Portrait of a modern Delta

How surprising is it to learn that the man in the picture is the second husband of a divorcee. The only real surprise is the fact that both children are his.  Hovering, mate-guarding posture? Check. Wearing the baby-sack? Check. Uncertain facial expression? Check.

And yet, he's a tall, fit, decent-looking man who could, in another universe, be the raw material for an Alpha. He's no Gamma, he's probably got a good life and it's a positive sign that his wife put a picture of her second husband in the article about her divorce. (The reverse is always a very bad sign of an Alpha Widow.)

But it's remarkable how often these things align perfectly with the theory of Game as it has thus far been developed.

The rag is real

And it's not just a joke either. From a paper entitled MENSTRUATION AND AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR IN A CORRECTIONAL CENTER FOR WOMEN

Of all violent crimes committed by women in Paris in a given year, Cooke notes that 84.0% were committed by women who were menstruating. In a New York prison for women, Morton found that of the forty-two inmates convicted for violent crimes, twenty-six commited those crimes during the pre-menstrual week.

This is something to keep in mind in case you're wondering if perhaps it's not the best time to crush a shit test. The science would tend to indicate dialing down the conflict rather than ratcheting it up is wise, considering that women are about 360 percent more inclined to violence at the peak of their cycle than they normally are.

Alpha Mail: Graduating Gamma report

Z fills us in on his progress:

I thought I would report back on how things have fared since I've taken the advice presented in the Graduating Gamma series.

For a while, it was easy to follow the instructions. But you find yourself backsliding often, especially after the first week or two when the enthusiasm wanes. This is going to be a lifelong battle, I think. My uncle is an alcoholic, who struggles with his addiction. I used to find it hard to believe that someone couldn't just change their behavior and walk away from the bottle. But now I understand. It's that way for Gammas, too.

The hardest part is to stop the lying. Gammas are dishonest by nature. In time, you even start to believe the lies yourself. If I can describe being Gamma in as few words as possible, it would be just that: they are addicted to lies that make them feel good. No lie, however small, is safe for the Gamma, just as liquor is not safe for the alcoholic. So this is the hardest thing for me to change.

A few weeks ago I bought a fast car, something that, once upon a time as a child I had wanted to do. It is a car that has a good following among the muscle car crowd here in America. I went to the local car show/meet with my car and hung out with those people. Most of them were Deltas doing their Delta things. They would talk about car parts, engines, paint jobs and other such things. Of course, other car brands were disparaged (that, too, seems to be a Delta thing). It was very much a man's world, and very different from the computer geek crowd I'm more used to. Even the Alphas present were very gracious and welcoming.

I made a conscious effort to keep the lying under control, and represent myself honestly, as a new person interested in learning about the cars and learning about how to work on mine as well. This was a key point in Graduating Gamma 2. I wasn't entirely successful in the former. Old habits die hard, and some small lies came out before I could stop them (it is a common Gamma failing to speak before you think).

But it was much improved from before. And, I think, a small amount of BSing is considered normal at such an event. That's not an excuse -- I must do better next time -- but it is also true. I had a lot of fun, socializing with the Deltas. Truly, if you approach things from a humble angle, they will welcome you as one of their own. The Alphas and Betas will welcome you, too. They added me to their group, gave me a membership sticker for my car, and made sure to tell me I was welcome at next month's meet. My neighbor, who is also a member, helped me work on my car a few days ago, and taught me some things about it.

That got a little bit off track, but my point is that escaping your Gamma tendencies is neither simple, nor quick, but it is rewarding. I don't know if what I did will work for other Gammas or not. But I found that picking up a masculine hobby was helpful. And truly, when I was young, this was something I wanted to do. I'm not sure when I lost track of that, or why.

But drinking beer at the local dive, hood open in the parking lot, talking about muscle cars, was more therapeutic for me than anything I've ever done before. Please convey my thanks to the original author, and accept my own appreciation.

This is exactly the sort of thing I like to see. The information here is practical. Use it. Social hierarchies are dynamic and you don't have to remain what you are for the rest of your life. Every day, take a small step towards self-improvement.

By this time next year, you might be shocked to look back and discover how far you have come. Go to the gym. Bite your tongue on the lie. Ask out the girl. But above all, get in the game.

Confidence

I am increasingly convinced that the male-female communications divide is essentially similar to the dialectic-rhetoric divide.

Half as attractive

Being fat cuts down male interest by at least 50 percent:

I’ve never bought into the lie, popular with some elements of the media, that everything will be better when you’re thin. But, as a single woman trying everything I can to increase my chances of finding The One, I was interested to see how much of an issue size is for single men.

So, to find out if men like fat women, I created two identical online dating profiles of me size 18 and size ten to find out.The rest of the profile details were the same for both. In the ‘photos’ sections, I put up a range of head shots and body shots of classic ‘thin’ me and classic ‘fat’ me.

THE RESULTS

Over the course of five days, 'fat' Yvette received 18 messages, 74 likes and 81 visits. Thin me received more than double the attention – 36 messages, 211 likes and 210 visits.

There was nothing dramatically different in the content of the messages – some men just sent a ‘hi’, some wrote essays, some tried one-liners and others just opted for old-fashioned compliments. And there was little difference in the physical attractiveness of the men messaging – they were a range of ages, shapes and sizes.

But it can’t be denied that, if the guys of OKCupid are anything to go by, single men prefer thinner women twice as much.

I say "at least" 50 percent because Yvette wasn't actually thin, she was merely less fat. Based on the fairly low number of messages "Thin Yvette" received, I would estimate that if she had actually been a thin and attractive woman, going up to a size 18 would have cut male interest in her by 95 percent.

The end of marriage is the end of civilization

And feminism is killing both:

What exactly does marriage offer men today? “Men know there’s a good chance they’ll lose their friends, their respect, their space, their sex life, their money and — if it all goes wrong — their family,” says Helen Smith, Ph.D., author of "Men on Strike." “They don’t want to enter into a legal contract with someone who could effectively take half their savings, pension and property when the honeymoon period is over.Men aren’t wimping out by staying unmarried or being commitment phobes. They’re being smart.”

Unlike women, men lose all power after they say “I do.” Their masculinity dies, too.

What’s left of it, that is. In the span of just a few decades, America has demoted men from respected providers and protectors of the family to superfluous buffoons. Today’s sitcoms and commercials routinely paint a portrait of the idiot husband whose wife is smarter and more capable than he.

There was a time when wives respected their husbands. There was a time when wives took care of their husbands as they expected their husbands to take care of them.

Or perhaps therein lies the rub. If women no longer expect or even want men to “take care of” them — since women can do everything men can do and better, thank you very much, feminism — perhaps the flipside is the assumption that women don’t need to take care of husbands, either. And if no one’s taking care of anyone, why the hell marry?

The reason to marry is that civilization requires it. The tragic thing is that most men are going to avoid marriage when the problem could be easily solved by men refusing to comply with the divorce process. But today's men don't have the courage or the willingness to sacrifice themselves in the interests of their nations, let alone an abstract concept like civilization. Hence the declining male interest in marriage.

It's all about the incentives. If the penalty for attempted divorce-rape was death, few women would even think to try it. Whereas the penalty for marriage is about a one-in-six chance of divorce-rape, which is enough to dissuade many a man from marriage, or at the very least, delay his decision to pursue it.

Sex disparity explained

 

The fact is we don't need more women in STEM fields. We need more women in the vital home economic fields of wife, mother, and homemaker.