Monday, February 29, 2016

A Portrait in Alpha

Ironically, both primitive tribesmen in Papua New Guinea and anthropologists appear to understand the true art of Alpha better than most men in the civilized West today. I came across this in book I was reading today:
The New Guinea Big Man, for example, gains his status primarily as an organiser of feasts and dances in which his own group competes with others, and as a public orator on such occasions. He attracts followers by his force of personality and his political skills as an organiser and diplomat in dealings with other groups, and can certainly behave despotically to those at the bottom of society, the ‘rubbish-men’. But while he obviously enjoys his status, he is accepted and regarded as a legitimate leader because he is seen as an essential asset by his group of followers, and in my experience tends to be gracious and polite.
It's not about being a bully. It's first and foremost about being an asset to his subordinates and being a man they want to follow. Everything else flows from that.

It is interesting to note that even primitive societies have developed the concept of the Omega as well.

Sunday, February 28, 2016

Even one freaking room is too much

An attempt to shame men from their man-caves:
What differentiates the man cave from these more traditional male spaces is that workshops and studies are designed to accommodate a particular, elevating interest. These rooms are only isolated inasmuch as the activities proper to them are best pursued without distraction. With the man cave, however, the isolation from the family—the escape—is the primary purpose of the space. The man cave, therefore, is the image of the traditional male space without its substance.

Of course, a workshop or study could become an escape—a place to hide from family duties or to indulge selfish habits. But this would be a misuse, or abuse, of a space set aside for humane recreations. By contrast, the man cave by its very name announces that it is for me. Whatever happens in the room is merely an artifact of my desires and my personality.

The implication is that the rest of the house—the joint bedroom and the nice kitchen and the kids’ messy quarters and the other TV room—cannot adequately serve me and my precious individuality. (Women, apparently, are not such fragile snowflakes that they need their own room to express themselves. After all, she has the kitchen, right?) Worse, the man cave implies antagonism between the father’s masculine identity and his family identity and duties.
This isn't about selfishness or narcissism, it's about men being able to escape from the constant assault of everyone else's demands on them. It is more than wearisome, it is soul-killing to have a constant barrage of interactions that revolve around one-way financial transactions. And the reality is that there is antagonism between a father's masculine identity and a feminized society's expectation that he is on call to play Mr. Mom 24-7 that exists regardless of whether a man has a place to escape it or not.

Man caves should be celebrated and respected. Because the alternative is man flight.

Saturday, February 27, 2016

In defense of arranged marriages

It has to be devastating for a parent when a headstrong daughter, intoxicated with being at the peak of her attractiveness, chooses the call of the wild over a high-quality young man who is willing to marry her:
The last time I sat across a kitchen table from a heartbroken teenage boy, I was just a girl myself, and I was the one doing the heart-breaking. Thirty years on, I find myself in the same situation – only this time the distraught boy in question is in love with my 18-year-old daughter Katie, who has decided she doesn’t want to be with him any more.

Over the last year, I’ve grown to love this boy – who sits before me now with his head in his hands, looking for advice as to how to win her back – as a son. My husband feels the same way. Alex, also 18, is kind, hard-working, respectful and good-looking. He adores our daughter and wants to keep her happy and safe.

What more could you want for your girl? But for Katie, what he offers isn’t enough. Safe is for later. For now she wants excitement and freedom. However much we adore him, for her he isn’t ‘The One’.
And if Katie's parents are wise in the ways of the world, they know perfectly well that there is a good chance that they'll be consoling her when she's 28, and quite possibly when she's 38 and 48, crying over the fact that she was too stupid and short-sighted to cash in her chips when she had the chance.

I do find it both amusing and sad that nearly every girl I know who wanted to chase excitement and freedom in their early 20s rather than settle down with the boyfriend they had at the time ended up either a) alone and barren, b) a single mother of a single child, or c) married to a man who is of distinctly lower quality than their ex-boyfriend.

I can admittedly think of one exception; a pretty woman who kept herself in shape, married even better than she would have before, and has more than one child. But only one.

Friday, February 26, 2016

Live bold

This is absolutely true. Women, even more than men, admire courage. They are attracted to fearlessness; that's why so many teenage boys kill themselves performing stupid stunts: to impress the girls.

You can spit in a girl's face and she will still be attracted to you. You can call her terrible vulgar names and she will still be attracted to you. You can even beat her up repeatedly and she will still be attracted to you.

You can be a complete psychopath, murder your parents, or tattoo a swastika into your forehead, and more than a few women will actually find that attractive.

But show her that you are a conflict-avoidant coward, particularly in a social situation, and she will recoil from you as if you were a green mamba with a scorpion's tail.

And it doesn't matter if you try to conceal your cowardice by calling it "being a gentleman" or "waiting for the right moment" or "not feeling like it". A man being a pussy is like a woman being 150 pounds overweight to a man. It's not something you can overcome.

So don't be a pussy.

Thursday, February 25, 2016

Portraits in Gamma

Notice how predictable the behavior of this Gamma fan of Matt Walsh's is. First he leaps into a conversation that does not involve him and says more than he means to before trying to backtrack without admitting he was wrong. Then, when pressed, he starts posturing and trying to pretend that he is enjoying the situation.

This fools absolutely no one, of course. I did not bother to copy the many tweets by people laughing at the Gamma's attempts to strike a superior pose. It's as if they all go to the same school of Gamma from which John Scalzi graduated.
Supreme Dark Lord @voxday
@mattwalshblog You sneer at Trump's supporters. Trump tells them he loves them and wants them to be great. That is why you lose.

