Saturday, March 5, 2011

The socio-sexual hierarchy

I have a great deal of respect for Roissy, the various contributors at the Chateau, and many of the other theoreticians and practitioners of Game. However, I think the stark division of men into successful alphas and unsuccessful betas is too simplistic and reflects an artificial limitation on the broad applicability of Game beyond the sexual imperative. The inutility of the binary division should be obvious, since even those who subscribe to it tend to subdivide the categories into Greater and Lesser Alphas and High and Low Betas, while some also add the Omega category.

When we examine any conventional human social circle, we reliably observe a broader range of distinctly identifiable social archetypes that go well beyond mere sexual activity. And it is based on these observations that I have expanded the Alpha-Beta division into a hierarchy that covers the broad spectrum of socio-sexuality.

Alpha: The alpha is the tall, good-looking guy who is the center of both male and female attention. The classic star of the football team who is dating the prettiest cheerleader. The successful business executive with the beautiful, stylish, blonde, size zero wife. All the women are attracted to him, while all the men want to be him, or at least be his friend. At a social gathering like a party, he's usually the loud, charismatic guy telling self-flattering stories to a group of attractive women who are listening with interest. However, alphas are only interested in women to the extent that they exist for the alpha's gratification, physical and psychological, they are actually more concerned with their overall group status.

Lifetime sexual partners = 4x average+.

Beta: Betas are the good-looking guys who aren't as uniformly attractive or socially dominant as the Alpha, but are nevertheless confident, attractive to women, and do well with them. At the party, they are the loud guy's friends who showed up with the alcohol and who are flirting with the tier one women and cheerfully pairing up with the tier two women. Betas tend to genuinely like women and view them in a somewhat optimistic manner, but they don't have a lot of illusions about them either. Betas tend to be happy, secure in themselves, and are up for anything their alpha wants to do. When they marry, it is not infrequently to a woman who was one of the alpha's former girlfriends.

Lifetime sexual partners = 2-3x average.

Delta: The normal guy. Deltas are the great majority of men. They can't attract the most attractive women, so they usually aim for the second-tier women with very limited success, and stubbornly resist paying attention to all of the third-tier women who are comfortably in their league. This is ironic, because deltas would almost always be happier with their closest female equivalents. When a delta does manage to land a second-tier woman, he is constantly afraid that she will lose interest in him and will, not infrequently, drive her into the very loss of interest he fears by his non-stop dancing of attendance upon her. In a social setting, the deltas are the men clustered together in groups, each of them making an occasional foray towards various small gaggles of women before beating a hasty retreat when direct eye contact and engaged responses are not forthcoming. Deltas tend to put the female sex on pedestals and have overly optimistic expectations of them; if a man rhapsodizes about his better half or is an inveterate White Knight, he is almost certainly a delta. Deltas like women, but find them mysterious, confusing, and are sometimes secretly a little afraid of them.

Lifetime sexual partners = 1-1.5x average

Gamma: The introspective, the unusual, the unattractive, and all too often the bitter. Gammas are often intelligent, usually unsuccessful with women, and not uncommonly all but invisible to them, the gamma alternates between placing women on pedestals and hating the entire sex. This mostly depends upon whether an attractive woman happened to notice his existence or not that day. Too introspective for their own good, gammas are the men who obsess over individual women for extended periods of time and supply the ranks of stalkers, psycho-jealous ex-boyfriends, and the authors of excruciatingly romantic rhyming doggerel. In the unlikely event they are at the party, they are probably in the corner muttering darkly about the behavior of everyone else there... sometimes to themselves. Gammas tend to have have a worship/hate relationship with women, the current direction of which is directly tied to their present situation. However, they are sexual rejects, not social rejects.

Lifetime voluntary sexual partners = .5x average

Omega: The truly unfortunate. Omegas are the social losers who were never in the game. Sometimes creepy, sometimes damaged, often clueless, and always undesirable. They're not at the party. It would never have crossed anyone's mind to invite them in the first place. Omegas are either totally indifferent to women or hate them with a borderline homicidal fury.

Lifetime sexual partners < 2

Sigma: The outsider who doesn't play the social game and manage to win at it anyhow. The sigma is hated by alphas because sigmas are the only men who don't accept or at least acknowledge, however grudgingly, their social dominance. (NB: Alphas absolutely hate to be laughed at and a sigma can often enrage an alpha by doing nothing more than smiling at him.) Everyone else is vaguely confused by them. In a social situation, the sigma is the man who stops in briefly to say hello to a few friends accompanied by a Tier 1 girl that no one has ever seen before. Sigmas like women, but tend to be contemptuous of them. They are usually considered to be strange. Gammas often like to think they are sigmas, failing to understand that sigmas are not social rejects, they are at the top of the social hierarchy despite their refusal to play by its rules.

Lifetime sexual partners = 4x average+.

Lambda: Those men who have quite literally no interest in conventional male-female sexual relations. They clearly have their own hierarchy of sorts, but I can't say that I know much about it other than it appears to somehow involve youth, free weights, and mustaches.

Lifetime sexual partners = 10x average+

Now, it is important to keep in mind that it serves absolutely no purpose to identify yourself in some manner that you think is "better" or higher up the hierarchy. No one cares what you think you are and your opinion about your place in the social hierarchy is probably the opinion that matters least. There is no good or bad here, there is only what happens to be observable in social interaction. Consider: alphas seemingly rule the roost and yet they live in a world of constant conflict and status testing. Sigmas usually acquired their outsider status the hard way; one seldom becomes immune to the social hierarchy by virtue of mass popularity in one's childhood. Betas... okay, betas actually have it pretty good. But the important thing to keep in mind is that you can't improve your chances of success in the social game if you begin by attempting to deceive yourself as to where you stand vis-a-vis everyone else around you.


