of what we know as Red Pill awareness puts the lie to this – but as men, we expect some kind of acknowledgement for our accomplishments. Rationally, in a male context, we expect that what we do will at least be recognized as valuable, if not honored, by other men. So by extension of our equalist social contract, women, whom we are told we should expect to be co-equal agents with men, should also be expected to see past their emotional Hypergamous natures and make a logical conclusion to be attracted to men who are good fits in a mutually understood sense.

This, of course, is nonsense for the same reason that expecting genuine desire can be negotiated is nonsense, but essentially this is essentially the idea the shifting social contract of the time was trying to convince men of. And as you might expect, those men, the ones with the insight to recognize it, saw it for the opportunism it really was. Even if they ended up at 40 hating who they’d become.
I would summarize it thusly:

  1. A woman who is sexually attracted to a man will find a way to express that attraction to him in all circumstances and at all costs.
  2. No woman has ever been sexually attracted to the performance of chores or everyday duties.
  3. No man having an affair with a woman has ever done the dishes or laundry for her.
Whatever the right answer is, relational equity isn't it.

Tuesday, January 17, 2017

No obedience, no obligation

Adult children have no right to expect support from their parents. Particularly adult children who refuse to abide by their parents' values:
What should a father do when the daughter he raised and poured his heart into grows up to burn the coal?

Support her?

HAHAHAHAHAHA…. no.

How about cut her off.

Allie Dowdle just wants to go to college and date the boy she wants to date.

How nonjudgmental. Does that include dating serial killer boys?

But her parents are making that extremely difficult — all because they don’t like her boyfriend.

This article sounds like it was written by an emotionally stunted, petulant child.
The great irony is that white liberals are more offended by white parents who cut off their daughters for dating vibrants than Arab parents who cut off their daughters heads for dating white men.

One begins to notice a pattern....

Anyhow, what is difficult about it? The girl had a choice. Burn the coal or have her parents pay her expenses. She chose the coal, which means she had better get used to supporting herself anyhow.

  • More than 50 percent of the relationships between white women and black men end upon "the disclosure of the pregnancy." 
  • 72 percent of the white women whose children have black fathers never marry the father. 
  • 92 percent of the biracial children of black fathers are born illegitimate.
  • 97 percent of the biracial children of black fathers and white mothers are born illegitimate.
  • 98 percent of white mothers never receive any financial support from the black fathers of their children even if they are married to them.

Sunday, January 15, 2017

Yes, divorce is bad for children

As always, exceptions serve as the basis for poor generalities, lousy justifications, and bad policies. In most cases, divorce will have negative long-term consequences for the children involved.
As the Christmas tree is thrown out and the wrapping paper cleared away, the empty Champagne bottles taken out behind the garage, Google searches for terms like “divorce lawyer” and “file for divorce” spike. Many of the people researching how to untie the knot will probably not do so. But some will.

Brad Wilcox and Samuel Sturgeon of the Institute for Family Studies suggest that there might be good reason to hold off, particularly if you have kids. Of course, there might be good reason not to hold off! But the majority of divorces involving kids don’t come from “high conflict” marriages or situations involving abuse; Wilcox and Sturgeon point to data indicating that most divorces come from couples who are still basically functioning as parents.

Counterintuitively, kids whose parents divorce amid flying crockery and lurid accusations may actually do better, post-divorce, than kids whose parents unhappily fizzle out. But if you think about it for a while, that’s not all that surprising. In homes with major conflict, divorce brings a certain measure of peace and stability. But if your parents are basically civil to each other, divorce could come as an unwelcome surprise.

Our parents, our family unit, are the first and most bedrock fact of our lives. Suddenly breaking that apart -- for no reason apparent to the children involved -- shakes a faith in the world that will never be rebuilt in quite the same way. Moreover, divorce often means downward economic mobility. Unless you are hugely wealthy, splitting your income across two households means that sacrifices have to be made by both parties, and often, that financial stress is added to the emotional upheaval of unraveling two lives.