Paul Foeller @pfoeller
I'm not sneering at all. I'm echoing the sentiment that Trump supporters are all surface - and you're proving it.

Supreme Dark Lord @voxday
You claim to be better than Trump's supporters, but you're not sneering?

Paul Foeller @pfoeller
I'm more policy-focused, yes. Do you disagree?

Supreme Dark Lord @voxday
I know nothing about you. The point is that you have publicly claimed to be better than all Trump supporters.

Paul Foeller @pfoeller
I don't think I'm better. I think my views make more sense. There is a massive difference between the two.

Supreme Dark Lord @voxday
You said Trump's supporters are all more superficial than you are. So, is being superficial a virtue or a vice?

Paul Foeller @pfoeller
Again, I've not done so. In fact, I've explicitly stated exactly the opposite. Do try to keep up?

Supreme Dark Lord @voxday
So, you're saying that you are inferior to all of Trump's supporters because you are less superficial?

Paul Foeller @pfoeller
No. Your insistence on defining your opponents as either superior or inferior is not a trait we share.

Supreme Dark Lord @voxday
You have claimed to be less superficial. Is that akin to "less intelligent" or "less corrupt"?

Paul Foeller @pfoeller
It's neither. It's a point of contention in all things, and is defined as positive or negative by circumstance.

Supreme Dark Lord @voxday
You did not say "more wrong", you said "more superficial". Stop weaseling and try owning your words.

Paul Foeller @pfoeller
I'm nor weaseling out of anything. My belief that someone is wrong is not a belief in their inferiority

Paul Foeller @pfoeller
In that they all refer to a lower amount of something - yes. In that any of them imply superiority - no

Supreme Dark Lord @voxday
You're wrong. You're dishonest. You're also a weasel, a coward, and my intellectual inferior.

Paul Foeller @pfoeller
lol. You're seriously adorable. Like when my puppy barks at the pitbull down the street.

Supreme Dark Lord @voxday
And now the Gamma male posturing portion of the evening.... Look, it's not my fault you're cowardly.

Paul Foeller @pfoeller
You're the one running from an actual debate, and I'm the coward? Lol so adorable.

Supreme Dark Lord @voxday
Yes, you are a coward. And a weasel. I don't debate the observably dishonest.

Paul Foeller @pfoeller
I can't help it that I find it adorable when a bunch of lonely pathetic racist losers act all tough.

Supreme Dark Lord @voxday
G-g-gamma. Lolipop, John Scalzi patented your gamma posturing act a decade ago. You owe him royalties.
If you want people to take you seriously, you first have to take yourself seriously. Honesty starts with one's self. If you do or say something that is called into question, then either stand by it or admit you were wrong. But attempting to split the difference by denying that you did what you observably did, then striking a pose on the basis of the person calling you out being unable to follow your self-servingly sophisticated self-interpretations, only shows everyone that you are a cowardly weasel.

Dishonesty is the heart of Gamma. And to follow the main course with dessert, consider the Gamma's eventual reaction:
You are blocked from following @pfoeller and viewing @pfoeller's Tweets.
I guess it wasn't so adorable after all. What a surprise. And I still have absolutely no idea who this person is or why he jumped in and started tweeting at me in the first place. But we do know that he is right about his wife's taste in men being flawed.

Wednesday, February 24, 2016

Bow before hypergamy

It doesn't matter what the narrative logic demands. For women, the fairy tale demands that the cute guy gets the girl, not the loser gamma:
Howard Deutch and John Hughes thought they had "Pretty in Pink" all tied up at one point. The director and writer/producer, respectively, shot the ending, finished the final edit and rolled out a version for feedback.

Much to their surprise, audiences actually really disliked the film's ending, to put it mildly.

“The ending didn’t work in the test screening … That shocked everyone because the architecture of the story was that love endures and overcomes everything,” Deutch told The Huffington Post about the original ending, where Phil "Duckie" Dale (Jon Cryer) and Andie Walsh (Molly Ringwald) end up together.

“The girls in the test screening didn’t go for that. They didn’t care about the politics; they wanted her to get the cute boy. And that was it. So we had to reshoot the ending," Deutch said.
Forget love. Girls want cute. The mistake that Hughes made - to the extent it can be called a mistake given how successful the movie was - is that if Duckie was going to get Andie, he needed to up his socio-sexual status.

Tuesday, February 23, 2016

Evaluation by who you attract

Physical appearance is a big part of your ranking in the sexual market and consists of three parts: physique, clothing/accessories, and how you carry yourself.

If you ever wonder where you currently rank in the physical aspect look back at the last few months and recall which women openly hit upon you and then add two to where you’d rank them. For instance if three women in the last two months who you’d rank a four seriously flirted with you without provocation then you rank a six. In particular pay close attention to women who are hitting on you solely based upon your appearance when you’ve hardly said a word, or even nothing.

In general, both men and women want to score two ranks higher than themselves, with Gammas as the delusion exception. People are willing to go out on a limb and even embarrass themselves in front of others to score two ranks higher. This sort of flirtation isn’t based upon cold reasoning of mating material but heartfelt desire and even lustful passion.

If 145 lbs. five foot four inch women of average appearance are consistently giving you the eye, flirting with you, and making open passes, then the good news is that you are likely a seven.

Monday, February 22, 2016

Support the SILENCED kickstarter

Mike Cernovich is making a documentary about the war on free speech:
Things are different than they used to be. We all know the feeling of dread when posting or talking about something controversial, and this dread has silenced us. It’s not censorship. The government isn’t doing it. We are. To ourselves. Across business, education, politics, and entertainment. Many comedians are even refusing to tour college campuses due to the sensibilities of students, and posting one wrong Tweet can get you fired from a job - or worse.