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Mike Bender said...

Wake up. You know people who write material like this, you've seen 'em on tv. They gobble, digest, and reguritate dogma like frothing rabid animals. Most folks eat this yes/no thinking up. Hey, it's what we're taught in school. So, boys and girls, push those basic interferons to the rear for a while and get your KAPPA on. Yes, that's right, it's your genetic right as a primate to cogitate, contemplate, and MOVE!

Latebloom789 said...

Spot on for cayto nova...same here...

Anyway, there will always be some people who will gravitate to this kind of mental cookie cutter type...its not for everyone, but like every tool, eventually you hve to let it go too...but it will help others who may not be so self aware. I can see that the rules set up here in this so called game tend to focus on the physical and sexual partner quantity...i understand that...but i also realize that at least for those who do care about the so called social theories such as these...for well, gammas, its kinda like we were either bookish or just focused too much on our hobbies or school work, or were perhaps late bloomers especially im the so called game. Got my first gf at 27, though i had a lot of dates thrice or hrice a year since 23 but i never really was aware of the signs women show attraction. I guess, i really didnt know how i should react if a girl was physically flirting with me, i would somehow just think that their being playful or are not really serious about it...or it just didnt turn me on intellectually...but yeah.

Hmmm about the tiers, they exist to some people though the tiers for women are based on their physical attractiveness... But i think sometimes you find someone who has not kept their tier 2 ness and went to tier 3 or four due to weight...but the whole package, emotional, intellectual, the sustainable chemistry is there...and i was getting turned on just by seeing her enjoy painting or showing off her books, or even up opening up a really trust issue was sexier than our physical sexy times... I guess....i really loved her mind.
But with regards to e tiers, again that was just for the attractiveness level..

For the earlier three year question about SIGMA FEMALES, you can actually remove the genders and just focus on the function of each type. I guess the sigmas can be alphas but could never really care much on the social factor...i guess its just a means for them to do their work or career. The difference i think is to sigmas, the social standing is not e highest priority though they could take those roles, perhpas just not consistently.

Hmm...i was actually looking for a sort of tool to hold on to at least in a way to understand myself. Coz i personally think i dont get some of the unwritten social rules, so i tend to want to improve on it and collect my observations or self made theories to somehow better function.

And for the others who do really sees this as pseudo intellectualism, welll i understand that this may just be a coverup...but not completely, its not a black and white world. And its ok...coz it floats your boat. Hahaha but for others who may not be as self aware, its a tool that helps the,, us, out.

Anonymous said...

Ok, so this was written in 2011 so I bet i won't get an answer, but it's fun to ramble a little. What's up with all this categorizing? Haven't read the rest of this blog, and will probably not even finish this entry, because this all seems like a load of bullshit.

Whatever happened to just treating attractive women like you treat people in general, and just being relaxed and naturally attractive? "Game"? You all seems to have asperger. I read the alpha/beta-part, and it's just classic pseudopsychology to me. Hell, I'm on disability check and my dick is small, but trust me: By just ignoring this shit you can still have whatever you want. Want a nonmonogamist lengthy marriage and all the men and women that you feel like? (Yea, I said men, never underestimate a BJ from someone with a dongpiece of his own)

Then just skip this bullshit, be yourself and make sure that your inner self is someone you actually have managed to like. And when a girl rejects you: Remember there are plenty of other. And porn in worst case.

So long Alfa-Delta-Dudes. Man, calling interaction "game"? How the hell could that make someone successful.

By the way: I'm no "SoccerMom", but I had to use some kinda account. So feel free to check in on my own blog whenever I start it, it's a parody on scientology!

Anonymous said...

OH maaaan, couldn't help reading some of the comments. You 're all such conformists. And I seldom use that word in that way, but dudes...

I bet people get in to this kind of overanalyzing just because they 're stuck in overly conventional manners. Sorry for not reading carefully, but who the hell can keep me from just using this for laughs? And the comments get moderated to feel free to delete this. I'm just baffled by this "game" community. Gamers? Then play video games. Womanizers? Then womanize. Or something else.. like... smuggle shrimps?

Anonymous said...

PS: I'm bullshitting heavily now. I 've read this and find the discussion fascinating. But trolling is even funnier. Hah, long live rock!

Anonymous said...

You forgot to add alphas are usually the most boring. Selfish, conventional, often lacking in critical thinking. and externally oriented.

I've lived as a Sigma and it's been a lot more interesting.

Anonymous said...

What distribution is this? 10x mean, 4x mean, 2.5x mean, and then 2? Is it exponential?

Jules said...

mmm. My feeling is that anyone who obsesses about his attractivity to women is a Slave...
a slave in these modern times to child-like leeches...

Im MGTOW and get the occasional sex through chance meetings. But I focus on my Mission... as David Deida would call it. This should be the focus of all self-respecting men. not women. Women being attracted to you is a nice side effect of success, or being a man of mission (eg a good rock -climber) . But modern women are way to superficial and girly to be any part of a metric to measure a man.

WhiskieWarmachine said...

Forgive my ignorance, I'm new to these ideas and this blog. Is there a way to move up the socio-sexual ladder? If so, how?

Unknown said...

If you were to classify two people and one was an alpha when it came to how men respected them, and the other was the alpha when it came to how women respected them but both were equally as masculine which guy would be the alpha?

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