Wednesday, December 7, 2016

Alpha Mail: there is always hope

A long-time reader writes in with an update:
Wanted to give you one more update on my progress, since I still consider Alpha Game to have been very influential in helping me transform many aspects of my life.

This is about more than just game, even though I wasn't able to implement every specific piece of advice you first gave (still no awesome bull-headed cane for me). I'm now in law school in a good part of D.C. I go to a good church, have a good social life, and am still growing....

This didn't result from any one action--not lifting (which I don't do enough of), growing a beard, or even being willing to go to more bars and take more chances. Fundamentally, the summer of 2013 was a complete shift in attitude. It took some time to fully inundate my thought processes, and I anticipate continual growth and learning.But, when it comes down to it, it was simply this:

I am responsible for my life.

No one else.

If I'm not where I want to be, I have to fix it.

If I don't have enough friends, I have to fix it.

If I can't find a girl, I have to fix it.

If I'm not in shape, I have to fix it.

Perhaps the only exception is my relationship with God; I'm responsible for that, but can only continue in faith and perseverance with God's help and grace.

All of the practical outworkings and new understanding of masculinity are secondary, even though I learned about them first. Without a fundamental re-orientation--without realizing that I and I alone get to make the choices about how my life unfolds--I could never be where I am today: perhaps the happiest I've been in all of my life.
He even sent a picture of himself with his pretty, slender girlfriend. Now, it would be easy to dismiss this as nothing more than Game-related happy talk by someone who happened to get lucky, except for one thing.

The man is blind.

So, what is holding you back? What limitation or weakness do you have that is so much worse than not even being able to see?

Hope, faith, and love. Don't shy away from any of the three. They are, quite literally, the essentials.


Jew613 said...

Is the writer KC from this post?

pdwalker said...

Jew613 - I think it may be. Well remembered.

Laguna Beach Fogey said...

Great to hear! I remember that guy. Well done.

Happy Housewife said...


Anonymous said...

That is a great victory. Keep going man.

Anonymous said...

That is a great victory. Keep going man.

Kryten 2X4B 523P said...

Last year I was working with an 18 year old lad doing some network cabling installs on a one off job. As youd expect, talk got round to girls and women in general, and two of his complaints were that he didnt understand women and had no idea how to approach them - and as a result had never had a girlfriend, let alone a one night stand. Good kid, average looking and could stand to lose a little weight.

So I pointed him to here and the chateau. Ive learned n awful lot here which I apply in my marriage, and it works.

Bumped into him 2 months later - he had spent a lot of time reading both sites, lost a little weight - and had a date that weekend (his first ever). And a different date lined up for the following week.

Thats the impact of sound advice on an open mind.

Aeoli Pera said...

Awesome. Shame he has to live in DC though.

Jed Mask said...

Incredible testimony. God's Blessings on this man and his life.

Thanks for sharing this Mr. Vox.

We have no reasons to "complain" and "murmur" about our situations in life. Amen.

~ Bro. Jed

Gulo Gulo said...

Great " notes from the field".
There are no excuses -period !

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Gulo Gulo said...

Met a middle aged guy today while going about my day to day affairs. He opened up to me ( a stranger) about the failure of his first marriage and how his relationship with current girlfriend is on the rocks. He wasn't a complainer .. just stoically stated the facts.You could feel he was truly living a life of silent struggle. It was clear he was hungering for truth and open to learning. So.. I mentioned the Rational Male. His last statement to me was "thanks, when I get home tonight, Im looking up the site"
Hopefully the scales will fall from his eyes

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