Silenced explores these issues. We are going to talk to everyone, including people in tech, comedy, finance, sociology, psychiatry, clergy and of course the media. We are also going to show both sides of this issue.
I'm backing it. Have a look and consider doing the same.

Sunday, February 21, 2016

Black knight spotting

On the soccer field:
A Cleveland, Ohio teen has been ousted from his co-ed soccer league after months of bizarre stunts that included wearing a cowboy hat during a game and 'giving birth' to a soccer ball on the field.

Garruto's trolling behavior continued over the following weeks; on December 13 he apparently tried a novel way of scoring when he ran into the goal while 'hiding' the ball in his shirt.

On December 17 he went too far in the other direction by removing his shirt altogether after scoring a goal. In that same game he joined the opposing team on their bench and wore a cowboy hat during play.

On January 3, he seemed to get a little too enthusiastic by scoring 14 goals in one game — 11 more than players are allowed to score in North Side Co-Ed matches, it would seem.
I've never heard of a soccer league where a player is only allowed to score three times in a game. I wonder... I wonder why that might be?

Saturday, February 20, 2016

Alpha Mail: mudshark in the making?

A reader is concerned about his daughter's infatuation with a basketball player of mixed race:
My daughter is a junior high cheerleader and has the hots for a mixed boy on the basketball team. I have a problem with this. My main issue is that she will become a target, a mark so to speak for other black males. They will then think they can press up on this white girl.  The Caucasian males will depart from her quickly as she has become a girl who is on the other side.

I'm not hip with it. I'm really unsure how to right what I perceive to be a wrong. I know that you've proven that segregation happens naturally, and I agreed up until now. Any ideas on how to steer  my child in the direction I want without losing her?
First, it's important to talk to girls about racial issues BEFORE their hormones kick in. Fortunately, the reader's daughter is too young to be permitted to date yet and therefore the reader can use that excuse to buy time.

Second, be direct. The Gamma approach of sniping and taking cheapshots with the idea that this will "make your disapproval known" does not work at all. If you're the father, be the father. Lay down the law. Muslim fathers don't hesitate to tell their daughters who they are, and are not, permitted to date, Indian and Asian fathers are very nearly as strict. Jewish parents, mothers especially, are hardly shy about telling their sons they want them to marry "a nice Jewish girl".

There is no reason a white father should hesitate to tell his daughters what sort of young men are approved and what sort are not, regardless of what his criteria might be. And he should do so without any fear of "losing her", because in the end, a girl is going to either decide to respect her father's wishes or she is going to follow her hormones. It's always her call... but she can't possibly respect her father's wishes if she doesn't even know what they are. If you're not okay with it, then it is your duty as her father to tell her that you're not okay with it, even if her reaction is to denounce you as a racist, sexist, transphobic bigot while filming herself being urinated on by an African rapper with a sub-80 IQ.

If you don't think fathers influence their daughter's decisions, take one look at Bruce Jenner. Think that just MIGHT have a little something to do with the spectacularly bad decision-making of the girls he helped raise?

Third, if you are seriously concerned about the situation, take drastic measures. Put her in private school. Move, if necessary. The historic white flight to the suburbs wasn't all about crime.

However, this is an object lesson in what activities a father permits his daughter to pursue. It's not surprising that she is drawn to the basketball players because she is a basketball cheerleader. As The Book of Basketball informs us, it is a black sport and therefore the alphas in that world are predominantly black. Girls always go for the alphas of their acquaintance; the girls who played tennis all dated tennis players, the skiiers dated skiiers, the swimmers dated swimmers, and the girls who played soccer mostly dated soccer players.

If you don't want your daughter to mudshark, then don't encourage her to get involved in activities and sports that are dominated by black culture, particularly in her sexually formative years. Get her involved in gymnastics or tennis or skiing or swimming.

Regardless, it's better to risk a few tears and tantrums now than have to write her a letter like this father in ten years.

Friday, February 19, 2016

Keep your phone to yourself unless asked

You know that totally cool and awesome picture, video, or website that you are so excited about and just can’t wait for someone to see regardless of their interest. Well, thing not to do with it is open it up and shove it about 8 inches in front of someone’s nose, get all giddy about it, and then wait for a response.

It is low rank thinking to expect that people will appreciate you because you showed them a cool thing on your phone without asking. If you do this to a girl you are trying to impress it is doomed for failure. “She’ll like me more because I shoved my phone in her face and made her watch a video I really like!” is not only stupid but counterproductive.

Besides, what are the actual odds that the cool YouTube video you can’t wait to show hasn’t been seen by the person countless times? Even if they haven’t seen it, did they ask to see it?

If someone expresses interest in seeing something you mention then by all means show them, but otherwise keep your phone to yourself.

Build to be happy

This is the second part of Mike Cernovich's recent post that I found so significant. It merits closer contemplation:
People do not want to be happy, as becoming happy requires you to take action. Miserable people won’t watch a sunset or volunteer at a soup kitchen, even though those activities are proven to increase happiness. Stressed out people aren’t going to meditate.

People love being “who they are,” as that requires them to take no effort to change. Avoid those people like the plague, as they are diseased of the mind....

Finding happy friends as a man will be a constant challenge. Finding a happy woman is even harder.

