The curse of female "success"

Success is rarely as wonderful as reported:

Debi Thomas, the best African-American figure skater in history, couldn't find her figure skates. She looked around the darkened trailer, perched along a river in a town so broke even the bars have closed, and sighed. The mobile home where she lives with her fiance and his two young boys was cluttered with dishes, stacks of documents, a Christmas tree still standing weeks past the holiday.
"They're around here somewhere," she murmured three times. "I know I have a pair," she continued, before trailing off.

"Because — what did I skate in? — something. They're really tight, though, because your feet grow after you don't wear them for a long time." Her medals — from the World Figure Skating Championships, from the Olympics — were equally elusive: "They're in some bag somewhere."
Uncertainty is not a feeling Debi Thomas has often experienced in her 48 years. She was once so confident that she simultaneously studied at Stanford University and trained for the Olympics, against the advice of her coach. She was once so lauded for her lithe beauty on the ice that Time magazine put her on its cover and ABC's Wide World of Sports named her athlete of the year in 1986. She wasn't just the nation's best figure skater. She was smart — able to win a competition, stay up all night cramming, then ace a test the next morning.

She wanted it all. And for a time, she had it. After Stanford came medical school at Northwestern, then marriage to a handsome lawyer who gave her a son — who in turn became one of the country's best high school football players. Higher and higher she went.

Now, she's here. Thomas, a former orthopedic surgeon who doesn't have health insurance, declared bankruptcy in 2014 and hasn't brought in a steady paycheck in years. She's twice divorced, and her medical license, which she was in danger of losing anyhow, expired around the time she went broke. She hasn't seen her family in years. She instead inveighs against shadowy authorities in the nomenclature of conspiracy theorists — "the powers that be"; "corporate media"; "brainwashing" — and composes opinion pieces for the local newspaper that carry headlines such as "Pain, No Gain" and "Driven to Insanity."

There's a conventional narrative of how Thomas went from where she was to where she is — that of a talented figure undone by internal struggles and left penniless. That was how reality TV told it, when the Oprah Winfrey Network's Fix My Life and Inside Edition did pieces on her.

"She's got all these degrees," fiance Jamie Looney said as he watched television with Thomas inside the trailer. "She's a doctor. She's a surgeon. And she's here. I've got one year of community college. I know why I'm here. I look at her, wondering, 'Why are you not working somewhere else?' "
Such comments upset Thomas. "People are all like, 'Get a job,' " she said. "And I'm like, 'You people are fools.' I'm trying to change the world."

A woman's primary purpose is to be a helpmeet to her husband and the mother of children. Unfortunately, neither of those qualities are praised by the mainstream like "being a SCIENTIST" or "an ENTREPRENEUR" or, best of all a "HUMAN RIGHTS ACTIVIST."

Often a woman will find great success at something non-marriage/non-making-babies related, then crash and burn when they find that success wasn't nearly as satisfying as advertised.

Remember, without women having children, the human race will literally cease to exist. In comparison with that, being the first female ASTRONAUTBALLERINALAWYERINNERCITYHANDBALLTHERAPYORGANIZER means little.

Relationships bore women

A counterintuitive survey result prompts Heartiste to take yet another victory lap:

Over the last few decades almost all research studies have found that men are much more eager for casual sex than women are (Oliver & Hyde, 1993; Petersen & Hyde, 2010). This is especially true when it comes to desires for short-term mating with many different sexual partners (Schmitt et al., 2003), and is even more true for wanting to have sex with complete and total strangers (Tappé et al., 2013).

In a classic social psychological experiment from the 1980s, Clark and Hatfield (1989) put the idea of there being sex differences in consenting to sex with strangers to a real life test. They had experimental confederates approach college students across various campuses and ask “I’ve been noticing you around campus, I find you to be very attractive, would you go to bed with me tonight?” Around 75 percent of men agreed to have sex with a complete stranger, whereas no women (0 percent) agreed to sex with a complete stranger. In terms of effect size, this is one of the largest sex differences ever discovered in psychological science (Hyde, 2005).