Small wonder, then, that the children of divorce tend to have worse outcomes on various measures than the children whose parents stay together: According to Wilcox and Sturgeon, “Divorce typically doubles or triples the odds that children will experience depression, delinquency, school failure, or future relationship difficulties.”
Marriage isn't about two people, it is the foundation for the family. And as such, it should never be taken lightly or dependent upon something as ephemeral as "happiness".

Saturday, January 14, 2017

How to get away with it

In which women are advised to keep multiple plates spinning, and how to hide the fact they are doing so:

  • Never got to the same place with different guys
  • Don’t arrange to go on two dates on the same day. The last thing you want is to call your date the name of the other man or getting confused about conversations you already had with the other one.
  • Don’t connect with them on social media. It’s a small world and you never know who is connected to whom and you certainly don’t want any of your dates to post any updates that might give away the fact that you are dating different people.
  • At the end of the day, if you’re not seeing someone exclusively, there shouldn’t be a problem with seeing different people at the same time, so keep your options open and keep an open mind. 
  • Get a dating phone, a separate number from your personal line.
  • Get a dating email. Give both out to any dates and keep your privacy.
  • Keep your first dates very short - a maximum two hour drink date. This way you can 'stack' date, with different men on the same evening.
  • Retain mystery when answering dating questions, for example, if he asks 'who else are you dating?' Respond 'that would be telling.'

Friday, January 13, 2017

Burn the...

Oh, you already know the rest:
A former Miss Italy contestant may lose her sight and will have to have plastic surgery after acid was thrown in her face. Gessica Notaro, who has worked as a TV presenter as well as a dolphin trainer, was allegedly attacked by her former boyfriend, who is accused of stalking her after she broke up with him.

Newspaper La Stampa reports that the 28-year-old suffered deep burns to her face and eye, and is being treated in hospital in Cesena, where doctors fear she may lose her sight. Miss Notaro also suffered injuries to her hip and leg in the horror attack outside her home. It is alleged that Tavares, who has been arrested and remanded in custody, harassed Miss Notaro after she ended their relationship in August last year.
I was mildly surprised to see what looked like a Latin name. Then I saw the pictures. Of course, white women aren't going to learn anything from all these attacks until one of the Kardashians is blinded or murdered by her vibrant du jour.

Thursday, January 12, 2017

Alphas seek confrontation

This observation shows how those who are always advising politicians to chase the electorate are really revealing their fundamental inability to understand human nature or why people vote for one representative versus another. It is apparent that even though they don't like him or his objectives, the media is rapidly developing a grudging respect for the God-Emperor Ascendant:
"If you sent Donald Trump to Pamplona for the bull run he would quite possibly run towards the bull. And the beast might well, in such circumstances, do a quick U-turn and gallop to safety."
- Quentin Letts, Daily Mail
That's how people react to genuine Alphas. Alphas always steer towards open confrontation, they don't try to avoid it, or worse, engage in passive-aggressive sniping from safety.

Wednesday, January 11, 2017

Snakes in the pulpit

Dalrock and Doug Wilson observe that the "only real man in the room" preacher is engaging in a literally Satanic practice:
The Serpent knew the way to tempt Eve was to make her feel like God was holding out on her, that she was getting less than she deserved. Adam knew following Eve was a sin, but chose sin over challenging his wife. It was more important to make Eve happy than to follow God.

Belittling men feels good*, and is easy. Calling out women feels terrible, and is hard. Absent concerted effort not to fall into this rut, we will slide into it.  We will do what feels good and is easy over what feels terrible and is hard. It really is that simple.

*It feels like courage because you are calling out your own kind, a sort of vicarious self criticism. Yet at the same time it is really a way to elevate yourself above other men, as the only real man in the room. It is cowardice and arrogance that feels like courage and humility. And again it is easy. The men you are belittling will generally go along, because it makes Eve happy.