The best strategy to find quality people is to become one yourself while ruthlessly cutting out toxic people, users, and manipulators.
As you work to improve yourself, one thing that you will find is that the world can be divided into three groups of people.
  1. Those who are indifferent to you. This is the vast majority of people out there.
  2. Those who will support you. This is, by far, the smallest group.
  3. Those who will attempt to tear you down. This group isn't huge, but it can be alarming to discover who is in it.
It's not just miserable people who will try to prevent you from improving yourself. Your wife or your girlfriend may feel threatened by feeling that you are moving out of her league and try to sabotage you. If you've got a Gamma father, he may belittle your efforts and attempt to make you feel as if your efforts are pointless. If you've got female friends, they may attempt to "put you in your place" or "let the air out of you". Your male acquaintances may even try to physically keep you in your place in the socio-sexual hierarchy to prevent themselves sliding below you.

That's why Cernovich is right to tell you to ruthlessly cut them out of your life. It doesn't matter if they are friends or family, if they can't even manage to be neutral towards your efforts at self-improvement, they have to go. There is a word for someone who actively attempts to hinder your efforts and make your life worse, and that word is enemy.

That's the bad news. The good news is that you will make new and better friends, people who are moving forward themselves. In the same way that gym rats tend to bond, people who are active and alive tend to like each other. I hit it off instantly with Mike; I recognized him as someone who was not content to coast, but was intent on achieving more tomorrow than he had today. It wasn't just interesting to talk about his plans with him, it was energizing.

And people like to be energized. So, if you want to improve your own life, learn how to be supportive of others and boost their energy levels, don't be a vampire and seek to boost your own by draining others.

Thursday, February 18, 2016

The past is a foreign country

Why so many men get terrible advice from their fathers:
A lot of young men today lack role models. Even the shrinking proportion of men with fathers in their lives sometimes witness bad examples or receive poor advice: be yourself, it will just happen, one day a girl will like you as much as you like her, etc. Sometimes the father is silent and forlorn while the mother poisons her son with this garbage.

Why do so many of our fathers have so little sensible advice for us on the issue of love and relationships? The answer isn’t that our fathers, if present, have been emasculated (though they may have been). It isn’t that they are terrified of standing up to their wives (thought that might be a factor). It isn’t that they are fools, nor are they trying to turn us all into forty-year-old virgins who will not burden them with grandchild babysitting duties.

The reason the baby boomer generation has so little to offer us is much simpler: they lack salient life experience. How is it, you might ask, that a man in his fifties or sixties could lack life experience? If he has nothing else, surely he has that. He does, but it is not our life experience. He lived in the past—a foreign country.
This is a tremendously perspicacious article by Nikolai Vladivostok. It reminds me of my father's inability to usefully advise me when I was being regularly picked on in junior high. He would always tell me the story about how he'd had a problem with a big, ugly galoot who was jealous of him and would call him names.

Finally, one day, my Dad agreed with the guy instead of arguing with him, and as a result, they ended up becoming friends.

I didn't bother pointing out that you can't agree with the guy shoving you into a locker, knocking you down, or kicking you in the side and breaking your ribs. Because what my father clearly didn't understand was that the situations were different, and therefore his solution didn't apply to my problem.

The problem was soluble. I was only being picked on by boys who were low in socio-sexual rank who were attempting to prevent themselves from falling into the picked-on category themselves. So, all that was necessary was to make myself a harder target than the next guy. (I was an obvious target due to the fact that I was the youngest and smallest kid in the grade.)

So, I broke the ribs of the next kid who shoved me into a locker, face-planted and bloodied the nose of the next kid who tried to knock me down in the hallway, and broke the nose of the next kid who spit at one of my friends. And just like that, no one picked on me anymore.

And for all that his advice was useless, my Dad backed me up when the school called to complain about my problematic behavior. He told them that I was not the problem and they should be speaking with the parents of the boys who attacked me instead of him.

The past is the past. The present is the present. Deal with today's problems using today's solutions. And if your father is clueless about today's problems, don't be upset or annoyed with him, just be grateful that he wants to help you, even if he can't.

Wednesday, February 17, 2016

Forget innocence

Never having interacted with a woman is no defense against a false rape charge:
An award-winning actress appearing in the upcoming sixth season of Game of Thrones has been outed as the woman who falsely accused Mark Pearson of rape after he walked past her. Souad Faress claimed that Pearson digitally penetrated her, violating her inside her underwear, for several seconds in the middle of Waterloo Station in London.

Despite video evidence showing the male artist had a newspaper in one hand and was holding the strap of his backpack in the other, he was tracked down using his electronic public transportation card and charged. Furthermore, Pearson was in range of sexagenarian Faress’ body, let alone her genitals, for no more than about half a second. In January 2015, police appealed for help (archive) in finding the then 66-year-old’s “attacker”. At this stage, Mr. Pearson’s image began to circulate in the public domain.

Yet it gets worse. Faress, to try and bolster her fraudulent account, said she screamed and no one helped her. CCTV footage conclusively disproved this. To boot, Pearson did not break stride, discrediting her other claim that he smashed into her shoulder. Most shockingly of all, the lying thespian could not even point him out in an “identity parade.” That did not stop the Crown Prosecution Service from prosecuting Pearson until its representatives were rebuked by the judge and a jury quickly exonerated him.
Not all women are absolutely fucking insane, but enough of them are that it behooves a man to limit his interactions with them. And the moment that you detect feminism, SJWsm, or any other form of frothing-mad lunacy, that should be your cue to eject from the situation posthaste.

Tuesday, February 16, 2016

Alpha Mail: Is Donald Trump alpha?

BT has a question:
I'm arguing with someone.  One of the points of contention is that he believes Trump is not an Alpha, because "he whines".

Apparently, according to him, any sort of complaining about your circumstances is whining.