Twenty years later, Hald and Høgh-Olesen (2010) largely replicated these findings in Denmark, with 59 percent of single men and 0 percent of single women agreeing to a stranger’s proposition, “Would you go to bed with me?” Interestingly, they also asked participants who were already in relationships, finding 18 percent of men and 4 percent of women currently in a relationship responded positively to the request.

Did you catch the glint of that sparkly truthgem? On the question of having sex with a stranger, the percentage of men willing to do so dropped from 75% if they were single to 18% if they were already in relationships…..while the percentage of women willing to fuck a stranger rose from o% if they were single to 4% if they were in relationships.

At this point, do we actually need social scientists when we have Le Chateau?

Why young men prefer porn and vidya

It's not really a great mystery why it's becoming harder and harder to interest young men in women at all, never mind marriage.

A SURVEY of 1,000 women has found that the majority prefer reading a book or knitting to having SEX."

The poll of women aged between 18-50 found that 18 per cent of women would rather do a 'craft activity' like knitting, sewing, painting or card-making instead of romping with their partner.
Asked to pick from a range of 'options' if they were given a spare moment to relax, women chose reading a good book as their 'top option', trumping sex, crafting or having a bath.

The top four options chosen by women in the poll released today were:

1 - Read a book - 37 per cent

2 - Have a bath - 26 per cent

3 - Crafting (Knitting, sewing etc) - 18 per cent

4 - Have sex - 8 per cent

What, exactly, would be the point of marrying a woman who would rather knit or read than have sex? No wonder more and more young men are deciding that they'd prefer other activities themselves.

She can take care of herself

Let reason and experience be silent when a young woman's feelings gainsay their conclusions:

I warned her as graphically as I could that she was already well down the slippery slope leading to poverty and misery—that, as I knew from the experience of untold patients, she would soon have a succession of possessive, exploitative, and violent boyfriends, unless she changed her life. I told her that in the past few days, I had seen two women patients who had had their heads rammed down the lavatory, one who had had her head smashed through a window and her throat cut on the shards of glass, one who had had her arm, jaw, and skull broken, and one who had been suspended by her ankles from a tenth-floor window to the tune of, "Die, you bitch!"

"I can look after myself," said my 17-year-old.

"But men are stronger than women," I said. "When it comes to violence, they are at an advantage."

"That's a sexist thing to say," she replied.

A girl who had absorbed nothing at school had nevertheless absorbed the shibboleths of political correctness in general and of feminism in particular.

"But it's a plain, straightforward, and inescapable fact," I said.

"It's sexist," she reiterated firmly.

A stubborn refusal to face inconvenient facts, no matter how obvious, now pervades our attitude toward relations between the sexes. An ideological filter of wishful thinking strains out anything we'd prefer not to acknowledge about these eternally difficult and contested relations, with predictably disastrous results.

As a general rule, "I can look after myself" is a reliable signal that the individual uttering the phrase is not only incapable of looking after himself, but also lacks the judgment to realize that he cannot.

Biology is a hate science

Thought crime on a bus in Spain:

A bright orange bus appeared in public on Monday in the city of Madrid with several phrases written on its sides stating blatant biological facts: “Boys have a penis, girls have a vagina. Don’t let them fool you. If you are born a man, you are a man. If you are a woman, you’ll keep being one”.

It didn’t take long for the government officials to spring into action. Madrid’s City Council, which is ruled by liberals, promised to take the “necessary measures” to stop the bus from touring the city saying the vehicle did not comply with local traffic ordinances. The regional government, ruled by cuckservatives, said that it was consulting with the Attorney General over whether the bus broke any “hate crime” laws. The cities of Barcelona and Valencia, both with progressive governments, announced penalties up to 3,000 Euros if the bus dares to come to their cities.

