Sunday, July 19, 2015

Confessions of a male feminist

Annotated by the Dark Herald:
Before my wife started sleeping with other men, I certainly considered myself a feminist,

I'm sure, I would have considered you one too.  You have easily blown whatever microcosm of doubt I could have had on this point, completely out of the water.

but I really only understood it in the abstract. When I quit working to stay at home with the kids, I began to understand it on a whole new level. I am an economically dependent househusband coping with the withering drudgery of child-rearing. Now that I understand the reality of that situation, I don’t blame women for demanding more for themselves than the life of the housewife.

I couldn't be prouder of just how pathetic I really am.  My wife keeps my balls in her purse.  She shows them to Paulo to make him laugh.

You know, I thought we needed a term for "male feminist", but then, it occurs to me that we already have one. "Cuckold."


SarahsDaughter said...

As expected, even the feminists are eating this man alive in the comments on the original article. No matter how low a man takes himself, he doesn't get to become one of them. How dare he intrude on women's victimhood becoming one himself and then out perform women in their ability to cope with a partner's desire for sexual freedom! The poor women who suffer with their husband's sexual dalliances are being told by this man that "it's not that bad, embrace it, do what I've done." Just another man telling women he's better than them. Even at being a feminist.

CostelloM said...

What a sad mess we create when the men act like women and the women try to act like men.

R Devere said...

As David Berg said,"I've got $10 that say this was a fantasy piece written by a 48 yr.old catlady!"

Ron said...

It's not a human anymore. Put it out of its misery,

Laguna Beach Fogey said...

I've been in "Paulo's" situation, and in my experince most of the husbands of these women know and approve of what their wives are doing. They accept it. They brag about it. They get off on hearing about it. The men are just passive participants. They've adopted the feminine role.

On a related note, I'm convinced that women are not truly monogamous, and, given the right circumstances, will sleep around just as readily, enthusiastically as men. This is something I understand F. Roger Devlin argues in his new book 'Sexual Utopia in Power,' although I haven't yet read it.

Student in Blue said...

On a related note, I'm convinced that women are not truly monogamous, and, given the right circumstances, will sleep around just as readily, enthusiastically as men.

That's, uh... I think that was called "hypergamy". Or at least it's a solid part of hypergamy.

MichaelJMaier said...

I've been at a very low point in an awful, stupid relationship that was falling apart. So I can sort of understand desperate rationalization and how being married to a filthy whore could somehow lead to such an ugly place.

And I still think this man's genes should never have successfully spawned. His poor children have truly awful parents.

kurt9 said...

Laguna Beach Fogey, I have heard that this is actually a genre of porn. It is called cuck something or other. Do you mean to tell me that there is reality to this crap?

Anonymous said...

I've heard of low self esteem. But this is no self esteem.

Unknown said...

kurt9: Last line of the blog post -

"You know, I thought we needed a term for "male feminist", but then, it occurs to me that we already have one. "Cuckold.""

Yes, it's a apparently a real fetish.

luagha said...

There is little more socially attractive to a dog than eating another dog's food.

SciVo said...

@ Student in Blue:

Kind of. Hypergamy means marrying up. Cuckoldry is only part of it to the extent that the driving instinct to seek better never goes away, and it's like a stealth marrying-up to sleep around with better baby-makers than her husband.

Sentient Spud said...

Do you mean to tell me that there is reality to this crap?

Setup a dummy account on a well known hookup app some months ago, wanting to see just the fuss was about. A third to half of the public profiles were early 20s-30s married women with a husband who was down to watch/for a threesome.

The Kurganovich said...

Yes, this is a thing: Pure History Specials Prince Charles' Other Mistress

Notice how the documentary presents this as ordinary behavior.

Robert What? said...

"Victim" is the most coveted status among the modern American Left, and they guard it jealously. "Male Feminist" is an attempt to gain some of that status as "Victim by Association". But the non-male feminists are sharing none of it.

Student in Blue said...


Yeah. I think I was reading LBF's comment to refer to faithfulness to one partner, rather than multiple people at one time.

Unknown said...

Do you mean to tell me that there is reality to this crap?

I'd guess it's a more extreme version of the dominatrix/sub thing, cropping up more now as women become more masculinized and men more effeminate, and magnified by the way the Internet lets everyone pursue his fetishes more easily.

As far as men wanting to watch their wives swing, I'd guess many of those intend a trade-off: "If I let her screw some stud, she'll let me bang a hot chick." Except it probably won't go that way. And some probably have wives that have cut them back to twice-yearly duty sex, and are desperately hoping to get her engine revved back up, whatever it takes.

But yeah, some guys just get off on being cuckolded. Some get off on wearing diapers and having women change them. It's a weird world.

Lee Katt said...