Barring what exactly qualifies as complaining and not instead unpassionate indication, is it correct that Alphas never whine or complain?
It is absolutely false to say that Alphas never whine or complain. In fact, Alphas will whine and complain vociferously any time they feel they are not being appropriately respected if they are not in a position to use intimidation or force.

As to whether Trump is an Alpha or not, that should be obvious given that he is a) married to a beautiful woman, and more importantly, b) a beautiful woman who still tweets pictures of herself in swimsuits to him.

As it happens, I met Donald Trump back in 1988. He is without question an Alpha, although he was not the MegaAlpha, most important man in the room that he is now. At the time, Henry Kissinger was the big man to whom all the women were flocking.

Power trumps both fame and money.

Monday, February 15, 2016

When a Gamma reacts

Confused by Gamma reactions ranging from rage against another to public, outright cruelty?

  1. A Gamma naturally puts himself in other people’s shoes when it comes to conflict and imagines how he would feel. This is true for both reconciliation and conflict. Which is why what he thinks someone should accept as reconciliation is many times out of touch with reality, and he thinks attacks on people’s feelings are much more effective really are. 
  2. A Gamma constantly relives adolescent shame, bullying and emotional issues. He likes nothing better than to publicly shame and mock those who he is angry with (except the girl on the pedestal) to the point of losing sight of any other goal he had in mind. Imagine the awkward boy on the playground being danced around and called names, then how that boy would treat people when he is a man and you will understand how they treat others they are angry with.
  3. He is a coward and will abandon most everything to save his skin, and this fact gnaws on him internally. Being so narcissistic he is unable to imagine other people not being secret cowards so he will regularly talk of being brave and accuse others of being cowardly.
  4. All of this ends up sabotaging relationships for the Gamma including friends, family, coworkers, and even his own children. These bad relationships are not lost on the Gamma and he can feel a deep sense of disgrace about his behavior but cannot admit to being wrong so he is caught in a self-made hell.

Live to avoid "the look"

Mike Cernovich writes one of his most important posts ever. You simply must read it if you want to have a fulfilling and successful life:
I learned how to tell if a man was dead by looking in his eyes. When living in Thailand and Vietnam, you learn how to spot the look.

The look is what an old man gives when a short-haired harpy leads him down the streets of Vietnam. The man glances around to see smiling, feminine women everywhere. He may even see an older man with one of those smiling women.

“What’s taking you so long,” he hears from her shrill voice.

Slowly a realization hits. A man has wasted his life serving an ungrateful nag. He could have had so much more. His soul leaves him.

Men over 40 were lied to. The rest of us have no excuse. Before the Internet, men didn’t know any better. They did what worked for their parents generation – meet a nice girl who will become a great wife and mom, get a job, work hard.

Men borrowed money for college, married well before they hit their prime, went deep into debt to buy a home to please the Mrs., and allowed an entitled woman to dominate his life. If he was lucky, she wouldn’t divorce him and kidnap his children. What he did was never good enough.

Those of you under 30 do not understand what a gift the Internet is.

Before the web young men had no idea what society had planned for them.

Young men had no idea that they’d spend most of the rest of their lives as dead men.
This is the key statement: 90% of men are miserable. 99% of women are miserable.

If you are a man who is part of the 90 percent, work to get yourself in the 10 percent. And then, and only then, should you look to find a woman who is in the one percent.

It's not impossible. There are 35 million women who are not miserable out there. Find one, and don't settle for less.

And if you are one of those 35 million, stop trying to fix the miserable men. Find a man from the 10 percent, and instead of trying to fix him, follow his lead.

Sunday, February 14, 2016

The optimal solution

Don't let either side vote:
One way to look at this dispute is to see this fight as a symptom of a deep-seated feud with roots in feminist theory. But there's also a simpler way to look at it. Some people feel, strongly, that supporting the first woman president is an important feminist act. Others feel, strongly, that supporting the biggest backer of the social safety net is an important feminist act.
I'm not saying that this article about which Democratic candidate is supported by what women, and why, is the most powerful argument against women's suffrage ever penned, but it is certainly a strong one.

It's rather fascinating, though, because at no point is the idea that voting for elected office might be anything other than "an important feminist act" seriously contemplated.

Friday, February 12, 2016

Alpha Mail: Gamma in Popular American Church Worship Music

This analysis of Christian music is a guest post by a reader.

"Heart of Worship" by Michael W. Smith is an extremely common contemporary evangelical Christian praise song. I have heard it sung with regularity by white Anglo Christians on both sides of the Earth. In fact, I'd argue that frequency of this pop hymn is a key classificatory indicator for American evangelicalism.

Listen to a few bars and see whether you don't recognize it. Released in 2001, the song shows no sign of declining in popularity. It's always a crowd pleaser: the congregants slowly swaying with hands uplifted beneath dimmed lights, caught up in deep emotional catharsis.

 It's also entirely gamma. Examine the lyrics below.
When the music fades
All is stripped away
And I simply come
Longing just to bring
Something that's of worth
That will bless Your heart
bring You more than a song
For a song in itself
Is not what You have required
You search much deeper within
Through the way things appear
You're looking into my heart

This song is ostensibly about Jesus. However, the actual narrative focus is solipsistically upon the singer's internal emotional experience. It is a trance induction.

coming back to the heart of worship
And it's all about You,
It's all about You, Jesus

The song is actually all about how sincere the singer is in telling Jesus that the singer's worship is all about Jesus. This is self-refuting.

I'm sorry, Lord, for the thing I've made it
When it's all about You,
It's all about You, Jesus

Well, at least Michael had the decency to include an apology.