At any case their complaints have been successful and the bus was impounded by the police and taken off the road. The judge said the bus would remain immobilized until the slogans were removed, adding that the messages went beyond simply advertising the group’s ideology and attacked the dignity of certain people by denying their sexual orientation.

Debate is no longer permitted. Fine. That doesn't mean the war is over, it merely means the time for talking has ended.

What college does for women

The Freshman 15 is bad enough. What is much worse is what college propaganda does to their highly impressionable minds. I highly recommend not dating women who are college graduates. First, women who don't attend college are more attractive. Second, most women who do believe that their academic credentials and their ability to parrot propaganda is synonymous with intelligence and capability.

But it isn't. A highly intelligent, well-read man will have no trouble intellectually dismantling a PhD. A woman's BA in the average college major is less of an intellectual accomplishment than completing a CRPG.

Mandatory mudsharking

In case you thought all that white girl-black guy propaganda coming out of Hollywood and the ad agencies was coincidental. It's not. It's straight-up anti-white racism.

Caught and charged

The left-wing tough guy is under arrest:

Edmonton police have charged a man with assault and uttering threats in relation to an incident at the women's march on Saturday at the Alberta legislature.

The incident involved right-wing Rebel Media staff member Sheila Gunn Reid, who was covering the rally and taking video of the crowd.

On the video, which the Rebel later posted to its website, she's heard asking a man to comment about counter-protesters at the rally.

An argument ensued, and the man is seen in front of the camera. At a certain point, the camera shakes.

The winning is spreading, even outside America.

Man punches woman at "Women's March"

Sheila had gone there to report on a left-wing “Women’s March.” It was basically an NDP rally against Donald Trump. So: the usual professional protesters from the left.

Of course, the event was dominated by NDP men. One of them saw Sheila, and recognized her from The Rebel.

He started arguing with her; then swearing at her; then he said he’d hit her — and then he did.

All while Sheila’s camera was rolling. Even more incredibly, the NDP women standing right there, who saw the whole thing, immediately blocked Sheila, and helped the thug scurry away. They sided with the male criminal, against the female victim.

So much for women’s rights. The NDP doesn’t even believe women should have the benefit of the Criminal Code, if they’re conservative.

Alpha Mail: divorce rape

A reader wants to start a #GamerGate-style movement against the divorce courts:

I want to start a gamergate style movement against divorce rape.

I just got divorce raped. In the end I'll pay to my ex around 50-60% of my net payh. I went from joint possession (50-50, equal possession) of my kids throughout the divorce, about two years. I now have four days a month. I must maintain a life insurance policy with my ex as beneficiary. I must pay in cash for medical support. The bitch can remarry, have another man raise my boys, and make me pay for it. And the state will beat me and put me in a cage, if I don't surrender.

I now have negative net worth, my ex has all the property and a net worth in the millions. She is a [professional] and earns [a lot more than most of us].

I'd have contributed much more to alt-tech if this hadn't been going on. Sorry, but this sucked the life out of me.

Following my own interests, I'm going to take the war to cuckservatives and feminazis who passed these damn laws that invert male headship of the family. We're going to change those laws. We're going to remove anti-male judges from the bench. We're going to work on getting Trump on-board with pro-father initiatives.

It really happens. It can happen to any man. And retreating from society and civilization and women is really not a viable option.

Perhaps we should stop pedestalizing and demonizing women, and instead focus on doing what men do, which is fixing the structural problem.

The shitlord smirk

"That's the look of a man who knows he'll be able to smack the shit out of these leftoids on Inauguration Day."
- Charles Powell

"DONT YELL AT THE MAN MOMMY - YELLING IS WHY DADDY LEFT"
- Victorious Gnome

Angry feminist mudshark protester. Women, THAT is everything you do NOT ever want to be.

