Monday, December 22, 2014

A lesson in what not to do

Translation: don't do this if you want grandchildren:
What, exactly does a man doing the dishes have to do with an ambitious woman? A study in the journal Psychological Science says that the way a father handles domestic duties can have a strong influence on girls' career aspirations. In the study, researchers analyzed 326 children aged 7-13 and at least one of their parents by calculating the division of chores and paid labor in each home, as well as attitudes towards gender and work. What they found was that even when fathers said they supported gender equality, if they retained a traditional division of labor at home (ie. women handling most of the housework), their daughters were more likely to aspire to traditionally female-dominant jobs.
A traditional division of labor isn't only solid economics, it is responsible, eucivic parenting.

20 comments:

Matamoros said...

I don't do dishes, don't do housework or chores. Only outside or repairs. I have over 20 grandchildren and counting. Worked for me.

Anonymous said...

I am more inclined to believe that chore splitting is a symptom and not a cause. Excluding cooking, every female chore splitting husband I know either:
a) has wife that works full time
b) is retired himself
c) is a gamma

SarahsDaughter said...

20 Grandchildren? That is fantastic!

Men who do this are more likely to raise ambitious daughters

I wonder if the author thought for a moment that what is being said is a woman is only ambitious if she aspires to be a man. What misogyny!

Ghost said...

Dishes are the only household chore I do, and only because I have severe food allergies, and I don't trust my kids to do a good enough job cleaning them. Laundry, vacuuming, um, whatever else happens is all the wife's handling, or delegated out to the kids.

Laguna Beach Fogey said...

Four words: hot Latina house cleaners.

Problem solved.

Stg58/Animal Mother said...

LBF,

Tell me more!

Anonymous said...

Four words: hot Latina house cleaners.

I used to have latinas. None of them were bangable let alone hot. I currently have Ukranians. The lead girl was easily a 9 when my wife hired her, she is an 8 now (been about 3 years). She brings a helper, and the helper is usually a 6, with the occasional 7.

Brad Andrews said...

I rinse dishes off, but I quit trying to wash them in most cases since my wife almost always washes them again. Why waste time?

LP2021 Bank of LP Work in Progress said...

It is not only a kitchen but her kitchen, its fine to assist with a small grocery store run or replace a light bulb but my kitchen is mine. And dont bring home plastic ware, I will smash or burn it.

Huytvseo said...
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Huytvseo said...

it's a good job

Crowhill said...

Vox, what do you think the causal chain is here? I suspect it's not so much the father choosing not to do the dishes as it is the mother joyfully choosing to be a homemaker.

Dexter said...

Dishes are the only household chore I do, and only because I have severe food allergies, and I don't trust my kids to do a good enough job cleaning them.

You don't have a machine? Or there is some reason the kids can't stack the machine?

Trust said...

I tend to the dishes after big family feasts like Thanksgiving. Gets me out of listening to post meal gossip.

PhantomZodak said...

i just blogged about what not to do but it wasn't about chores. i only do dishes when things stick to the stainless steel cookware, because i'm stronger than her.

Matamoros said...

SarahsDaughter said... 20 Grandchildren? That is fantastic!

Thanks! That is with half the kids being grown, married and having kids. I expect to end up with upwards of 40, when all is said and done. All have remained traditional Catholic and traditional in their mindset and work ethic.

There is hope for the next generation that traditional parents are raising against the death wish that has been imposed upon so many of the West.

Matamoros said...

Crowhill said... Vox, what do you think the causal chain is here? I suspect it's not so much the father choosing not to do the dishes as it is the mother joyfully choosing to be a homemaker.

In my case I flat out told her I didn't do dishes, then or forever.

You have to lay out the groundwork and work within that plan. An occasional help if she's really ill, or incapacitated doesn't violate it, and will be appreciated. But then back to the plan when she's well.

Anonymous said...

Be The Almighty Provider. Nothing speaks louder, though dominating her sexually, helps. If you've married an idiot who puts her momentary and possible happiness over the good of your children, you're screwed, no matter how many dishes you do.

RC said...

A guidebook for unhappiness, conflict, and the destruction of civilization all in one article.

RC said...

Against my better judgment I pulled the paper (which hasn't even been published yet by the way.) It was actually a slightly interesting paper as far as it went with flaws, several of which were addressed. Bottom line: the father's views and actions impacted daughter's views on traditional roles while, interestingly, sons were much less impacted. The more work-oriented a father, the higher the child's acceptance of the "gender distribution of domestic labor." The paper noted small impact from mothers to children. Fascinating that such observations were made. It'll be interesting to see if it's ever published.

Moving on to VD's point regarding grandchildren, previous studies have shown a strong correlation between higher male domestic involvement and lower sexual activity.

No matter the feminization of the culture, the truth still bears witness. Truth: it must burn.

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