King of endless worth
No one could express
How much You deserve
Though I'm weak and poor
All I have is Yours
Every single breath
I'll bring You more than a song
For a song in itself
Is not what You have required
You search much deeper within
Through the way things appear
You're looking into my heart

The focus is squarely on the internal trance induction experience of the singer. Jesus is merely a convenient psychological boyfriend prop.

First the environment is acknowledged, then internal focus is commanded, and the exterior world fades away. Once introspection is firmly established, self-flagellation commences, producing suitable generalized feelings of contrition for nothing in particular. Here the natural gamma insecurity is expressed. This is then followed by cathartic holiness-posturing as the singer is redeemed, basking in the attention paid by a non-judgmental deity to the singer's individual internal state.

Such are the pleasures of the gamma male. Michael even looks gamma.

Should an honest Christian need to wash that foul taste from his mouth, here are some outward-focused, courageous lyrics of praise from another, better era:

"A Mighty Fortress is our God" by Martin Luther
A mighty fortress is our God,
a bulwark never failing;
our helper he amid the flood
of mortal ills prevailing.
For still our ancient foe
doth seek to work us woe;
his craft and power are great,
and armed with cruel hate,
on earth is not his equal.

Did we in our own strength confide,
our striving would be losing,
were not the right man on our side,
the man of God's own choosing.
Dost ask who that may be?
Christ Jesus, it is he;
Lord Sabaoth, his name,
from age to age the same,
and he must win the battle.

And though this world, with devils filled,
should threaten to undo us,
we will not fear, for God hath willed
his truth to triumph through us.
The Prince of Darkness grim,
we tremble not for him;
his rage we can endure,
for lo, his doom is sure;
one little word shall fell him.

That word above all earthly powers,
no thanks to them, abideth;
the Spirit and the gifts are ours,
thru him who with us sideth.
Let goods and kindred go,
this mortal life also;
the body they may kill;
God's truth abideth still;
his kingdom is forever.

This song offers far fewer opportunities for "praise 'n worship" leaders to glory in the power of their charismatic prowess as they bare their perfectly attuned souls to the audience. However, it does actually praise God rather than the celebrant.

Thursday, February 11, 2016

Yes, she will look like her mother

Keep that in mind. ALWAYS keep that in mind.

Proof every woman turns into her mother: We all suspect it. But in this fascinating picture experiment, five mums and daughters face the disconcerting truth.

My Dad always used to tell me that. And based on what I've seen over time, he was pretty much right. Regardless, to see it demonstrated graphically is almost creepy.

Wednesday, February 10, 2016

Equality cometh

Women wanted equality, so now they're going to be forced to serve involuntarily and be shot dead just like men:
The Army and Marine Corps' top uniformed leaders both backed making women register for the draft as all combat roles are opened to them in coming months, a sweeping social change that could complicate the military’s gender integration plans.

Both services, along with the Navy, have begun work to open all military jobs to any service member after a decision by Defense Secretary Ash Carter in December to lift all gender-based restrictions on combat and infantry roles.

On Tuesday, Army Chief of Staff Gen. Mark Milley and Marine Corps Commandant Gen. Robert Neller told senators during a Capitol Hill hearing that full integration of those jobs will likely take a few years, to overcome logistical and cultural issues.

One of those complications will be how to handle the Selective Service System, which requires all men ages 18 to 26 to register for possible involuntary military service.

Women have always been exempt, and past legal challenges have pointed to the battlefield restrictions placed on them. With that reasoning moot, lawmakers will need to determine what becomes of the system.

Navy Secretary Ray Mabus Jr. said there needs to be “a national debate” over what the changes mean, balancing social concerns over the idea of drafting women with the reality of national security and military readiness.

But the uniform leaders were more blunt in their assessment.

“It's my personal view in light of integration that every American physically qualified should register for the draft,” Neller said. Milley echoed those remarks, saying “all eligible men and women” should be required to register.
I think it's a fantastic idea that is long overdue. As long as men have to serve, women have to serve. And the same proportion of women should be put in front-line combat units and the special forces too. We can't have inequality, after all. Inequality is evil.

Since sexual equality makes everything better, drafting women and putting them into combat can only improve the U.S. military.

Tuesday, February 9, 2016

Preemptive legal self-defense

Mike Cernovich explains how a Gorilla Mindset, combined with a Elephant's filing system, can help men defeat false rape accusations:
If you doubt that we live in a culture of false rape culture, consider this article by SJW “journalist” Jesse Brown. In “Why Did Jian Ghomeshi Keep Lucy DeCoutere’s Letter?” Brown accuses Ghomeshi of wrongdoing for saving letters, emails, and texts from women he had sex with.

    Jian Ghomeshi kept Lucy DeCoutere’s handwritten letter to him for 13 years. She was never his girlfriend. They never had sex. Given what we heard at trial last week, it’s hard to imagine he was carrying a flame for her. So, why did he hold on to it for over a decade?

Yes, why would a famous man save letters from women…Oh wait, Ghomeshi is on trial for rape and those letters and texts are saving his life.

Are you seeing what the game is? A woman who claims you raped her must be believed, no matter what.

    The materials he had were threatening enough to keep most women from going to the police. That threat was realized last week in the cross-examination of Lucy DeCoutere. One of my initial sources wrote to me that what Lucy DeCoutere endured on the stand made her feel relieved that she spoke to the media and not to the police.

Save text messages and photographs. “Journalists” may later criticize you, but at least you’ll stay out of prison.
Save all those old love letters and lingerie pictures, even if your wife or girlfriend don't like them. Just seal them up and store them in a box somewhere. You never know when you'll need them, especially in a system that is so stacked against men that even holding on to exculpatory evidence is dishonestly spun as an indication of guilt.