It's all over but the crying

Courtesy of David James Vickery and the Chateau comes the moment of truth:

Then said he unto the disciples, It is impossible but that offences will come: but woe unto him, through whom they come! It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he cast into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones.
- Matthew 17:1-2

The desire to teach

Is, all too often, the desire to subvert and mislead:

In Titus 2 Paul is saying to teach the older women (and men) to live in such a way that their lives are “appropriate to sound doctrine”. It is about setting an example with their lives so that no one will malign the word of God.  This isn’t about the older women teaching sound doctrine, it is about them living in a way that is congruent with having been taught sound doctrine, and teaching younger women to live this way as well.

All of these things could be taught by atheist older women to younger women with no need to reference (or even know of the existence of) the Bible, if they wanted to teach this behavior.  The reason this is hard, and the reason there is a controversy, is women really really want to teach doctrine*, in a way that the average man simply doesn’t and can’t understand. Men aren’t consumed by this burning envy. We don’t sit in church festering “Why can’t it be me up there teaching everyone? Why does it have to be him!”

*The other reason this is so hard is the idea of wives turning to their husbands for instruction (1 Cor 14:35, Eph 5:25-48) is anathema to our modern Christian feminist sensibilities. Setting up separate women’s ministries is the answer to anything but that!

The reason is that the average man is not offended by what Christian doctrine teaches. And it is those women who are most offended by Christian doctrine, and by the Bible, who are most driven to acquire the credentials that permit them - wrongly - to assume positions that permit them to teach their revised, heretical doctrine that is more to their liking.

I do not attend any church where women preach from the pulpit. Because, whatever it is, that church is can no longer be reasonably described as a Christian church. Even the sketchiest Pope since the Borgia Pope understands that.

A belated surrender

Women interpret criticism as "hate" and "abuse". This is why it is important to keep constantly hammering at the feminists and SJWs. They can't take criticism. They can't take the heat. It kills them inside. Sooner or later, they will quit and sink back into the bitter solipsism that spawned their attack on reality:

All of that shit right there is why writing this blog feels like pissing into the wind. Because for the abusers, there are no negative consequences. They’re able to leverage the controversy generated by my existence into increased sales and awards, while for me the consequences are always negative. There is only ever a progressive, steady toll on my health, sanity, and relationships. I might succeed in changing things behind the scenes at a few gaming companies, or at affecting the lineup of speakers at a single convention, or seeing harassment policies implemented at a handful of conventions and events. But none of that does anything to change the daily lived reality of what it means to be a woman in games.

People have told me more times than I can count that I’m “brave” for writing this blog. I’m “brave” for being open about my feelings and experiences, and I’m “brave” for saying what I think without apologizing or minimizing in any way. And to them, I always say the same thing: I’m not brave! I’m stupid. Doing what I do is like beating my head against a brick wall on a daily basis. Every once in a while, I might knock a tiny chip off the wall, and people may applaud and say, “look! Progress!”. But ultimately, nothing I do is every going to seriously harm the wall, but it will seriously harm me if I keep at it long enough....

I hate feeling that I’m playing into a generational story of defeat. My mother was run out of STEM because of sexism, ruining a career as a brilliant research chemist. She has her name on 12 patents! And the fact that I couldn’t persevere makes me feel hopeless. How can I tell my daughter that she can achieve anything of meaning when I have only stories of defeat to offer her? How can I tell her that she can beat the odds when her mother and her grandmother are both strong women who have been ground down into silence?

This woman is both stupid and part of a multi-generational losing tradition. Her daughter can't beat the odds because there is nothing to win. Life is struggle. Respect must be earned, it is never granted to whiners and complainers and those who others men into doing their work for them.

She has the complete opposite of the MAGA Mindset. It is not surprising, because women like this don't have the good sense to stop trying to change things for the worse, America is considerably less great than it was. It's good that she finally surrendered. She shouldn't have tried to fight reality in the first place. The cruel fact is that the world would have been a better place if her campaign and her blog had never existed.