LOL. OK, this is a real fetish, but there are many forms. Some men take on this crazy submissive role, the same kind that "clean the bull" and watch and do all sorts of submissive stuff. There also is a strong interracial element with these guys, though I really have no idea what that is about.

Some have a guilty conscience and so they spend a lot of effort trying to justify it. Michael Sonmore (lol--whose son is it, Michael?) has gone all political with it, mixing SJW with it.

But it doesn't have to be that way.

There are other guys who just get off on their wives with other men. They are often older, the children are grown up and out on their own, and they decide to play a little in their late 40s and 50s. Believe me, jealousy is a complete different thing at that age.

There are also swingers. Sometimes in the course of swinging, some guys find they are really more aroused by another man with their wives.

These two in the story are technical swingers, but he has put a superstructure of total wimpery on top of it.

Anonymous said...

You know, I thought we needed a term for "male feminist", but then, it occurs to me that we already have one. "Cuckold."

Indeed, and some guys are cuckolds without even being married.

Do you mean to tell me that there is reality to this crap?

Yep. Read one theory that watching a woman get schtumpfed provokes arousal in the voyeur because if he can get his sperm into her fast enough afterwards, his sperm might still win the race and fertilize the egg. Hey, not really my cup of tea, but then I have better options.

Personally though, I wonder if it isn't our old friend Gammatude raising it's feminized head. Women are attracted to men who other women are attracted to - aka preselection. So, maybe our Gamma with the cuck fetish is thinking like a woman and wants to "prove" his wife is hot (another name for this stuff is Hot Wife) by watching other guys pound her like a deathmetal drummer on speed going after his drum kit.

Bastiat's Ghost said...

This is sad. I couldn't get past the second paragraph.

Unknown said...

Nah VD, there is a better, more old fashioned word for these types .... bit c #h.

Plain and simple. In every way.

These guys would not fight a 15 year old if he was literally groping his wife's butt in public in front of his whole family.

These guys would do anything they can to undermine and insult their own kind in order to advance some triviality of the "other" for solopsistic reasons of the most my little pony movie in my head feels.

These guys would not even struggle with you if you were in a secluded place and manhandled them into perverse sex. (I know this is gross, but true.)

These guys intentionally find anyway to be above it, not play any contact sports, and think being snarky is the height of manliness.

I could go on but we all know several of these people. And they all are remarkably the same.

They come from poor fatherly households. Weak dads. Non-existent dads, but don't have the streets or NAM culture to toughen them up. You see it is not in many men's blood to do things as a child/teen that are hard, or scary, or dangerous, or exhausting. Having a strong father makes you attempt them. Having respect for a dad makes you crave proving yourself to him. Finally a real man won't let his soon be like this period. And boys will internalize this.

The gravest ill of our culture besides democracy and female franchise is lack of fatherness. Perhaps it is the greatest of all. I cannot stress enough how easy it is to picture these turd just by a few quotes or actions alone.

HickoryHammer said...

None the less, he has a good opportunity to black knight with the divorce industrial complex at this point.

Ghost said...

Did I miss something, or is the thrust of this whiny gamma bitch's "brag" that the working spouse should be at liberty to throw his dick around? Is this the new feminism? And she can't get mad, or she's oppressing my sexual freedom, if I understand the male feminist perspective correctly.

I might be able to get behind this type of feminism.

Anonymous said...

I, for one, fully support associating cuckoldry (which is repulsive to nearly everyone, even feminists) with male feminism. The more disgusting and unmanly these guys look, the better.

A quick poll of my still-feminist female friends returned universal disgust at this article. The one friend who prefers a poly lifestyle herself dismissed this person as just a cuckold fetishist, and said "He shouldn't call him a feminist because he doesn't represent feminism properly."

Represent away, gentlemen!

Anonymous said...

"There also is a strong interracial element with these guys, though I really have no idea what that is about. "

Really, Lee? No idea at all?

Anonymous said...

I don't have any idea why any male would become a committed feminist at all, unless they like being miserable and with ugly women.

I know a radfem couple. The girl is actually quite cute considering, about a 7-7.5. And to top it off, she can tell I'm a non- or anti-feminist. Being a traditional Catholic, I'm not supposed to bang women before marriage, but several months ago, after she made a casual remark to someone else that her boyfriend was having sex with some other girl at that very moment, and then explained that she and her boyfriend were polyamorous, I stroked her bare inner thigh upon her unspoken invitation, and she purred like a cat. Since then, she has seemed really attracted to me -- she became one of my current twelve Facebook stalkerettes after that incident -- and lately, she has also been acting very snide about her equally radfem boyfriend.

She did tell her girlfriend who first introduced me to her about it, but I still have no idea if her boyfriend was ever informed, and they're moving away soon anyway. So even if a radfem male gets with one of the few attractive feminists around, it's still ridiculously easy to lose her to an unapologetically "misogynist" man. (Yeah, she called me that once... as a term of endearment.)

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