Monday, February 8, 2016

Fear of being ordinary Part I

While men of all stripes engage in self destructive behavior a Gamma practices a consistent and weird dishonesty about himself which hampers every aspect of his life. Why lie about yourself when there’s no benefit and it is unneeded? Discerning the origin and purpose of this self-deception has perplexed me for some time but I think that I now found the answer.

Imagine walking through a museum and looking at all of the old photographs of the men. In the past there were men of all ranks like today but specifically think of the common man, the Delta. In those old black and white photos from a hundred or more years ago you might wonder, who are these guys? What did they do? They aren’t famous, and even finding out the names of many of them might be difficult or impossible. If you have access to old photo albums from your family you’ll likely see some male relatives you’ve never seen or thought much about, but they lived, many raised families, and all had one thing in common. They died.

Everyone reading this blog today and of course the author himself is destined to die. Being able to deal with the impending death of oneself is part of the maturity of manhood. Every rank besides Gammas generally comes to grips with this, even Omegas. Once again Band of Brothers is a perfect example of the Deltas dealing with death, the fear of death, but doing what they need to do. In the episode “Carentan” Private Albert Blithe is shown overcoming his very real fear and getting out of a foxhole, fighting, and killing. Joining the military and facing death head on is one of the chief ways men have proven their courage throughout history.

Gammas don’t get out of that foxhole unless they graduate into Deltas in the moment. In fact Gammas generally position themselves in the military far behind enemy lines if they can manage it. They are natural cowards despite their blustery talk which is why they immediately back down when threatened with any real physical violence. Deltas aren’t naturally brave, but can be when called upon each according to his ability. That’s why a Delta will get punched by an Alpha, but the Gamma rarely even takes a punch as they flee or appeal to authority at first opportunity.

When a Gamma is sick with a mild cough they will let everyone know about it and make a big show of it. If a Gamma contracts a serious illness there’s certainly no stoicism involved, but you will notice they act like they are the first person in history with the illness and want to talk to everyone about. They will try to include everyone around them into their illness to ramp up the magnitude of it, like it’s a near national emergency that some random guy is sick. A Gamma can’t be just an ordinary guy with an illness, but rather a special guy who requires more attention, care, and involvement from those around him.

If someone else is sick, particularly if it is serious, they might obsess over the illness as they subconsciously imagine themselves being in that same state. You’ll also see that all illness discussions focus around death and generally lead to death. For example if you come in with a bad cough the Gamma doesn’t offer words of encouragement, but rather will either relate a story about them coughing, or tell of someone they vaguely knew who thought they had a cough but found out it was a fatal condition, dying just weeks or months later. This is one of the most annoying traits of the Gamma, in which if you mention an illness they don’t listen at all, but immediately give you an information dump on the illness in which the result is inevitably fatal.

If a Gammas has psychological problems like depression or Imposter Syndrome they will try to involve as many people into it as possible. It becomes their “thing” in which they use to be special and demand those around them treat them in special ways, or become special because of it. I’ve been around real mental illness with a family member and normal people want to try to get cured even if the desire is imperfect, not turn it into a group discussion or use it to be special.

If someone they know dies young, particularly of an illness they might obsess about it, or show nonchalant disregard about it because of their inability to deal with it at all. If a Gamma loses a parent when he’s an adult he acts like he’s the first adult child to ever lose a parent. Many men have lost loved ones and written about their experiences, but the Gamma doesn’t do it to honor those who have died, express grief, or even write to others with words of encouragement, but is narcissistic and turns the death of another into something special about the Gamma.

Sunday, February 7, 2016

RooshV rapes media narrative

And you can watch in living color. Warning: not for the faint of heart or the SJW:

This was hugely significant. The hate campaign is now out of fuel after the media attack narrative was obliterated by his public counterattack. What Roosh has done here is create an effective template for dealing with any SJW-inspired media swarm.

Don't back down. Don't apologize. Don't hide. Call them out and expose them for the hypocrites and liars that they are.

Friday, February 5, 2016

"Women must obey men"

As the sainted migrants have declared this to be the case, we should respect their rape culture, right?
HORRIFIC footage has emerged of a group of young men, including five migrants, laughing, dancing and singing in Arabic as they gang rape an unconscious 17-year-old girl.

It is believed the attack happened after the girl passed out after drinking at a party.

One of the rapists later told police: "She can't complain. Women must obey men."

The shocking assault happened in November but was only discovered this week by a teacher at a school in Ostend, Belgium.
Yeah, this is going to end well. When the wrong father's daughter gets raped, the blood is going to be running in the streets.

Thursday, February 4, 2016

SJW convergence in the NFL

Roger Goodell is determined to kill the goose that lays the golden eggs:
On Thursday, NFL commissioner Roger Goodell said that the league is going to expand efforts to get more women into executive positions around the league as well. Speaking at the NFL Women’s Summit, Goodell said that the league will extend the Rooney Rule requirements for interviews with executives to women.

“We have something called the Rooney Rule which requires us to make sure when we have an opening at the team level or the league level that we are going to interview a diverse slate of candidates,” Goodell said. “We are going to make a commitment and we’re going to formalize that we as a league are going to do that for women at all of our executive positions.”
What is the logic here? Because black coaches and executives haven't ruined the game, that means women won't either? What about Chinese people? What about pygmies? What about Eskimos? For the love of Vince Lombardi, what about mentally handicapped left-handed lesbians in wheelchairs?