Women will use any tool to try to shame men into not fighting, they will appeal to any authority to forcibly silencing men by threatening their jobs, their freedom, and their families for nothing more than the crime of voicing an opinion. Because they simply cannot take the heat in a world of free expression.

So, turn it up on them. Until they can accept the principle of free speech means everyone has exactly the same right to criticize them that they have to criticize everyone else, one side or the other is going to be silenced. And it isn't going to be us. We don't quit. Ever.

Observe that what proved to be effective in the end was not logic or sweet reason. It was relentless demoralizing rhetoric. These are psychologically weak individuals, so always hammer at their psychologies, don't waste time on their flawed ideas or perverse objectives.

Sexual histories are relevant

As usual, feminists want to decouple female actions from consequences:

Both witnesses said she behaved with them in detailed sexual terms as Evans had claimed she did with him. And so the judge agreed that evidence of the woman’s sexual history could be admitted. I believe this will have a devastating impact on victims – and that it will in future stop them coming forward for fear of what they face in court.

I was part of a research team in 2003 that monitored the effectiveness of the laws preventing routine cross examination of a complainant’s sexual history. I sat through a number of rape trials and heard the flimsy reasons used by defence barristers when arguing that the judge should make an exception and allow the jury to listen to salacious details about the complainant’s sex life.

In our research, judges granted permission in two-thirds of the cases that we observed and did allow sexual history evidence, which was raised even in some cases involving children.

It has been widely reported it is rare for previous sexual history evidence to be admitted as evidence, but this is blatantly untrue. I hear regular stories from friends and colleagues that work in Rape Crisis and other support services of their clients being grilled in the witness box about their sex lives. Sexual histories are already dragged up and they already have a chilling effect on victims’ willingness to come forward. The Ched Evans case has made this many times worse.

They should have a chilling effect. That's a positive thing, because it will prevent more false accusations like the one that Ched Evans's accuser made.

In fact, there should be more chilling effects, such as jail terms for women who make false rape accusations.

There is an easy way for women to not have a sexual history that calls their testimony into doubt. Don't be a drunken slut, and then people will be much more likely to believe you.

Divorce by YouTube

From a reader:

I had no idea who/what MirandaSings was until yesterday. Essentially an obnoxious/awkward female character performed by a woman named Colleen. She married a guy named Josh and their entire relationship has been part of their youtube fame by putting it out there.

The interesting part was looking at their respective announcement videos about getting a divorce.

With Josh you can see the confused and hurt beta male.

With Colleen you can see a woman putting on a show but just under the surface you can see she's either already got a trade-up on line or is prepared to hook one.

Anyways, the body language in the videos says more than I could.

I know nothing of them, but I can't say I'm surprised. Any couple that lives its life in public is at vastly higher risk of separation than one that doesn't. That's one of the many reasons Spacebunny and I keep our private life, and our family, to ourselves.

Burn the...

Oh, forget it, you know the rest:

A teenager who vanished from Myrtle Beach, S.C., in 2009 was repeatedly raped in a gang “stash house” for several days – then she was shot dead and fed to alligators when her disappearance generated too much media attention, the FBI said last week.

The shocking new details about the mysterious disappearance of 17-year-old Rochester, N.Y., native Brittanee Drexel came largely from a “jailhouse confession” that was subsequently substantiated by others with “tidbits” and “secondhand information,” FBI Agent Gerrick Munoz testified in a federal court transcript obtained by The Post and Courier.

The inmate who gave the alleged bombshell confession, Taquan Brown, is serving a 25-year sentence for voluntary manslaughter in a different case. Brown told authorities he was present during the final agonizing moments of Drexel’s life, Munoz said.

Brown claimed to have seen Drexel when he visited a “stash house” – typically a place used to keep guns, drugs or money – in the McClellanville area, the general location where Drexel’s cellphone last pinged.

Munoz said Brown told officials he saw Da’Shaun Taylor, then 16 years old, and several other men “sexually abusing Brittanee Drexel.” Brown then said he walked to the backyard of the house to give money to Taylor’s father, Shaun Taylor. But as Brown and Shaun Taylor talked, Drexel tried to make a break for it. Her escape attempt was in vain, however, and one of the captors “pistol-whipped” Drexel and carried her back inside the house. Brown said he then heard two gunshots. The next time Brown said he saw Drexel, her body was being wrapped up and removed from the house.

Drexel’s body has never been found, but Munoz said “several witnesses” have told investigators she was dumped in an unspecified McClellanville pond teeming with alligators.

Drexel was last captured on video on April 25, 2009, leaving the Blue Water Hotel in Myrtle Beach, where she was staying against her parents' permission. A different inmate serving time at Georgetown County Jail told officials he was informed Da’Shaun Taylor picked Drexel up in Myrtle Beach and transported her to McClellanville.

Munoz said the FBI believes Taylor “showed her off, introduced her to some other friend that were there…they ended up tricking her out with some of their friends, offering her to them and getting a human trafficking situation.”

As the media spotlight grew ever brighter on the desperate efforts to find Drexel, the girl was “murdered and disposed of,” Munoz said.

More white parents need to tell their daughters precisely what they are risking when they decide to sneak out of the house and get picked up by the Da’Shauns and Kanyes of the world. At best, their asses will balloon to elephantine proportions. At worst, they'll end up raped, murdered, and eaten by alligators.

SJWs don't actually care about rape

It is always - ALWAYS - the Narrative first with them.

A young left-wing German politician has admitted she lied to police about the racial background of three men who raped her in case it triggered reprisals against refugees in her country.

Selin Gören, the national spokeswoman of the left-wing youth movement Solid, was attacked by three men in January in the city of Mannheim where she works as a refugee activist.

The 24-year-old was ambushed late at night in a playground where she said she was forced to perform a sex act on her attackers. After the assault she went straight to the police - but she did not tell them the ethnic make-up of the men, that they were speaking Arabic or Farsi.

Selin, aware of the backlash that migrants suffered after the events in Cologne on New Year's Eve - when hundreds of women were sexually assaulted and robbed by marauding gangs of immigrant youths - instead said she was robbed and said her attackers spoke German.

Rape, like everything else to SJWs, is merely a rhetorical weapon. Keep that in mind whenever you see one attempting to utilize it, and call them out for it.

The women aren't going to help

The defense of the West is going to rely primarily, if not entirely, on the Men of the West, because it is becoming increasingly clear that very few women are willing to say anything that might lead to them being criticized for departing from the SJW Narrative:

Three teenage girls colluded to cover up sex assaults against them because they felt bad for their attackers and didn’t want to see them “discriminated against”.

Pupils at the Herder school in Kassel, Germany have been subjected to months of sexual assault by “much older” migrant males on their way to and from school, dating back as far as September 2015. The three girls aged between 16 and 18 were repeatedly touched inappropriately and verbally abused, but they refused to report the incidents to the police or their school because the perpetrators were “refugees”.

The crazy thing is that many men genuinely worry about how their words and actions will be interpreted by those who won't even condemn their own sexual assailants. But how they are brainwashed into silence is no mystery.

These children are not the first to lie about sexual abuse because it doesn’t fit the mainstream narrative about defenceless, and peaceful refugees. Breitbart London reported on the case of a young female no-borders activist who was gang raped by Sudanese migrants in the shower block of a camp on the French-Italian border in 2015. The other migrants in the camp were having a party and playing music, so her cries were unheard.

Subsequently, after persuasion by other activists the woman decided not to report her rape because to do so would set back her dream of a borderless world. After she betrayed the political ideals of the other volunteers at the camp and reported the abuse, some of her fellow activists accused her of doing so out of “spite”.

Stefan ponders the next generation of Europe

It may sound petty, but on such questions, the fate of nations are decided.