SJWs aren't just parasites, they're idiot parasites who have no idea why the institutions they invade are successful.

This should be a fascinating test of the Sports Guys mantra that Women Ruin Everything.

Feb 6 meetups cancelled

Mike Cernovich passes on word that the meetups called by Roosh have been cancelled:
The entire media and political system attacked Roosh and ROK. (To its credit, Reason magazine issued a defense of Roosh’s free speech rights.)

Even Republicans bought into the false media narrative, with Republicuck Texas Governor Greg Abbott issuing a formal statement that sounds like it was written by an SJW.

The meet-ups were cancelled after violent mob action was threatened.

There’s a reason I emphasize self-reliance in my writing. The entire system is rigged against you.

The mob hates us. The media will lie about us.

You saw this happen in real-time. You simply cannot believe anything coming out of the mainstream media.
The deck is stacked. So don't expect fair play. Expect to win anyhow.

Wednesday, February 3, 2016

Avoding the anti-male SJWs

Roosh explains how to meetup on February 6th without running into aggressive anti-male SJWs looking to disrupt it.
I’ve gotten reports of over a dozen organized protests at our meeting points. Dozens more are being organized privately. Since this meetup was never intended as a confrontation with unattractive women and their enablers, I’m moving to save as many of these meetups as I can before Saturday so that men can still meet in private away from a loud, obnoxious, dishonest, and potentially violent mob.

If you take a look at the full listing page, you’ll see that some meetups have had their location removed and have instead been replaced with an email address or two to contact. If you want to attend one of the newly private meetups, send an email to the address(es) proving that you’re one of us. These are the three ways that you’ll be about to do that:
  • If you’ve left a non-hater comment on ROK or using your Disqus account before January 15.
  • If you have an active account on RVF that is at least three months old.
  • If you can provide a screenshot receipt of one of my books (Amazon, iTunes, Kobo, Paypal, etc) that was purchased before January 15.
The more viciously they fight us, the more it becomes obvious that they fear us.

Tuesday, February 2, 2016

Boobs or Intelligence?

Dr. Helen asks whether men really prefer intelligence to big breasts:
A new study shows men prefer intelligence in women to breasts. Here is the article from the scientific People magazine entitled "A Weight Off of Women's Chests: New Research Shows Men Prefer Intelligence to Breasts" (via Ironshrink) :

    Yup, that's the sound of cynical women everywhere breathing a long sigh of relief.

    A woman's intelligence is considered far more attractive to a man than her breast size, according to University of Cambridge professor David Bainbridge, who researches evolutionary biology.

    Intelligence, Bainbridge asserted at last weekend's Hay Festival, shows that a woman is more likely to be a successful parent – which, evolutionarily, is more favorable than huge breasts.

    Pointing to new research, Bainbridge took the claim even further. "Breast size doesn't matter," he told festival-goers, shocking just about every woman who's ever been insecure about her chest. (So ... every woman?) "Actually, large breasts are more likely to be asymmetric, and men are more attracted to symmetry."
Spacebunny, in addition to looking rather fetching in a bikini, is of a scientific turn of mind, and therefore attempted to replicate the study's results. Her findings:
  • 59% Boobs
  • 41% Intelligence
And she's okay with that. Because science. And history.

"Boobs have arguably done more for children and society than all the intelligent women put together."
- Spacebunny

Monday, February 1, 2016

Romance kills sexual attraction

If you want to make sure your wife doesn't want to have sex with you, do something really complicated and sweet for her:
Christian sex experts Pastor Dave and Ann Wilson inadvertently explain how to kill your wife’s attraction in The Art of Marriage:

    Dave:  On May 24, 1990, it was our ten-year anniversary—I sort of surprised Ann with a ten-year anniversary date. We dressed up and went to a really nice restaurant. I sort of set it up with the waiter, while we were having dinner / when I would queue him—sort of give him a look—he was supposed to bring a rose over. So, I queued him early in the dinner—he brought over a rose and laid it on the table. We talked about year one.

    Ann:  He was like a little boy that night—like waiting for the next thing to happen.

    Dave:  Then I looked over later, and he brought another rose. So, anyway, every rose was a year; and we would talk about that year.

    Ann:  He was so sweet—he even planned what he was going to say when each rose arrived.

Little boys are indeed sweet, but they aren’t sexy.  Later that night Dave tried to kiss his wife, and she explained that she no longer had feelings for him.

    Dave: So, I leaned over to kiss Ann. As I leaned over to kiss her in the passenger seat, she sort of pulls away.

    Ann: “Ugggghh!” I was just like, “Honey, I can’t even!” In my head, I was thinking, “I cannot even go there.”

    Dave: So I pulled back, and look at her, and said, “Is something wrong?” She looks at me—and I’ll never forget this—she goes, “Well, yes, there is something wrong.” I am like, “What’s wrong?” And she says, “Well, to be honest with you, I’ve lost my feelings for you.”

Pastor Wilson was an All-American quarterback at Ball State and a leader of men, but by supplicating to his wife he took on the form of a little boy and killed his wife’s attraction for him.
Let's be perfectly clear: a woman is more likely to want to have sex with you if you punch her in the face than if you bring her roses. I'm not saying that means you should punch her in the face, I'm saying you that you should stop thinking that bringing her roses is going to inspire her to want to have sex with you.

One very important thing to keep in mind if you want to stay married is to pay absolutely no attention to professional marriage experts. Their answer is always for the husband to grovel before the woman, which generally works about as well as Dave's little performance with roses did.

And even more important, remember that marriage doesn't turn off the rules of attraction.